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BIG SECRETS the US media NEVER tells you about!
If you are a single Western male, here are some liberating life-changing truths and comparisons that conventional sources will NEVER tell you about. The following is common knowledge among many expat males but unknown to the US mainstream population. Some expats prefer that these truths remain secret for selfish reasons, but I believe that a good thing should be shared and discussed openly, so that ignored problems are understood and dealt with, rather than denied.
First, The BIGGEST SECRET that's being kept from you is that if you are an average decent Western male, you are GOLD and a BIG CATCH to millions of thin, beautiful, feminine, approachable, down-to-earth, authentic women all over the world who will treat YOU right - for REAL! No joke. This is a HUGE life changing secret that has transformed the lives of many single Western men, but is never told to the general public by mainstream sources because this truth is taboo to mention in our politically correct culture and society. That is a big INJUSTICE and we are here to help correct that. When guys discover this overseas, they typically go into disbelief and awe, exclaiming "My God, where have I been all this time?! This is how women were meant to be when God created them - feminine, natural, authentic, down-to-earth, sweet. Why didn't someone tell me about this sooner?!" Now, we all know the rule of thumb that, "If something sounds too good to be true, it probably is." But this is ONE of the exceptions (which we have abundant proof of) making it one of the Biggest Secrets! Many guys have trouble believing this until they experience it themselves. So that's what we are here for, to show you a mountain of proof which will inspire you and open up different worlds to you!
You see, in many overseas countries, the gender and dating imbalances are reversed in YOUR favor! As you know, in the US it seems that every decent-looking female is either taken, super picky, or not even looking, leaving a large percentage of single males out of luck. They also carry baggage, and are jaded, cynical and unfeeling, lacking the positive qualities of the feminine. To make matters worse, they believe that they don't even need men, thus you are unwanted and unnecessary to them. Somehow, they seem to be "programmed" to reject and disqualify nearly every guy they meet. It's gotten so bad that it's not even worth your time to try anymore. The choices just aren't there. Thus, America has become a "dysfunctional dating hell" beyond words for men. But of course, all of this is taboo - meaning that you aren't allowed to talk about it openly. Instead, you're only allowed to either pretend that everything is great, or blame yourself, neither of which does any good.
On the other hand, in many other cultures (Russia, Ukraine, Eastern Europe, China, Southeast Asia, Mexico, Latin America, etc.) these things are REVERSED due to various economic, cultural and demographic factors. In poorer countries, there aren't enough good men, and a surplus of good women, so the females are the ones who have to impress the males with their looks, caring nature, sweetness and femininity, giving males the upper hand! In such cultures, females are allowed to retain their true nature, unlike in the US. Some countries also have certain cultural factors in your favor as well, such as being more open and inclusive, having a more authentic culture, or remaining non-feminist and more appreciative of men, etc. So, whereas the USA is a dating paradise for any decent-looking female, in many other cultures you will find a dating paradise for YOU, giving you so many choices that it will spoil you rotten! This is GOOD NEWS and life-changing to the lives of many guys in America. But you don't have to worry about us spoiling it for you though. With the USA comprising only 5 percent of the world's population, and the fact that most men who write foreign women never actually get off their butt to go overseas, you do not need to worry about saturation.
The truth is there are so many quality available women all over the world who are thin, feminine, sweet, approachable, unspoiled and will treat you right, that you will have trouble deciding which one to choose! So why would you want to remain on a sinking ship, when you could skyrocket your love life and dating from zero to infinity by simply dating globally rather than locally?! Now, this might sound too good to be true and you might be wondering what the catch is, but I will swear to you that it is. Me and many others have lived and experienced it firsthand. Our Testimonials, Interviews, Photos and Videos, will prove it to you beyond a shadow of a doubt. Though nothing beats firsthand experience, we are the next best thing. The bottom line is that if you want, you can find a better quality relationship overseas, or party like a Rock Star in areas of the world like Latin America or Southeast Asia, for really cheap! Why should only the rich and famous be allowed to? You can too! All you have to do is to make the mental choice to do so. We can guide you from there on. Once you do, you'll realize that your new "global lifestyle" was the normal natural thing all along, which has finally let out the "real you", while your situation in the US was the "invisible cage".
