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Re: To Publicduende: Photos of my dates/female companions in Washington to prove you WRONG!

Post by Zambales » August 9th, 2018, 8:52 pm

publicduende wrote:
August 9th, 2018, 3:00 pm
Winston wrote:
August 9th, 2018, 2:13 pm
@Contrarian Expatriate
Isnt it funny how PD says you cant judge him because you dont know anything about him. Yet he claims to know me better than i know myself and thinks he knows me very well enough to judge me with certainty? Lol

The irony and double standard here is hilarious. Poetic justice is served. Lol
Simple Winston: because, out of narcissism and honesty, you have placed your entire life, outer and inner, online: this forum, blogs, videos. And since, as you yourself proudly claim, you are being yourself, I drew my conclusions (let's not call them "advice") based on them.

I admit it takes a lot of courage to expose oneself like this.
It does take courage and I like his openness although in my opinion discussing his love life and posting photo's of women he's met for all to see could have an adverse effect for him later on - if it hasn't already. The internet can be a small place if one doesn't remain anonymous.




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Re: To Publicduende: Photos of my dates/female companions in Washington to prove you WRONG!

Post by publicduende » August 10th, 2018, 6:51 am

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August 9th, 2018, 8:52 pm
It does take courage and I like his openness although in my opinion discussing his love life and posting photo's of women he's met for all to see could have an adverse effect for him later on - if it hasn't already. The internet can be a small place if one doesn't remain anonymous.
Another thing to consider is that, if and when he does decide to adjust his life (highly unlikely), the ocean of information about his past will continue to haunt him. He might settle in Europe or here in the Philippines with a decent woman, but anyone with the faintest intention to damage him (or his family) will still find plenty of information, even YouTube videos, about his past as a cheap whoremonger.

I like to think there's courage in risking this, yet I am pretty sure the main reason why he's been doing this is pure narcissism. There might some education/missionary aspect in travelling to lesser known place in Russia back in 2005, but the accounts on a lifestyle of cheap fun on Fields Avenue isn't exactly something that is likely to help anyone.

As Eurobrat said, the HA predicament died when Winston decided to take it easy and choose the minimum common denominator of life in Angeles City.

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Post by Winston » August 10th, 2018, 8:05 am

Well guys,
Its a trade-off. When i was in Russia, i had great cultural experiences, great sightseeing experiences and great adventures. But i was sexually starved.

In angeles city, its the opposite. I am not sexually starved of course. But i do not have any good cultural experiences, sightseeing experiences or adventures.

So what can you do? How do you have the best of both worlds? Isnt life a series of tradeoffs anyway?

Im sure there are places you can get great cultural experiences and great sex, like Thailand, but every place has its downsides.

Admittedly, if i go back to Europe the same is likely to happen. I will have great cultural experiences, sightseeing experiences and adventures. But be sexually starved. So i will have to seek brothels again. Lol.

Now eurobrat told me the brothels i went to in poland are no longer 30 USD a pop. They are like 50 USD now. Thats still not bad. Better than the US. However the problem is that many white girls in polish brothels refuse to serve asian men. I got rejected by some of them there too. So i know. Believe it or not, but even prostitutes can have racial preferences, at least in poland they do. However they do have asian girls too, who wont reject me. So yes i had some good sex in poland but also some rejections too.

So Publicduende is partially right that i will be sexually starved and sexually dissatisfied in Europe. Just like i was before. But that doesnt mean i will be 100 percent unhappy either (if he meant to say that, i dont know if he did). Nothing is 100 percent either way. If you read my Russia journals you will see that i was elated about some things and complaining and angry about other things. Its always a mixed bag.

So PD is partially right but not completely. I will always have great adventures, sightseeing experiences and cultural experiences in europe. And that will be great yes. And i have friends too. Not just robert and eurobrat, but other people i know too. So its not true that i dont have friends in europe. (And PD should apologize for saying that and recant it) I already have some friends in europe right now. And i can make more too, especially when my friends there introduce me to their other friends too, which is what usually happens. Making friends is not that hard. But finding friends who really care about you and love you is another matter. Thats not as easy.

Hope that gives you all the big picture. Its a mixed bag like everything is. Im sure PD dislikes some things about the Philippines and likes other things about it too. So its a mixed bag. Thus its foolish to claim absolutes. I hope PD realizes that and recants his overgeneralizations and absolutist thinking and claims.
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Post by Winston » August 10th, 2018, 8:06 am

Btw guys, why would my past come back to haunt me? If i got married tomorrow and my wife insisted, i could easily move the Angeles city photo threads to the hidden boards or NSFW section or remove them. Right? Everything on this site can be moved or deleted.
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Post by publicduende » August 10th, 2018, 9:01 am

Winston wrote:
August 10th, 2018, 8:05 am
Well guys,
Its a trade-off. When i was in Russia, i had great cultural experiences, great sightseeing experiences and great adventures. But i was sexually starved.

