Over the weekend, I went to two post wedding dinners here in Taiwan. My older cousin, who's a doctor, had just gotten married and in accord with Taiwanese tradition, the families treat their guest to a banquet afterward.
His bride turned out to be really hot, though she was almost a foot taller than him. Wow. He's only like 5ft3 or 5ft4 too. So he must have gotten really lucky since most women strongly prefer men who are taller than them. I heard he met her at a hospital called Tzu Chi, where volunteered his services as a doctor and she as a nutritionist, so I guess volunteer work is a good place to find someone who is not shallow and has a good heart.
Here is a picture of them on a frame that was placed at the entrance to the banquet.
To my knowledge, this might be his first or second girlfriend that he's marrying though. He's a few years older than me, but very humble, modest, kind, conventional, and non-assertive. Being meek and short, he obviously doesn't get many dates, nor does he try. He's too nice to try and "get something", totally unlike me. Like most Taiwanese, he follows the established order of things, never questioning or challenging anything.
I think almost everyone in my family, except for a few political radicals, are like that. (I wonder why I'm so different?) In fact, even most Chinese Americans I know are like that too. They are pure conformists, never thinking outside the box, and are narrow minded, not broad minded or open. But they are kind and gentle in nature.
Their minds also tend to be limited to surface practicalities. For instance, they can look at you and tell you if you are more fat or skinny than before. But they cannot open the Bible or Karl Marx's manifesto and critique it or point out flaws, contradictions, and fallacies in them. They are not used to analyzing concepts, ideas, theories, beliefs or teachings. That requires thinking outside the box, and that's not in their nature. I think this is true for most of Asia, not just Taiwan. In addition, their communication skills are not very assertive or articulate either.
Anyhow, he is the last of my cousins on my dad's side of the family to be married. I guess that leaves me as the only one left that's unmarried on my dad's side. However, all my relatives think I'm married to Dianne for some reason, probably cause we have a son so they assume we are married, after all, that's their train of thought and they do not think outside the box. I am hesitant to tell any of my relatives that I don't agree with the institution of marriage or explain the reasons why, for unconventional views, no matter how much they make sense, are over their head and pretty much incomprehensible to them. In fact, if they saw this website, it'd be over their heads and would simply be ejected from their minds, for their minds cannot process something that is outside the box. Sadly, that's just how it is. I guess Asia is not the place for broad minded intellectual conversation. lol
By the way, I met some distant cousins I didn't know existed. And one of them was pretty hot. Have a look:
(the one in red in the middle below)
Nice legs too!
This his sister and her daughter. She is very sweet and gentle.
You know, pretty much everyone in my family has a stable life, stable job, stable family, and set routine in their life. They are locked in some form of commitment one way or another, or are trying to lock themselves into one in the future. It's true that all my cousins have jobs and money, and stability in their lives, whereas I don't and am in perpetual limbo. However, if you Google or Yahoo any of my cousin's names, nothing will come up. No one talks about them on forums or blogs. Others do not mention their lives, their works or books they write. And that's because their lives are NOT INTERESTING to others, whereas mine is obviously.
That's the only thing I have over them, besides my broader mind. If you Google or Yahoo my name or site, hundreds of hits will come up, not just from my site, but from other sites where other people are talking about me or one of my works. That's because I'm interesting and have a reputation and what I've done is significant to others.
This gives my life more meaning in a sense, in that I've impacted others, inspired people and drawn heat from critics as well. If I had a completely conventional and average life, no one would know me and Google and Yahoo would have no hits on me, other than maybe Facebook profiles or work related profiles.
Likewise, I've Googled some of my past friends and acquaintances from high school and most of them have no hits either, except for maybe a Facebook profile or a job related profile on a company website. But no one talks about them. Their lives are not interesting enough, or they are out of the public spotlight.
But then again, I've never been normal either. I've been subdued and ignored and ostracized, but never "normal".
BTW, speaking of publicity, keep in mind that there are MANY global dating guys out there who have as much experience and wisdom about dating abroad as me and my advisors - Ladislav and Mr S. But they do not start websites about global dating or dating abroad, or make their lives or experiences public in any way. That's why you never hear about them, unless you run into them during your travels. Only a very small handful, perhaps less than 5, global daters make websites or turn this into a public issue. I'm one of them of course.
