"No country has it all, and most countries are heavily weighed in one direction and severely poor in another area. Countries that are materially rich are poor spiritually and socially. Countries with the best jobs opportunities cannot usually provide too many gorgeous dates. Countries with the most beautiful women have bad economies and rotten politics. It, therefore, stands to reason that in order to have it all, living in more than one country is often a necessity."
- Ladislav, Expat and Cultural Advisor of HappierAbroad.com
(Note: This was actually the original introduction, but when I wrote the new version, I didn't want to discard it as it contained many valuable points. So I just made it a Part Two of the Introduction.)
Introduction to Global Dating - Part Two
Are you dateless in America and you know that the problem is not you?
Do you want to be with attractive feminine women that the local scene won't fulfill?
Have you tried every cliched remedy but nothing has worked?
You know, I've been through 20 years of endless loneliness and datelessness in America in perpetual frustration and unfulfillment. (Click here to read the story of my 20 years of loneliness in America) God knows I've tried everything out there given as remedies for datelessness in America - church groups, dance classes, special interest groups, volunteer work, clubs, discos, avenues of nightlife in the US, dating gurus, dating books, seduction techniques, self-help courses, college fraternities, personal ads, internet dating sites, etc. I've tried it all. But all I got was polite superficial short conversation that went nowhere, not quality dates or fulfilling relationships. And I heard all the BS pep talk from well meaning people as well, none of which made any lasting difference, fulfilled my desires, or delivered tangible results that met my standards.
For years, every situation and circumstance in my life told me over and over again that:
"You are not dating material. You are not desirable to women you want. You are not meant to have love or be with beautiful women. You aren't good enough. Stop fighting it. Accept it."
And you know what? All the evidence in my life supported those statements. But stubborn as I was, I could NOT ACCEPT it. So I resisted in futility, over and over again, like an ant trying to move a molehill. None of that changed though, until I began to think outside the box a little, and that's what led to this discovery. Now I have everything I want and desire.
But unfortunately, this solution I've discovered receives virtually NO PUBLICITY, certainly not in the media, and only a little on the internet. The reason is because it's considered taboo, politically incorrect, and goes against the dominance of the man-hating feminists in the media and social culture of America. As a result, the millions of Americans that this discovery would help do not know about it. That's why I've taken it upon myself to create this website to help disseminate this discovery, even if it means standing alone. (After all, if you know something that will help millions of people that is receiving no publicity, shouldn't you do something about it?!)
You know, in this world, there are some things that are plainly obvious and as apparent as the blue sky, yet are too taboo and inappropriate to talk about them, and to do so would incur condemnation and ostracization from others. It's a kind of bizarro world, a form of the "Emperor's New Clothes", where everyone has to pretend to be blind to it. One example of this is the anti-sociality, isolationism, and dysfunctional nature of the social and dating scene of the US, which does not flow smoothly or naturally at all compared to most of the rest of the world. People in the US are generally stuck up, noninclusive, cliquish, paranoid, and uptight about meeting new people or talking to strangers. (An "ice barrier" exists between strangers in the US, hence the expression "break the ice") You are not supposed to complain about any of this, but are in fact expected to like it this way, just like everyone else does. Otherwise, you're a FREAK, loser and reject.
Here are some pictures I took on a Seattle ferry which depict this social isolationism in plain view.
As you can see, isolationism is the norm in this scene, (as it is in most public scenes of the US) whereas socialization is not. No wonder why it's so hard to meet people in the US. You are "supposed" to enjoy being alone in public. If you don't, then there's something "wrong" with you. I could take an infinite number of photos in public places in America that depict the same thing of course, but you get the idea. The point is, though this isolation and anti-sociality is as clear as night and day, which any average person can see, you aren't allowed to talk about it, or you would be seen as a social reject.
Now, normally it would be impolite to try to talk about something that people don't want to talk about. However, this pattern of social isolationism that prevails in the US leads to suffering for many people, such as loneliness, datelessness, sexlessness, friendlessness, a feeling of disconnectedness rather than belonging, etc. all of which lead to depression, unhappiness, mental illness, and a lower quality of life. Frankly, I don't think it's right to let so many people suffer endlessly like that simply because their suffering is a taboo subject. That's just cruel and messed up.