In angeles city, its the opposite. I am not sexually starved of course. But i do not have any good cultural experiences, sightseeing experiences or adventures.

So what can you do? How do you have the best of both worlds? Isnt life a series of tradeoffs anyway?

Im sure there are places you can get great cultural experiences and great sex, like Thailand, but every place has its downsides.

Admittedly, if i go back to Europe the same is likely to happen. I will have great cultural experiences, sightseeing experiences and adventures. But be sexually starved. So i will have to seek brothels again. Lol.

Now eurobrat told me the brothels i went to in poland are no longer 30 USD a pop. They are like 50 USD now. Thats still not bad. Better than the US. However the problem is that many white girls in polish brothels refuse to serve asian men. I got rejected by some of them there too. So i know. Believe it or not, but even prostitutes can have racial preferences, at least in poland they do. However they do have asian girls too, who wont reject me. So yes i had some good sex in poland but also some rejections too.

So Publicduende is partially right that i will be sexually starved and sexually dissatisfied in Europe. Just like i was before. But that doesnt mean i will be 100 percent unhappy either (if he meant to say that, i dont know if he did). Nothing is 100 percent either way. If you read my Russia journals you will see that i was elated about some things and complaining and angry about other things. Its always a mixed bag.

So PD is partially right but not completely. I will always have great adventures, sightseeing experiences and cultural experiences in europe. And that will be great yes. And i have friends too. Not just robert and eurobrat, but other people i know too. So its not true that i dont have friends in europe. (And PD should apologize for saying that and recant it) I already have some friends in europe right now. And i can make more too, especially when my friends there introduce me to their other friends too, which is what usually happens. Making friends is not that hard. But finding friends who really care about you and love you is another matter. Thats not as easy.

Hope that gives you all the big picture. Its a mixed bag like everything is. Im sure PD dislikes some things about the Philippines and likes other things about it too. So its a mixed bag. Thus its foolish to claim absolutes. I hope PD realizes that and recants his overgeneralizations and absolutist thinking and claims.
Well, the bitch-slap is starting to work...delayed effect. LOL

I am a reasonable man and I understand where you were coming from. It must have been shocking to see you major fantasy of leaving Angeles City for a more sophisticated cultural and social life in "old Europe", pissed all over and set on fire. Reality hurts.

I have never claimed absolutes and never generalised. In fact I have been "specialising" my advice for YOU, Winston. Europe might be fun to visit for a few days, churches, museums and old town cobbled street and all that stuff, and you might enjoy a few semi-casual encounters with fellow tourists and maybe one or two locals.

Yet, people will consider you as the grown-up man you are and ignore or reject you when they realise you don't have your s*it together. You say it's not important. It might not be so important on very superficial encounters, the ones you claim as the "backbone" of your social success abroad, but it becomes very important as soon as you want to, or need to, develop more stable social connections and relationships. Including a relationship with a woman.

I have never said that you don't have friends or you can't make friends. I have seen you go out with a bunch of people in Angeles. Whether they are you true friends or not, it's your problem not mine. If you move to a reasonably large European city, say Wroclaw in Poland or Florence in Italy, you're bound to find a few people to talk to.

Yet - and that is my whole point from the onset - they will be likely to be short-lived encounters. Maybe enjoyable and intense in terms of the conversation had, of the points exchanged, yet short-lived. After a while, say 2/3 months, you would invariably start to feel bored and would naturally seek deeper and more stable connections.

And that's where your trouble would begin. The more you will leave your "happy tourist" bubble and want to interact with the locals, the more frustrated you will grow at their lack of attention, indifference or outright rejection. Especially as you realise that, whatever you say about how you feel inside, you are indeed an adult and you won't be able to do many of the things you did 10/15 years ago. Yes you might find the occasional conversation with a smart 20-something, but try to ask her out hinting at something non-occasional and non-platonic, and you won't like the answer.

If you ever moved to Europe, your best strategy would be to seek companionship of the elderly: our welfare and social security system is still mostly OK so you will find a lot of well-educated, smart and healthy retired man and women, retired teachers or academics, retired doctors and businessmen, with a comfortable house to live in but nobody to share their time with. They alone might be a goldmine of cultural/intellectual connections for you, Winston. They will be happy to let you visit or meet in a pub or coffee shop - you may end up seeing them more than their own kids! They will be happy to share their knowledge and wisdom and converse about whatever topic you find of common interest, and learn from each other.

