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What's really going on with Asian women?--Black women

Postby zboy1 » Sun Aug 04, 2013 10:52 pm


Haha...looks like Asian men are not the only ones that notice the behavior of Asian women and their self-hatred:

http://www.lipstickalley.com/f244/whats ... en-366111/

Black female forum:

I was trying out a new nail salon getting a manicure and began talking to the lady. I told her I was single and she said there was a guy there and pointed to a hispanic looking guy. He was half italian/half asian though she said. She kept saying "he's half italian", the other guys here in here (the rest asian like her) she said were short. but it was her whole attitude behind it.

Since I've been in college I keep meeting Asian women who say to me "I've only seen myself with a White guy", or "I don't even find Asian men attractive". I'm a black woman, mind you, so no one else think it's weird that 99.9% of the time I have Asian women ( when we discuss men & dating)tell me that they don't find Asian men attractive?

Hey, it's none of my business but at the same time I have to wonder. I thought they faced less racism than we do, what's behind the obvious self-hate?

Nothing is technically wrong with interracial dating but when you have a race of women who typically prefer to dog out their race of men and prefer a different race, one has to wonder.

Are they dealing with something that we as black people are not seeing? Do they merely want to be white and have white kids? or do they really just not think that Asian men are physically attractive compared to white men?


I just want to add that it doesn't have anything to do with us as blacks, but as a black woman with all types of friends, which includes alot of Asians, I have to wonder and wanted to discuss. I think it's weird for them to be so open with saying how they don't find their race of men attractive. I mean the country is indeed majority white but I'm at the point now where I'm a little uncomfortable, although I know to expect it now. Sometimes I have to defend Asian men when around them and tell them of good experiences I've had with them as friends and what I've seen from them in relationships. I've even had several Asian women who were married to an Asian guy ( like Vietnamese, Japanese or other) say they wish they had married a White.

It gets weird after a while. I would never confront one about it but I wanted to discuss, preferably with fellow black people. Are they dealing with something that we are not seeing?


I tend to agree. People talk about black men and some of them definitely have self hate issues, but I find Asian Women to be the absolute worst. So many of them seem to think that they HAVE to date a White man. Something is up when 45% of Asian women in the US are married to White Men. I can't tell you how many times i've been outside and seen Asian women with White men and the way they act with them it's just pathetic. They act like they have some huge prize. I've even heard Asian men complain that Asian women are too into White men.

I remember one time seeing an Asian lady and her White husband at a restaurant and it was just embarrassing the way she was acting with him. Fawning all over him. She was cutting up his food for him. Putting a napkin on his neck. Stirring his drink.She was treating him like he was a helpless child. I'm suprised she didn't burp him too! lol

I don't have a problem with IR dating, but I do believe Asian Women have a self hate problem. Otherwise, I don't see why so many of them date White Men and why so many feel the need to be with White men.

I think it's a status thing for them probably, but it's sad really


Anyways, once my best friend (the Chinese one) threatened to punch this Filipino girl in the face. The Filipino girl was with a white guy who kept staring at my girl. She was ignoring it. The Filipino girl tried to come over and say something. Long story short my friend spit in the girl's face, told her to come closer so she could punch her in the face. And then they were separated from one another. The other chick looked scared.


asian women would date a white man that treats them like shit

i dont understand the asian man small dick thing because white dudes have small dicks too

alot of white guys ive talked to told me they couldnt compete with blk men in that department thats y they stayed away from blk females


I think a lot of them have self esteem issues. Always dating ugly ass men of other races... rarely on their level physically. They almost always assimilate to the American culture and abandon everything Asian about themselves. I've noticed that Asians as a group seem a little lost.. Theres no cohesive defining culture. A lot of them Join other culture rather than create their own. I think in the next few years we'll see a rivalry between Asian and white women. Its not gonna be pretty but as a black woman I'll enjoy it.


This is so true! I thought black men dogged out black women (and black women dogged out black men), but we have nothing on Asian women dogging out Asian men! It was unsolicited too.

I actually feel uncomfortable when my Asian roommate dogs out Asian men. Another roommate and I have actually stuck up for Asian men. It was just weird to me, because I never criticize black folks as a group unless I'm with other fellow blacks. I also find it weird (and suspect) when someone refuses to date their own race. The finest, sweetest Laotian/Laotian-American dude could be wooing my roommate, and it wouldn't phase her at all.


