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Would Winston be happier abroad in Europe?

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Re: Would Winston be happier abroad in Europe?

Post by momopi » August 16th, 2018, 3:30 pm

El_Caudillo wrote:
August 16th, 2018, 9:32 am
@momopi sure I agree with you he should get onto those things - making a list would be very helpful, I'm not a list guy but occasionally I'll do it and feel better when I get those things crossed off. However, this is not how Winston's psychology works - put it down to the wonders and marvels of the broad spectrum of human existence.
The purpose (of the list) is to force yourself to prioritize certain goals over others. If you want to do A then why are you doing B and C before A? What have you done today toward A and what are you doing tomorrow toward A?

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Re: Would Winston be happier abroad in Europe?

Post by El_Caudillo » August 17th, 2018, 8:10 am

@momopi what do you think the chances are he makes such a list? And you're missing something, Europe is only something to fixate on temporarily until the next idea comes along. It's the mental fixation which is really important for W - action in the physical world is inconsequential.
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Re: Would Winston be happier abroad in Europe?

Post by momopi » August 17th, 2018, 3:26 pm

El_Caudillo wrote:
August 17th, 2018, 8:10 am
@momopi what do you think the chances are he makes such a list? And you're missing something, Europe is only something to fixate on temporarily until the next idea comes along. It's the mental fixation which is really important for W - action in the physical world is inconsequential.
The passage of time and aging in the physical realm is merciless. The consequence of failure to prioritize and take action is on him.

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Re: Would Winston be happier abroad in Europe?

Post by publicduende » August 17th, 2018, 3:49 pm

momopi wrote:
August 17th, 2018, 3:26 pm
El_Caudillo wrote:
August 17th, 2018, 8:10 am
@momopi what do you think the chances are he makes such a list? And you're missing something, Europe is only something to fixate on temporarily until the next idea comes along. It's the mental fixation which is really important for W - action in the physical world is inconsequential.
The passage of time and aging in the physical realm is merciless. The consequence of failure to prioritize and take action is on him.
That is precisely what I told him, too. Whatever opportunity window he might have, in Europe or elsewhere, is closing fast. If he stops thinking that taking shortcuts is a good (enough) avenue, he might as well start improving himself and grab a chance to find a stable relationship.

For how much you want to define him as a "cloud", clouds don't last forever. They eventually evaporate up or come down as rain...and they end up feeding the grass and the trees :)

This uber-libertine way of thinking is not doing him any good. And whoever is advising him not to steer away from it while he still has time (and not much left of it, IMHO) and continuing his merry-go-round on the web and on Fields Avenue, isn't certainly doing him a favour.

I might have been a bit too much on the rude & radical side when addressing him, but my point has been very clear: he needs to land back on the ground and start acting like an adult. Society demands it, women (any woman) demands it. If he doesn't at least find a compromise, he risks being lost for good.

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Re: Would Winston be happier abroad in Europe?

Post by Winston » December 16th, 2018, 8:52 pm

Update:

Rock is in Amsterdam now. He went to Belgium too. He says that I was right, that Europe does have a good vibe that feels nice and soulful and down to earth. People are also real and upfront, with no BS politeness like in Asia. He said Amsterdam felt very free and open, like you could do anything. He said I would like it there. Like I said, Europe has more old soul types like me, that are more mature and down to earth, soulwise that is. So it fits me better. And there is no cold wall between people like in America or Taiwan, so talking to strangers does not feel awkward or unnatural.

Also my close Venetian friend Alex said that regardless of whether I can date girls in Italy or not, that I would probably fit into Italian culture well, much more than American or Taiwanese culture at least.

So I don't know why Publicduende was so poo hoo about Europe. But he's just one man with one opinion, not God. And one very arrogant man at that. I can find many other men who say different things, even in Europe. Plus it was stupid and fallacious for PD to presume that all of Europe is like London or that London represents all of Europe. Very stupid indeed. I'm surprised anyone could be that dumb and not even see it or correct himself. Very weird.
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Re: Would Winston be happier abroad in Europe?

Post by Winston » December 16th, 2018, 8:58 pm

Btw guys, when I was in Poland, my British friend James dated a younger girl even though he was an older man. I met her too. So it's possible to date younger women. Oh and no he wasn't rich or anything, just a really personable and genuine man who was playful and enthusiastic, like a boy in a man's body (similar to me). I guess if you are a likable guy, you can date younger girls, especially if you fit into the culture, like I do in Europe. So I have seen older men with younger women in Europe. Just wanted to let you guys know that, since it just came to my mind now. I should have brought this up earlier. Anyway, everyone's situation is different. There are no absolute rules or linear logic when it comes to human relationships and human affairs. Wise men know this. So please stop putting everything in boxes you guys.
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Re: Would Winston be happier abroad in Europe?

Post by Winston » December 16th, 2018, 9:24 pm

Ok I found some photos of James, the friend I mentioned above, to show you guys. Here is me and him below in his room at a place he rented in a small town in Poland. As you can see, he is not rich, but he is a playful freespirit type, kind of like Robin Williams, and he was just teaching English there. Yet he was dating a younger girl there.

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Below, in the photo on the top left, you can see James and the girl he was dating there. As you can see, she is kind of plain, but sweet.

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Photos below of me and James having some beer with his friends and associates.

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Some photos of me in that quiet small town in Poland, I think it was called Olsztyn or something.

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So you see guys. Everything I say is real and backed up. That's why I'm one of the more credible people online and offline too. :)
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Re: Would Winston be happier abroad in Europe?

Post by Neo » December 16th, 2018, 9:32 pm

We all look for camaraderie, for fellowship, for someone to validate our stance and our opinions on our favorite topics and all our deep desires. However, in my experience, unless the person is like-minded with the same desires, expressing my deepest heart-felt opinions and beliefs is to be avoided. It is very likely the other person, whoever it is, will disagree because of different life experience, person bias, person failures or successes, or because they simply don't have the vision or any faith, or worse.

In other words, any time a person goes expressing something deep from the heart, he needs to beware that it is extremely likely that someone is going to come and find error or fault with it, either real or imagined, or otherwise simply oppose everything, or say it is impossible.

That's why I just keep my thoughts to myself on most issues.

And also, if the other person is successful in discouraging you, then you've just abandoned your heart's desires, because someone else said it's impossible.

Not everyone needs to know your life plans. Just like not everyone needs to know how much you weigh, how much money you have in the bank, intimate details about romantic relationships, etc.

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