Most important, you will find real gratitude for you on their side, because it will be evident that you're brightening their lives. Who knows, some of them may trust you enough to introduce you to a neighbour, a relative or a friend who is a single woman.

Another thing you might do is connect with a charity organisation to do voluntary work, not necessarily a vocational one. This way, you will immediately gain a social circle of people who are devoted to doing good to other people, so statistically less likely to be the kinds of bitchy, judgmental and selfish women we all bemoan.

By the way these things would work all the same in the Philippines and anywhere in the world.
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Re: To Publicduende: Photos of my dates/female companions in Washington to prove you WRONG!

Post by Guhji » August 10th, 2018, 3:57 pm

Winston wrote:
August 10th, 2018, 8:05 am
Well guys,
Its a trade-off. When i was in Russia, i had great cultural experiences, great sightseeing experiences and great adventures. But i was sexually starved.

In angeles city, its the opposite. I am not sexually starved of course. But i do not have any good cultural experiences, sightseeing experiences or adventures.

So what can you do? How do you have the best of both worlds? Isnt life a series of tradeoffs anyway?

Im sure there are places you can get great cultural experiences and great sex, like Thailand, but every place has its downsides.

Admittedly, if i go back to Europe the same is likely to happen. I will have great cultural experiences, sightseeing experiences and adventures. But be sexually starved. So i will have to seek brothels again. Lol.

Now eurobrat told me the brothels i went to in poland are no longer 30 USD a pop. They are like 50 USD now. Thats still not bad. Better than the US. However the problem is that many white girls in polish brothels refuse to serve asian men. I got rejected by some of them there too. So i know. Believe it or not, but even prostitutes can have racial preferences, at least in poland they do. However they do have asian girls too, who wont reject me. So yes i had some good sex in poland but also some rejections too.

So Publicduende is partially right that i will be sexually starved and sexually dissatisfied in Europe. Just like i was before. But that doesnt mean i will be 100 percent unhappy either (if he meant to say that, i dont know if he did). Nothing is 100 percent either way. If you read my Russia journals you will see that i was elated about some things and complaining and angry about other things. Its always a mixed bag.

So PD is partially right but not completely. I will always have great adventures, sightseeing experiences and cultural experiences in europe. And that will be great yes. And i have friends too. Not just robert and eurobrat, but other people i know too. So its not true that i dont have friends in europe. (And PD should apologize for saying that and recant it) I already have some friends in europe right now. And i can make more too, especially when my friends there introduce me to their other friends too, which is what usually happens. Making friends is not that hard. But finding friends who really care about you and love you is another matter. Thats not as easy.

Hope that gives you all the big picture. Its a mixed bag like everything is. Im sure PD dislikes some things about the Philippines and likes other things about it too. So its a mixed bag. Thus its foolish to claim absolutes. I hope PD realizes that and recants his overgeneralizations and absolutist thinking and claims.
Damn, you know you're ugly when even a pro won't have sex with you! LOL

Again, I embarrass you WITH YOUR OWN WORDS. Checkmate, dork. LOLOLOL

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Post by chanta76 » August 10th, 2018, 8:14 pm

In defense of Winston. There are working sex girls in South Korea that will refuse to service foreign men.

I think I get Winston dilemma. Damn if you do and damn if you don't. In Europe the girls there he can intellectually connect with but cause his asian there is this level of racism in the dating market. Asia on the other hand he can get laid but no connection.

It's like some guys choose marriage thinking they at least have a partner and won't be lonely but the trade off is your with the same partner which can get stale at times. So for allot of guys they have to deal with this trade off.

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Post by Contrarian Expatriate » August 10th, 2018, 9:10 pm

publicduende wrote:
August 9th, 2018, 10:33 am
Contrarian Expatriate wrote:
August 9th, 2018, 5:49 am
publicduende wrote:
August 9th, 2018, 1:01 am
I dumped the "Moldovan chick" and, being Romanian/Moldovan people notoriously vindictive, she took revenge and caused me trouble.
Not trying to trigger you further, but I can't help but think that maybe you DESERVED whatever she dished out to you and kudos to her.