Damnnn....some brutal observations about Asian women from Black girls on this forum. And they're sticking-up for the Asian men against the Asian women that act like this...Hmnnn...Maybe I should think about dating Black chicks for real--if they're this loyal to their men....I love it!

Though, some of the Black females are dissing the Black men that act like 'Asian females,' LOL.
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Re: What's really going on with Asian women?--Black women

Postby zboy1 » Sun Aug 04, 2013 10:53 pm


Some more comments:

Black men who think that Asian women are submissive will be in for a rude awakening! Hell, I live in a neighborhood surrounded by 95% Asian/Asian-American people and I've yet to meet a submissive Asian woman.


Well, the couples I come across are usually older men 60's, and younger AW 30's.
A lot of these men don't have anybody or their wife has passed so they "pay" for women overseas.
Usually, the women can't speak English well and the man pretty much buys everything she wants.
As for younger Asian women they do hook up with some unattractive white dudes.

White supremacy has hit black people the worst, but some Asian people got it bad too.
Assimilation, status, and money are big factors (I'm not saying all these couples are like that, either).
The irony is that as a person of color our genetics dominate, so I'm sure to those who marry so their kids will look like "Brad Pitt" is outta luck


Yeah, up until high school I was around primarily blacks. A few year when I was very young it was mostly whites. When I first started having conversations and an Asian female would say that to me I wouldn't care, I just figured they wanted to assimilate. Me being black also, I didn't think it was any of my business. But after a while and over many years of experiencing it and opening myself up to hanging out with any people I find to be cool ( which includes alot of East Asians I meet ) I keep experiencing it to the point where it's just dang weird to me.

and yeah, me being a black woman, I find it weird that they so openly are willing to spend a whole 10 - 15 minutes talking about all that is wrong with Asian men and all that is wonderful about White and European men. Asians seem more accepted in this white supremacist society we live in but geez, they sure have alot of self-hate/white supremacy issues.


In America, it seems most women want white men except Black women(we all know why that is). It is not just Asian women. Once Hispanic women go to college or become Americanized, a lot of them marry Anglos. Look it up if you don't believe me.


That may be in some parts of the country but when there are Hispanic men on college campuses and around, I see plenty of Hispanic women with Hispanic men. In conversations with Hispanic women of all different nationalities and races only a RARE few have expressed this God-like vision of White men. Some have included White men in the men they like to date but I would say Hispanics and Indians when their own are around, tend to date their own group when they can - in middle class, college educated situations is what I'm referring to.


Yeah but black women wanting light kids is not as prevalant as Asian women thinking they should marry and pro-create with a White Man. Black culture has evolved and we have had no choice but try to be proud and embrace ourselves. Asians are seemingly more accepted, so the blatant self-hate and rejection of Asian men is odd.


Yup, the white guys they are with 80% of the time tend to be the really geeky/extremely unattractive ones. Asian women/white men couples tend to be extremely unattractive. Not always but by and large.


Yes. I remember when my ex friend (who happens to be asian) and I was having a conversation about guys and I had made a statement like "you're probably used to asian guys" and she corrected my ass with the quickness. She said. "Hell no I don't date Asian guys. I've only been with white guys." First I side eyed her ass. Then I laughed and asked how come you don't date Asian guys? She said they are controlling and she don't find them attractive." I said "oh."

Her parents are white though. Maybe that's why she have views like that.


I think asian women date out the most. I would be mad as hell if I was an asian man.


White men stay winning. And they are always going to win in the end. As long as they have EVERYBODY thinking that the more white you are the better, they will always win. Always.
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Re: What's really going on with Asian women?--Black women

Postby zboy1 » Sun Aug 04, 2013 10:54 pm


i see it all of the time... even all of my asian girlfriends refuse to date asain men - and they find it weird that I love asain men. my first was viet.

but i cant stand how people try to make it seem like only BW get upset over IR dating. clearly that is not the case.

but hey, as long as you need a scapegoat



And I especially love this one exchange:

An Asian women tries to slag off all Asian men as 'abusers and cheaters,' but this one Black women is not buying it!:

I'm Vietnamese and I don't have any self hatred towards Asian men. My ex was Laos and he was very physically abusive. My other ex was Vietnamese and he cheated on me less then 24 hours of our relationship. All of my (6)aunties married Asian men and now there going through divorces. They can be abusive, chauvinist, and cheaters. Thus, changing the ways I view Asian men in general.