The truth is, very few lonely people in America have the guts to admit to their situation. But you can't blame them, because in America it's a BIG SHAME as well as a loss of pride and dignity to admit that you are lonely, dateless, or friendless. (I guess based on that, one could infer that I have no shame, but I like to think that my passion for the truth, as well as my anger toward injustice and a wasted life, is greater than my fear of shame.) As a result, many of them are in self denial and pretend not to need others. God knows how many are out there suffering silently.
Now, some are able to tolerate these anti-social conditions for long periods of time, or else they just go for years hiding their pain. But others, like me, have no tolerance for it, so we take ACTION to do something about it, even at the peril of venturing down unconventional paths that may be frowned upon by others. Well I braved that risk, rather than living in fear and loneliness, and it paid off BIG TIME, far beyond what I could ever dream of! And that's the discovery I want to share with you.
Then I finally discovered the solution. Though it was quite simple, there are huge psychological and social barriers to it.
GO ABROAD FOR GLOBAL DATING!
Yep that's it. That's the real and complete solution for loneliness, datelessness, friendlessness, and sexlessness in America. What this means is that LOCATION is the ANSWER! (not attitude, like many Americans like to believe) If you have trouble believing that, see these convincing testimonials and interviews from others that will confirm that as in real estate, it's all about location, location, location.
Ever since then, I've been passionate about sharing this discovery, for other lonely guys in my predicament.
From then on, it's only a matter of selecting WHICH overseas country is right for you. But that's the fun part. You see, the trips and adventures you take beyond US borders is a journey that in and of itself brings the cure and all the benefits described below, as well as many discoveries and experiences you otherwise would never have and have never even dreamed of! At that point, whether you settle somewhere or not doesn't really matter, because you've already begun a whole new rich and fulfilling life, so that wherever you belong or fit in best comes naturally, as part of the flow.
The obstacle to this is that not only is this idea taboo, but it's out of our paradigm as well, because we've been conditioned by our society and media to believe that everything that is of any worth, value or importance happens in America, and that beyond its borders everything is bad, horrible, dangerous, and filled with millions of people trying to get into America. In other words, America is the universe and only chaos exists outside of it. Thus, to seek answers beyond US borders is unthinkable to most Americans. Plus, our media has fed us the notion that only "losers" go get wives in other countries.
This is the propaganda we've been fed. Nothing could be further from the truth, but you won't know it unless you go outside "The Matrix" of the US. Until you do though, you might need some convincing, and so that's where this website comes in. If you look over all my material - photojournals, trip reports, pictures, videos, testimonials, etc - you WILL believe and know. The abundant proof is undeniable, irrefutable, and speaks for itself.
You know, after a life of futile dead ends and no-win situations, going abroad was the only REAL solution that worked, permanently, naturally, and with the flow. Suddenly, I felt alive and living my dreams. I did not have to fight uphill battles anymore or try to "make" things happen against the flow and natural order of things. All the vast material on my site proves it. Have a look through my Photojournals, Photo Collages, and Ebook, and you'll see what I mean.
In summary, here are the primary differences I discovered between dating, social life and mental health in the US vs. most countries abroad:
Women are generally paranoid, anti-social, and stuck up toward others, especially strangers. They interact with others only on an "as needed" basis and do not like to meet new people, and if they do, it's only through mutual friends.
They have an off-the-chart sense of entitlement that makes them think they're too good for most guys. The majority of available women are gunning for the 20 percent of men at the top, thinking they deserve no less. This leaves around 80 percent of men without choices, forced to be either alone or settle for someone (fat, ugly, plain) that isn't their top pick.
Single men outnumber single women in America, as evidenced in these stats. This means that there are too many men competing for too few women, giving women too many choices and men too few. Anyone can see this both in real life and in online personal ads, where women receive hundreds of times more responses than men do. And of course, they are far pickier.
Women in America nowadays have a negative general view of men and hatred toward them, which is condoned and supported by the media. In fact, some women meet a different man every week and end up hating every single one of them, regardless of their looks or personality.
Feminism and political correctness have taken over the nation, corrupting women and giving them a false sense of pseudo-power. And the political correctness that shields women from criticism allows them to get away with almost anything with no accountability.
Rather than being tender, soft and feminine like most women of the world aspire to be, they act overly tough and behave like Nordic warriors.