But don't rain on others' parades simply because you crashed and burned in Europe.
Typical a**hole answer... Haven't you got what you deserved, too: perfect solitude and bitterness?
When we stop to consider common female shaming tactic of branding men "alone and bitter," there is no doubt that PublicDuende has internalized such shaming from various females into his personal core. He therefore uses such female invective against men. Whether this is the consequence of being fatherless, having an adequately masculine father, or abusive females in his life, the result is clear. He is indoctrinated (almost to the point of being brainwashed) with the female worldview.

Men like PublicDuende (and I use that term very loosely here) have sadly become the females they frantically chase. They are prone to finger-wagging, scolding, denigrating, and demeaning other men in the way they have been treated by women. This is blue pill existence par excellence! It is no surprise that PD has taken to personally attacking Winston just as a jilted female would. It would be no surprise to me if PD commenced to criticizing the physical endowments and sexual prowess of other men for this is what men of this affliction sometimes do.

I do hope PD reaches the point in his life when he can grow to realize that men living untethered permanently to women represents the utmost in peace, peace of mind, wealth, and freedom. Any man who, with his figurative hand on his hip, lambasts other men with female-style invective has to be in considerable mental anguish brought about by years of female browbeating. I'm not sure there are enough years in human life to undo the stranglehold of that unfortunate conditioning.

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Post by Ghost » August 11th, 2018, 1:06 am

Whooo boy. OK, gonna take a shot here. Let me preface what I'm about to say: I've met Winston in person, so my opinion is now informed by that. I'm not responding to anyone in particular here. This is just regarding some of what's been posted in this thread and others recently, and for some perspective on Winston and his situation.

When Winston posts on here, all we tend to see is the conspiracy theories, paranormal stuff, and complaints about Murphy's Law, Archons or whatever the mental monster of the week is. And only seeing Wintson's posts, it does look bad. Indeed, he is stuck in some traps in his life, whether it is overdoing the p4p and reading too much into it, or dreaming that somewhere else will finally give him the happiness he desires.

Now here's the thing: yes, he does go to Angeles too much, and yes he does get too deep into the imaginative stuff. But why?

What if Winston is doing this precisely because he can't find what he is looking for?

See, when I met him in person, he wasn't talking about the paranormal, conspiracies, or talking about how great Angeles was. He was talking about how (at the time) he was hoping to find his soulmate in China. And he was getting frustrated because despite being outwardly Asian, he didn't fit in there, in China. We noted a lot of the same things about China: that people are like a hive mind of worker bees, that there is no passion or excitement about life, that Chinese are too serious and practical about everything, and so on. He and I saw eye to eye on those things.

He ended up leaving and going back to Angeles to relieve his frustrations, not because that is what he truly wanted in life. Angeles does appear to be a trap for him, and he can read too much into how the bargirls there treat him. We all know a woman like that is treating you nice because she wants money. It's escapism for him. I think he knows that, but he needs the escapism because he can't find what he wants. Think of it from his perspective for a moment: why worry about getting too deep into the Angeles fantasy when all your experience beyond it isn't giving you what you really wanted? Why worry about spending too much time on your conspiracy theories and paranormal stuff (and they are in effect, his hobbies) when you know it isn't taking away from what you really want? If you're not getting what you really want - despite trying - then from your perspective you're not losing anything by spending too much time on your hobbies. Let me clarify something: I'm not saying his choices here are good, but they are understandable given the situation.

Some guys are too quick to bring up "self improvement" but this isn't really the problem here. Winston is already fearless when it comes to approaching and talking to women, has a passive income, is well traveled, and could resort to planting roots in one place if he found what he is really looking for. A man can always do more, but the thing is that he is already doing enough. It should be enough. Things aren't supposed to be this difficult.

His mind is freer in Europe than in Asia, and both continents give him something. If he could find what he wanted all in one place, he might actually settle down and plant his roots. Europe gives him intellectual freedom and fulfillment, and Asia gives him lots more options with women. If he got both of those with one girl in one country, he would probably be content. The problem is that he can't find everything he is looking for in one place.

He and I are very similar this way. We have different backgrounds, different hobbies, and different paths, but we both find the world to be so lopsided in what it offers. Thus the ongoing search that keeps ending up fruitless.

He or I could have, for example, settled for a typical Chinese wife. She would be feminine and dutiful at least. Yet we know a deeper connection, passion, and understanding wouldn't happen in such a setup. Hence neither he nor I have chosen to settle for that kind of deal. A man can settle for less than what he knows he should, but for some men, this will break their spirit.

Hence the search, the travels, the fantasy traps, the distractions, the moving from place to place without finding contentment.