Most Asian men are not attracted to me because I'm not "petite" compare to native Vietnamese women. I'm 5ft4 and weigh 125 LB. I'm average size in America, however in my native country it would be more ideal to be a stick figure.

Currently, I only date whites, Hispanics, and mixed guys. I just find them more attractive.. It is a "Preference" thing. If i'm attracted to you, then i'm attracted to you, thats what it is. You can't force someone to be attracted to a certain race.

I love facial features of other races, It is exotic in my eyes... I would love to have mix babies some day, nothing wrong with interracial dating. My friend is black and she only dates Hispanics. I see nothing wrong with that because it is a "preference."

Asian women look for financial security because we want the best for our future generation. I look for someone who can provide me medicine, food, shelter, and good looking kids. Love can always develop later.. Ofcourse, i need to be physically attracted to someone in order to love them.


Black female response:

I just don't understand how you can judge and swear off all Asian men based on TWO men. Just on those TWO experiences. There are plenty of Asian American men who are nothing like your exes. Have any of your non-Asian boyfriends done you wrong? I feel like if some of your white or hispanic boyfriends cheated on you or acted abusive towards you, you would still give white and hispanic men the benefit of the doubt as a whole.

I Love it!!!The Black women was not going to stand by and let that Asian women spew bigoted crap about Asian men...
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Re: What's really going on with Asian women?--Black women

Postby zboy1 » Sun Aug 04, 2013 10:54 pm


Yes, here's another horrendous story from an Asian guy about an Asian women that dissed all Asian men in front of laughing White people:

http://www.hey-ai.com/forum/35-frequent ... s?start=50


Real life situation I have been in:

(At a party with lots people including non-Asians)

Asian American girl: "I don't date Asian guys"

Non-Asian people: "Huh, why the hell not?!" [clearly thinking this is strange]

Asian American girl: "Because Asian guys are all short and nerdy"

Non-Asian people: [Some slight laughs ]

Asian American girl: "And they all have really small penises!"

[Crowd erupts in laughter, with the Asian American girl leading the way]

Asian American girl: [Uses her thumb and index finger to measure 1 inch] "Yes so tiny!"

[Everyone laughs even louder, all the white women look at me mockingly assuming I have a 1 inch penis, cause hey, who better to know the truth about Asian guys than Asian women right?]

I stand there absolutely humiliated, shocked and feeling like I want to cry from embarrassment. All the white girls there look at me laughing, clearly with absolute derision. I know what they are thinking. Some white guys pat me on the back and say sarcastically "It's ok buddy, size isn't everything"

The Asian girl joins all the white people and I sink into the background with my confidence and self esteem in ruins. The white girl I had just met before and was having a good conversation with quietly moves away from me and starts talking to other people. All the other girls, White and Asian, subtly ignore me for the rest of the night, and I am implicitly excluded from the group.

I came to the night in my best clothes, spent hundreds of dollars on the latest fashion, styled my hair well, and was hyped up and ready to meet all the pretty girls (even the Asian ones). I was full of confidence, my game plan was primed and ready. And then what happens?

The Asian girls pull out the small dick jokes, all the white girls laugh and think I'm not worth shit, my game plan is destroyed and I get completely exterminated from the nights dating scene.

After getting sick of being ignored and not having the face to approach any of the girls who laughed at me, I slip away to the bar, no-one cares or even notices. I down shot after shot of vodka to compensate myself for an appallingly disastrous night. Instead of leaving with some beautiful girls ready to party into the morning as I had hoped for, I head home in misery and despair.

Then in a cruel ironic twist of fate, I spend the rest of the night mindlessly playing computer games to pass the depressing time, the very nerd stereotype I had tried so hard to get away from and convince everyone wasn't true.

As I down some more whisky and slump onto the couch ready to fall into a deep sleep and forget the pain, I picture the most likely scenario, all the Asian girls probably left the party with white guys. And here I am, sitting by myself at home pussyless, knowing I will never see any of those girls at the party ever again.