To make things even worse, obesity has become an epidemic, and fashion standards have dropped, decreasing the number of attractive women so that unattractive females now outnumber attractive ones.
Sex with attractive women is very hard to get in America. (And for me, sex with unattractive women is hard to get too) You have to be a very specific category type and hang in very specific groups or cliques. But even then, your choices are limited and dependent on timing and opportunity.
The US social scene is cliquish, closed and exclusive in nature. An "ice barrier" exists between strangers. People are disconnected from each other and interact on an "as needed" basis only. They do not generally like to meet new people. People only meet through mutual friends, school and work. Hence, the average person's social contacts are severely limited. (In fact, the US is the only country I know of where you can be outgoing and sociable yet have no friends)
Friendships tend to be superficial and short term. They grow apart very easily, and are often a mere facade that lacks any true human bond or connection. Furthermore, most of your so called "friends" do not even really like you for you. And of course, most of them do not stick with you through thick and thin. Thus, it's no wonder that so many Americans say that "true friends are hard to find".
The environment, culture and vibe definitely have a dysfuncational effect on one's mental health. That's why the US ranks the highest in mental illness among industrialized nations, as many studies have shown. More people go to psychiatrists and therapists in the US than in any other nation, period. That should tell you something. Furthermore, since many people have no true friends to talk to about their problems they have to go to therapists. There is something in the US that makes one feel insecure, disconnected, isolated, easily down and depressed, and undermines their self-confidence/self-esteem. All around the US, you see many jaded dysfunctional people with issues and baggage, "screw ups" so to speak. And deep down inside, you feel "alone".
So as you can see, it's a losing battle and sinking ship, as well as a waste of time and life, at least for some such as myself. There are just way too many factors stacked against the average single guy in America these days that make seeking fulfillment from females an almost futile endeavor.
But in most of the other 200 countries outside the US, most or all of these factors are reversed.
In most countries abroad:
Women do not put up unnatural defensive barriers toward men or strangers, but are open, approachable, sociable, and talk to strangers as if they already know them. They love meeting new people, and are not anti-social or paranoid.
Women are not angry or hateful, and act more humble and modest. They respect men, rather than see them as creeps. They enjoy flattery and compliments, and like being "hit on" or pursued, finding it manly and charming rather than "creepish".
In many third world countries, single women outnumber single men, giving men the upperhand with a surplus of choices. The high birth rate in such countries adds to this, as well as the fact that many males emigrate overseas to work.
Females are usually thin or height/weight proportionate and enjoy being feminine, acting feminine and dressing feminine. Obesity is rare and the attractive women outnumber the unattractive ones.
Contrary to dysfunctional US females, they really do like NICE GUYS, supported by their ACTIONS not just their words. They stick with them, love them, and sleep with them.
Basically, they are the way women were meant to be, which is refreshing to the Western male.
Best of all, normal men (decent guys with no mental problems) actually have CHOICES among attractive women in other countries, either just as many as the women do, if not more. There are not millions of lonely depressed guys with no social life or female companionship and unable to do anything about it like there are in the US (which is probably the loneliest country in the world).
Sex with attractive women is generally easier to get overseas, ranging from a little easier in some countries (Western Europe, Australia), to a lot easier in others (Russia, Eastern Europe, South America, Mexico), and overflowing in others (Philippines, Thailand, China).
The social environment is naturally inclusive, so that one does not feel inherently disconnected from everyone else, even if they're alone (whereas in the US, you can be around hundreds of people yet feel totally alone, and you can also be outgoing and sociable yet be excluded and have no friends, unbelievably).
People generally like to meet new people, and social interaction is not limited to cliques, school and work. Instead, it flows naturally and smoothly. It is normal to meet people in public situations. There is not a weird "ice barrier" between strangers like there is in the US. And people generally talk to strangers with a comfortable natural demeanor, as if they already know them. Thus, if you are outgoing and sociable, you are guaranteed to make friends and meets lots of people.
Friendships tend to be deeper, more sincere and close-knit. They are also more long-lasting and enduring, with a truer human bond and connection. With foreign friends, a more natural camaraderie develops or is often instant. They are closer to the kind of ideal friendships you read about and cherished as a child in wholesome fictional stories that hold a place in your heart and memories. And of course, it is easy to find people that like you for you. In fact, "true friendships" develop more naturally and smoothly.