Just my perspective. Before meeting Winston in person I probably would not have said this. And for the record, in real life he is not like he is online.
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Post by Zambales » August 11th, 2018, 1:59 am

Winston wrote:
August 10th, 2018, 8:06 am
Btw guys, why would my past come back to haunt me? If i got married tomorrow and my wife insisted, i could easily move the Angeles city photo threads to the hidden boards or NSFW section or remove them. Right? Everything on this site can be moved or deleted.
Have you considered that a future partner of yours could take offence at finding out about your exploits with bar girls in Angeles City and subsequently end the relationship? Even if she stayed with you but insisted on the removal of the photo's she still may have lingering doubts about your future conduct which undoubtedly will bring up trust issues.

Like I said previously it's all very well talking about these particular adventures anonymously but to do so with your actual identity attached to them will do you more harm than good when it comes to searching for a partner. After all word can get around and mud sticks.

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Post by Winston » August 12th, 2018, 8:05 pm

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Well, the bitch-slap is starting to work...delayed effect. LOL

I am a reasonable man and I understand where you were coming from. It must have been shocking to see you major fantasy of leaving Angeles City for a more sophisticated cultural and social life in "old Europe", pissed all over and set on fire. Reality hurts.

I have never claimed absolutes and never generalised. In fact I have been "specialising" my advice for YOU, Winston. Europe might be fun to visit for a few days, churches, museums and old town cobbled street and all that stuff, and you might enjoy a few semi-casual encounters with fellow tourists and maybe one or two locals.

Yet, people will consider you as the grown-up man you are and ignore or reject you when they realise you don't have your s*it together. You say it's not important. It might not be so important on very superficial encounters, the ones you claim as the "backbone" of your social success abroad, but it becomes very important as soon as you want to, or need to, develop more stable social connections and relationships. Including a relationship with a woman.

I have never said that you don't have friends or you can't make friends. I have seen you go out with a bunch of people in Angeles. Whether they are you true friends or not, it's your problem not mine. If you move to a reasonably large European city, say Wroclaw in Poland or Florence in Italy, you're bound to find a few people to talk to.

Yet - and that is my whole point from the onset - they will be likely to be short-lived encounters. Maybe enjoyable and intense in terms of the conversation had, of the points exchanged, yet short-lived. After a while, say 2/3 months, you would invariably start to feel bored and would naturally seek deeper and more stable connections.

And that's where your trouble would begin. The more you will leave your "happy tourist" bubble and want to interact with the locals, the more frustrated you will grow at their lack of attention, indifference or outright rejection. Especially as you realise that, whatever you say about how you feel inside, you are indeed an adult and you won't be able to do many of the things you did 10/15 years ago. Yes you might find the occasional conversation with a smart 20-something, but try to ask her out hinting at something non-occasional and non-platonic, and you won't like the answer.

If you ever moved to Europe, your best strategy would be to seek companionship of the elderly: our welfare and social security system is still mostly OK so you will find a lot of well-educated, smart and healthy retired man and women, retired teachers or academics, retired doctors and businessmen, with a comfortable house to live in but nobody to share their time with. They alone might be a goldmine of cultural/intellectual connections for you, Winston. They will be happy to let you visit or meet in a pub or coffee shop - you may end up seeing them more than their own kids! They will be happy to share their knowledge and wisdom and converse about whatever topic you find of common interest, and learn from each other.

Most important, you will find real gratitude for you on their side, because it will be evident that you're brightening their lives. Who knows, some of them may trust you enough to introduce you to a neighbour, a relative or a friend who is a single woman.

Another thing you might do is connect with a charity organisation to do voluntary work, not necessarily a vocational one. This way, you will immediately gain a social circle of people who are devoted to doing good to other people, so statistically less likely to be the kinds of bitchy, judgmental and selfish women we all bemoan.

By the way these things would work all the same in the Philippines and anywhere in the world.
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First of all, I can enjoy sightseeing more than a few days. I can enjoy it for several months. I don't know why you think sightseeing and cultural experiences are only for a few days. There are perpetual travelers who travel for months or years. I once knew a Polish girl who hitchhiked for 5 years around the world with little money.

Why do you use the term "bitch slap"? That's a bad sign. Who are you to bitch slap me? You aren't my parent or teacher. Do you actually enjoy hurting people? If so you must be sadistic. I can tell. Rock can see this about you too.

What do you mean reality hurts? What reality? Reality can hurt. But your words are your opinion, not reality. Do you understand that?