But then I realise, the night and my game plan which I had prepared for battle with so much strength, determination, confidence and motivation had not been annihilated by a cataclysmic event, or by a series of major defeats my many powerful adversaries, but by one sentence and one woman: THE ASIAN WOMAN
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What a fucked-up story! What race of women would slag their own race like that to gain approval from White people...sigh.
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Re: What's really going on with Asian women?--Black women

Postby zboy1 » Sun Aug 04, 2013 10:57 pm


Do any of you women know the kind of self-hating Asian American girls written in these posts? Are you friends with any of them? I'm curious to know how the females here view how Asian men are treated by Asian females most of the time...?
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Re: What's really going on with Asian women?--Black women

Postby Renata » Mon Aug 05, 2013 6:43 am


I don't have any asian girlfriends. I live in Turkey lol, so it's just Europeans. arabs & Persians.

I have noticed though that asian media promotes Euroaisan looking people in almost all their Adverts, campaings, TV shows, TV Hosts and News anchors. The Euroaisan is the new Face of Asia! :shock: How can that be, it's obiously the new standard of beauty' if that's what they're doing. Maybe this has alot to do with it, or i could be wrong since I'm not versed on the subject matter. It's an observation from watching foreign TV like HKTV, & a few other channels I get here.
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Re: What's really going on with Asian women?--Black women

Postby zboy1 » Mon Aug 05, 2013 1:12 pm


Renata wrote:I don't have any asian girlfriends. I live in Turkey lol, so it's just Europeans. arabs & Persians.

I have noticed though that asian media promotes Euroaisan looking people in almost all their Adverts, campaings, TV shows, TV Hosts and News anchors. The Euroaisan is the new Face of Asia! :shock: How can that be, it's obiously the new standard of beauty' if that's what they're doing. Maybe this has alot to do with it, or i could be wrong since I'm not versed on the subject matter. It's an observation from watching foreign TV like HKTV, & a few other channels I get here.


Yes, I've noticed that as well. It's sad really...I wish Asians had more pride in themselves like the Turks; then maybe, Asians wouldn't have such inferiority complexes towards Whites...
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Re: What's really going on with Asian women?--Black women

Postby Renata » Tue Aug 06, 2013 7:12 pm


Asians have alot over the Whites ..:
better skin
less body hair
straight natural salon silky black hair
skilled & unskilled manpower
state of the art technology
martial arts
natural medicine & remedies
better food
better culture
more tradition & honour codes

I need to visit Asia I've never been there :geek:
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Re: What's really going on with Asian women?--Black women

Postby Ava Paige » Fri Sep 06, 2013 6:47 am


Wow, those were intense opinions and stories. Yet, they happen in real life but not as widely discussed as why white men like Asian girls or why Asian girls like white men.
I'm from Southeast Asia and in our culture, foreign-looking is good looking. That is the usual standard for beauty in here so mixed races usually get the most attention and are usually judged as good looking. I mean, people probably got tired of the usual sea of black hair, brown skin and dark eyes so they're now looking for lighter shades of color.
Anyway, as for why Asian women hate Asian men, I have some speculations:

1. Asian men have huge tendencies to be womanizers and drunkards. Not all, but most. It's a part of male culture in here. In Asian male culture, you're not a real man if you don't drink and don't have tons of women on your lap.

2. Asian men can be too shy and lack confidence. In the Philippines, we call this kind of men "torpe" or those who don't know how to approach women. It can be very frustrating for women sometimes, especially if they like the guy. In Asia, it is not normal for the girl to make the first move, so if the guy takes things too slow they just forget about him. This has happened to me several times and it sucks.

3. Asian women have different tastes, and some Asian men just don't happen to pass the standards. Some local men are just too short, their height not exceeding 5'5" and let's face it, height is a plus factor for women.

4. Hmm, did I forget anything else?

Personally, I've only ever dated mixed races (Filipino-Chinese, Filipino-Spanish, Filipino-American, etc.) and an American guy not because I hate pure Filipino guys but because local men are not a perfect match for me. I am 5'6" tall with light skin and of course, I would want to date a taller and lighter skinned guy. It's not that I hate local guys but it just so happens that mixes and foreign guys (especially white guys) seem to be a good match for me and my tastes in men, which is hard to find in local men.

So yeah, sometimes it doesn't mean that those Asian women hate their men. Maybe they're just bitter, were treated badly or had bad experiences in dating local men. Some were probably just like me, who just happen to find what they're looking for in foreign guys or even with just mixed races.
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