Mental health is more normal and wholesome. People have problems of course, but no one seems to need psychiatrists or therapists like in the US. They are able to deal with them on their own. There is a natural sense of connectedness and community with others, rather than isolation and disconnectedness like in the US. Deep down, you do not feel "alone" like in America.
These things are a huge refreshing difference, a world of difference in fact. All the material in my Photojournals and Photo Collage, prove it beyond a shadow of a doubt. Though these differences are as glaringly obvious as the blue sky above, NONE of it receives ANY publicity in the US. You aren't supposed to know about them for some reason. And that's what this website tries to remedy, by getting this info out there and educating those who need to know. Remember folks, you don't have to put up with loneliness and datelessness in America!
So, if you're one of the lonely, dateless, sexless men in America who has tried everything and are at a dead end, consider yourself lucky to have found this website. There are millions of lonely men in America with no female companionship or social life, who can't do anything about it, sitting at home during their free time, jerking off on the couch in front of the TV, eating potato chips or playing video games, and living in denial. Most of them will never hear about any of this. They will never know what they are missing beyond "The Matrix", will never know about the abundant social and love life they could have, and will never experience the touch of a beautiful woman.
But who's going to share this "Gospel" with them? Who's going to tell them about the "Holy Grail" that will cure their lonely ailment and change their lives? The corporate media won't. The government won't. The schools and teachers won't (if they're students). Their friends, neighbors and coworkers won't (at least not most of them). Not even liberal Hollywood or its celebrities and stars will. Nor will the the newspapers, magazines, journals, independent news sources, television, or radio. Not even Howard Stern will tell them about it. Not even other expatriate sites will (they are only relocation guides or host property listings). Almost no one will.
But I WILL! :) (shouldn't somebody?)
Otherwise, there's only a slim chance they might find out about it somewhere on the internet or a friend might tell them, but the overall chances are small. During my 20 years of loneliness in America, I never heard about it either. So if you know any of them, please pass this website on to them. If you're wondering if this site is for losers, then click here.
Or, you could take the alternative to going abroad, which is namely, staying in the US and following the conventional wisdom of 1) Working on yourself, and 2) Join clubs and activities, and maybe you'll attract the "right person" someday. To see why this approach is futile and inferior, see here.
I'll tell you, as many others in my path will, that once you go abroad and experience all this, you'll never want to go back and you'll be kicking yourself for not having gone sooner. If you haven't yet, see the Comparison Chart I created to get the big picture.
Of course, no one path or formula is right for everyone, but if you fit most of the criteria in this Checklist, then this just might be the way for you.
Besides curing loneliness, being abroad leads to other fringe benefits:
Many things are cheaper in other countries, saving you a ton of money and multiplying your buying power.
You'll meet a lot more friendly, quality, relaxed, sincere people, than you ever have in your lifetime.
You'll have great travel experiences, wonderful adventures, and learn many interesting things, in places and cultures that most people back in your country can't even imagine. In fact, the process of learning every little new thing in a new country will return that child-like sense of wonder and awe that you used to have, and time will seem to move much slower as well :)
Being in a different world will add more dimensions to your life, soul and worldview. A multi-national existence will make you more cultured and refined, giving you a broader view of the world.
You will feel more interconnected with others and the environment around you, rather than alienated and disconnected like in the individualistic/independent lifestyle of the US, thus feel more "spiritual".
You will be glad that you took the leap, and look back on those left in your country with pity, muttering "If only they knew." But of course, with a US passport you are free to return and visit any time you want.
Now, don't get me wrong, I love America, the principles it was found upon, and all that it stands for, as well as the great things it's done in the world. But the reality is that for me and many men, America has the WORST social and dating scene in the world. And since my biggest interest is beautiful women and dating, I was doomed to be unhappy, lonely, frustrated and dissatisfied in America, unless I did something about it. Like the saying goes, "Extreme situations require extreme measures."
In addition, there are mental health and psychological reasons to be abroad. See my articles about that here:
Anyhow, if you've gotten this far, I thank you for your interest and for allowing me to share my discovery with you. If my cause has struck a chord with you, you may begin by browsing the rest of the content of this site from the home page or menu tabs above. The material in each section validates my claims in some way, through photographs, videos, examples, testimonials, and trip reports, to the point of certainty. You can also see these awesome Video Reviews by Fans.