Of course it hurts when you try to dash my dreams and hopes. How would you like it if someone dashes your dreams and hopes? Would you like it? If not then why do you do it to others? Do you have no empathy or compassion? Especially since you have no right to try to dash my hopes and dreams. It's both cruel and immoral. And unwarranted as well, because you cannot predict which girl will like me and which won't. No one can predict that. Not even Einstein or Tesla or any other genius can. Certainly NOT YOU PD.

Why do you enjoy hurting people? Isn't that sociopathic and sadistic? You shouldn't get off on being cruel to others you know. That's kind of sick and twisted.

Btw, yes you did make absolute statements. Maybe you forgot that you did. But you did. I saw them in the other thread. There are several posts where you make absolute statements.

The thing is PD, you have no right to make cruel statements like that, even if you really believe them. No one, not even the smartest man in the world, can say something like:

"X person will not get any dates or friends in X country. I am certain of it."

You can't say that about any man. Even the smartest man in the world would not say that. No one says that. Why? Think about it. Because it's impossible for you to know whether anyone can get dates in any country or not. That's not for you to know. Even the smartest man in the world cannot know that.

I've had girlfriends in the US even, about three of them. And in Russia, I found some girls that really liked me after about 5 or 6 months of failures and disappointments and empty dates. I finally met 3 girls that liked me: Alina, Marina and Jenya. You remember Marina, the blonde. I wasn't attracted to Alina much. But I was very attracted to Marina and Jenya. Earlier there were two that liked me too, but I wasn't into them.

So you see, in the US and in Russia, I've found attractive girls that liked me. In my last trip to Russia, it took 5 or 6 months to finally find that. So it took a long time, but not impossible. Do you understand? Logic says that if I could find something before, then I can find it again.

And yes, you did make absolute statements where you said it was impossible for me to get any dates or girls to like me in Europe. So you did make absolute statements that were invalid and cruel, and you ought to retract them and offer an apology too. Such statements are both cruel and immoral. And you should not be allowed to do that. Not to me or anyone else. Such behavior should not go unpunished man. You ought to be temporarily banned 5 days while you think about the immorality and cruelty of what you did.

Instead of saying "X person will never get any dates or find any girls that like him in X country" why not put it like this:

"Winston, it will not be easy to find a pretty girl in Europe who likes you for you. It's a longshot and the odds are against it. But who knows. Anything is possible and you could get lucky, since you have gotten lucky before. But the odds are low and it will not be easy. So be prepared for that."

So how much more tactful and reasonable and honest that sounds? That's how normal men talk. They do not say that "it's impossible for x person to get any dates or girls in x country" etc. No one talks like that.

Please think about it and meditate on it. I ought to ban you for 5 days so you can meditate on the wrongness of what you did. Your cruelty, immorality, and unwarranted statements. Prisoners in jail also reflect on the wrongness of their ways. So should you PD. Perhaps some jail time would do you good.

So what will it be? Will you retract your absolute statements and apologize now like any good honest man would? Or should I ban you for 5 days so you can meditate and reflect on your wrongful cruel words and behavior?

Choose one please.

I don't understand how you can be president of the rotary club in Manila. Shouldn't that require leadership skills and a balanced fair mind?

Also, I do not see you as being very credible or wise, because:

1. You are a feminist right? You admitted it before too. What does that mean exactly?
2. You believe that racial differences don't exist, only cultural differences do.

Hence I definitely would not consider you credible nor would I consider you an advisor. My real advisors like Rock and Mr S for instance, can easily see that racial differences exist. It's a no brainer. We all instinctually know they do. So you seem to deny your own instincts, which is a bad sign. Therefore I definitely don't hold your advice in high esteem, especially since you enjoy being cruel and hurting others. Even Rock can see that you do. That's the mark of a sadist, not a true friend.

Do you claim to be neutral and unbiased? Do you not like Asian men dating white girls? You should admit that you have some bias. You certainly don't sound neutral.

Anyway, I've been itching to go back to Europe since 2006. So I gotta scratch my itch and go back there at some point soon. Or else the itch will always itch. You understand that? Also I haven't been able to control my life since 2012 so I've lost like 5 or 6 years already being stuck in Taiwan constantly, because some force wouldn't let me go to China to find a wife. Perhaps for my own good. It could be that God or my guardian angels knew that if I had gone to China and married one of my prospects back in 2012, I would be miserable now and regret it and feeling like a prisoner now with no freedom, and living a life of servitude to wife and family. It certainly would have disallowed me from going back to Europe to explore to my soul's desire. So perhaps the universe had a reason to thwart my plans. Did you consider that?

You keep assuming that I'm a settle down type of guy. But ask @momopi. He said that some people are clouds, some are grass and some are trees. Cloud people are not meant to settle down, they always live for new adventures and experiences. They are like nomads. I probably am a cloud type. See the thread about that here: viewtopic.php?f=40&t=12729

Also, I don't know if you believe in reincarnation or not, but I feel like I have past lives in Europe and I want to discover who I was and find what my roots were again. It's a soul desire you may not be able to understand. But don't think that just because you don't understand or relate to something, that it must be nonsense. Humans tend to reject what they don't understand. Your third eye or pineal gland is probably not open either, that's why you are not spiritual at all and act like a man with low consciousness. No offense. But you are what you are. You definitely are not a higher consciousness man for sure.

Btw I've been rejected by thousands of girls. I am used to it. It's nothing new. Why do you act like I will be bothered by it or frustrated by it? I'm almost numb to it by now. It's not gonna make me unhappy or hurt me. Especially since I am more happy and alive in Europe. I know myself better than you do you know.

Btw besides local men, there are always eccentric expats in Europe who like to talk to people too. Those types will always talk to me. Kind of like Jester. You met him so you know what I mean. He can talk your ear off if you don't stop him. There are many travelers who are like that who will talk your ear off at a pub or wherever. Lots of eccentric types of people are traveling too you know. And they will always talk to a stranger.

Not all people you meet during traveling are short lived. Some turn into real friendships. A certain percentage do. That's my experience.

Yes you are right. Elderly people are a lot easier to talk to and relate to, unless they are grumpy. Older people are a lot more down to earth and like talking to me because I'm an old soul and good listener. They aren't airheadish and are more authentic since they aren't trying to be cool or fit in or be liked. I also get along well with older people who have a lot of travel experience and stories to share. I've met all types of people.

Also I don't mind spending some time alone too. I can be a hermit or loner for a while too, if I need to. It's nothing new to me. It's not like I can't handle that man. Don't you know that? I have a lot of experience in life you know. I'm not a newbie at all this. And I know myself very well too.

Look man. The reason I went to Philippines was because I had made three long trips to Russia already and needed a change of place. That was my thought back in 2006. Now I feel the same way about Asia. Been there too long since 2007. Need a change of venue again, just like I did in 2006 when I decided to try SE Asia and Philippines instead of Russia again. Do you understand? If I didn't return to Russia because it was time to try something new in 2006, why can't I feel the same again this time? It's time to try something new. If someone like me or Mr S are tired of SE Asia, why do you want to try to force us to stay there? Why can't you let us follow our heart? Spiritual teachers all say we should listen to our feelings and heart and soul. They are probably right. Why do you think you are more right than they are? Geez.

Yes I agree that joining a charity or volunteer work might be good in Europe for meeting people and getting involved in the community. But what about joining an amateur theatre troupe? I love acting. So since my confidence will be higher in Europe, it's something I can pursue again. Plus I heard that Prague has a lot of extra work in American films. I've done extra work before, it's easy and fun and you get paid at least minimum wage.

However, I can enjoy sightseeing alone too and start conversations with strangers in cafes and restaurants. I am content doing that too. I've done that before and can do it again.

Anyway please try to understand me and be reasonable and stop making extreme statements and come to a middle ground. You also gotta lower your pride and man up and apologize for your cruel, hurtful statements that are unwarranted and could have been expressed much more tactfully. Ask yourself how YOU would feel if someone made such cruel hurtful statements to you too. Then perhaps you will understand why that is wrong to do.

Thanks.

P.S. - Btw can you please unblock me from your WhatsApp so we can talk on the phone about this and resolve this disagreement? Blocking me there is cowardly. I didn't block you here in the forum, so why should you block me there?
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Re: To Publicduende: Photos of my dates/female companions in Washington to prove you WRONG!

Post by Winston » August 12th, 2018, 8:21 pm

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August 11th, 2018, 1:06 am
He or I could have, for example, settled for a typical Chinese wife. She would be feminine and dutiful at least. Yet we know a deeper connection, passion, and understanding wouldn't happen in such a setup. Hence neither he nor I have chosen to settle for that kind of deal. A man can settle for less than what he knows he should, but for some men, this will break their spirit.

Hence the search, the travels, the fantasy traps, the distractions, the moving from place to place without finding contentment.

Just my perspective. Before meeting Winston in person I probably would not have said this. And for the record, in real life he is not like he is online.
Yes that's true Ghost. I tend to be escapist in nature. I was like that during childhood too. I escaped into TV and fantasy when my life at school was terrible and persecutory. It's just part of who I am. I live in the dream world of fantasy, not practicality. I'm not Asian in that sense. Perhaps I fit in better in a life of theatre and drama. lol

There is a saying that goes like this: "There are two tragedies in life. One is not getting what you want and the other is getting what you want." I don't remember who said that, maybe Mark Twain or Oscar Wilde or George Bernard Shaw. But it's true. Whether you get what you want or don't get what you want, you suffer in some way either way.

If I had gotten what I wanted in 2012 and married a Chinese wife, maybe I would have regretted it. Maybe I would feel imprisoned now in a life or servitude to wife and family and their needs, and living a life of routine, like a prison, and bitching about it on this forum. Right?

Also I could not just take off and go to Europe to have adventures, or anywhere else either, if I am married and a family man, right? Unless of course my wife was into travel and adventure too.

So maybe the universe had a reason for thwarting my plans. Did you consider that?

Also like we both said, we don't mentally connect with Chinese females anyway. They are too narrow minded and not intellectual. And if we find a westernized Chinese girl, she will act like a bitch. lol

Btw how am I different in person than online? Don't I say the same things?

I can talk about a lot of different topics. However my observations are gonna always be deep. Some may not like that.
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Re: To Publicduende: Photos of my dates/female companions in Washington to prove you WRONG!

Post by Ghost » August 13th, 2018, 3:40 am

Winston wrote:
August 12th, 2018, 8:21 pm
Yes that's true Ghost. I tend to be escapist in nature. I was like that during childhood too. I escaped into TV and fantasy when my life at school was terrible and persecutory. It's just part of who I am. I live in the dream world of fantasy, not practicality. I'm not Asian in that sense. Perhaps I fit in better in a life of theatre and drama. lol

There is a saying that goes like this: "There are two tragedies in life. One is not getting what you want and the other is getting what you want." I don't remember who said that, maybe Mark Twain or Oscar Wilde or George Bernard Shaw. But it's true. Whether you get what you want or don't get what you want, you suffer in some way either way.

If I had gotten what I wanted in 2012 and married a Chinese wife, maybe I would have regretted it. Maybe I would feel imprisoned now in a life or servitude to wife and family and their needs, and living a life of routine, like a prison, and bitching about it on this forum. Right?

Also I could not just take off and go to Europe to have adventures, or anywhere else either, if I am married and a family man, right? Unless of course my wife was into travel and adventure too.

So maybe the universe had a reason for thwarting my plans. Did you consider that?
Yeah, that is a good point. Whatever happens in your life, or whatever choices you make, there are always trade-offs. You can't get everything all in one situation. Whether it's love or freedom, money or time, there are always trade-offs and sacrifices. I also think that the overall course of a man's life should move towards contentment. Otherwise you always worry about what might have been, and that will drive a man crazy. Turns out what might have been is just an illusion though.
Btw how am I different in person than online? Don't I say the same things?
Sometimes on the forum (or on Wechat, etc.) your messages can be repetitive and long, and mix a lot of stuff together. Makes it hard to respond to you sometimes. (It was harder on Wechat, because it's all in one place. At least on the forum it is is spread out, so that part is more the platform's fault, haha.) I remember a lot of times on Wechat, you might suddenly send us a bunch of stuff about conspiracies and your other hobbies. It stacked up fast and got hard to respond to. But in person you are very easy to talk to. You can disappear a lot randomly from the forum or Wechat a lot too, haha. I probably seem a lot different in real life too. The internet distorts a lot of things.
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Re: To Publicduende: Photos of my dates/female companions in Washington to prove you WRONG!

Post by Darrell_Johnston » August 13th, 2018, 7:14 am

So how much more tactful and reasonable and honest that sounds? That's how normal men talk. They do not say that "it's impossible for x person to get any dates or girls in x country" etc. No one talks like that.
I know someone who does talk like that.....his name is winston wu......he tells men that its impossible for them to meet women in USA and that they can not improve themselves so dont bother

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Re: To Publicduende: Photos of my dates/female companions in Washington to prove you WRONG!

Post by Darrell_Johnston » August 13th, 2018, 7:16 am

Please think about it and meditate on it. I ought to ban you for 5 days so you can meditate on the wrongness of what you did. Your cruelty, immorality, and unwarranted statements. Prisoners in jail also reflect on the wrongness of their ways. So should you PD. Perhaps some jail time would do you good.
whats with banning people in your groups for having different opinions? Now you want to jail people for disagreeing with you? Arent things getting out of hand?. If an idea is bad it souldn't be hard to criticise, banning people and silencing them is what people with weak arguments do......like Matt Hanson

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