America is one of the worst cultures (if not the worst) for men in terms of Dating, Social Connection and Mental Health. This is very easy to prove, but very HARD to say, because it's so taboo. You see, in our culture, you are only allowed to say that everything is great, or blame yourself. You aren't allowed to blame the environment or culture. That is forbidden and makes you look like a loser. Thus, truth is forbidden in America, the "land of the free". Admittedly, while America is a great country with technological advancements, well-meaning people, and offers many nice luxuries and amenities, what it does NOT offer is a culture and environment conducive to natural healthy relationships, friendships and self-esteem/mental health, but instead offers the exact opposite. (See here for a detailed explanation and these leading expert opinions that back our claims) Its socially dysfunctional culture has left many lonely, isolated, alienated, insecure, dateless and sexless, but forbidden to complain about it. Going abroad has been the only real effective solution that has worked consistently and naturally for the average male. All of this is ignored by the US media which focuses primarily on economic issues, jobs, tragedies, and anything to keep you dumbed down and distracted in a state of fear and paranoia.
America is inherently devoid of human connection. People have this box or bubble around them. "Every man is an island", so to speak. People don't talk to strangers unless it's business related. Most do not even know their neighbors. The culture and values inherently divides people and doesn't unite them. Social segregation is the norm. As a result, many naturally feel disconnected, fragmented, insecure, unworthy, depressed, isolated, alone and lonely. But of course, they blame themselves for it, rather than the culture or the environment, which keeps them from discussing it. For some reason these things are never discussed publicly. Most people are in denial about it, afraid to talk about it, or assume that it's normal. Thus there is a deafening silence about something so obvious. But in most other countries, there is a much more natural sense of connectedness. People are easier to meet and befriend. They do not have a thick psychological wall or bubble around them, and aren't as anti-social, reserved or stuck up. Instead, they talk to strangers like they already know them, with an "instant familiarity" vibe. As a result, human relationships, friendships and dating are much healthier and more natural. Mental health and social life are generally much better outside North America. See my article about this here.
The above is especially helpful if you like to meet beautiful women. When you see a girl you like in most countries, you are allowed to meet her and express an interest in her. It is acceptable and not seen as "creepish, inappropriate or out of bounds" like it is in the US. Thus when you see an attractive girl, you are allowed to do something about it, instead of just watching her pass into oblivion like you're forced to in the US. See my Approachable Faces Gallery for examples as well as my Photo Collage.
In most other countries, dating happens more naturally and with the flow. Boy meets girl, they flirt and express interest in each other, go out, hold hands, say "I like you" to each other, kiss, cuddle and so forth. But in the US it is awkward and unnatural. It does not happen easily and men feel like they have to have "game" or master some "techniques" to get women, all of which is unnatural and mostly fails anyway. My Photo Collage demonstrates how easy and natural this is in other countries.
In most other countries, attractive girls do not always tell you that they are taken, like in the US, and women are not programmed to seek ways to "disqualify" every guy they meet, as they seem to do in America. In many foreign countries, you can always find plenty of attractive girls who say they are single, available and want to get to know you. The whole "meeting girls" process is so much more natural and genuine. This is a refreshing contrast to the US, where many women reject 99 percent of their admirers.
Outside of the US and UK, going to see a therapist or psychiatrist is virtually UNHEARD of. I'm serious about this. It's true, yet the average American has no idea that people in other countries don't have to see mental health professionals. If they did, they'd realize the obvious implication - that life and relationships in the US are so unnaturally DYSFUNCTIONAL and toxic beyond words, that many Americans go berzerk in dealing with it all amidst a soulless empty existence. This speaks volumes, yet the media never talks about it. Even the UK, compared to the US, has a far lower rate of people going to see "shrinks" (though some say things are getting worse there). The simple truth is that outside the Anglosphere, people have close friends or relatives to talk to, and their lives - which contain problems too - are far more AUTHENTIC and GENUINE than in America. Thus, going to a therapist is unheard of in the rest of the world. But most Americans don't know this at all. Well, at least now you know...
However, for some reason though, when you openly mention any of the above secrets and comparisons, people either get upset and offended, or delighted (if they agree). They may become angry and deny it all, or resort to attacking and ridiculing you. It's as if mentioning these truths violates some sort of unspoken boundary. But the fact is, love, dating, social connection, mental health, self-esteem are very IMPORTANT areas of life that contribute to one's happiness and well being, and hence anything that affects them ought to be very RELEVANT. Therefore, placing such truths in the "forbidden" category, as our society has done, is just plain wrong. Instead, our media prefers to only to focus on economic issues, as if that's all anyone cares about, thinks about and needs. Due to taboos, people only feel safe talking about lighthearted non-controversial topics like the weather, sports, what you did over the weekend, etc. Thus, the important truths above are "out of bounds" even though they matter. This is simply not right. Just as the body needs a balanced set of nutrients, one's life also has a balanced set of needs which are not limited to economic areas only. We are one of the few sites out there that help correct this and shed light on these ignored but important areas of life.
If you're interested in these truths and how they may change your life, you may start by browsing the rest of the site content on the Home Page or see my Articles Index.
Otherwise, you can return to the fake world of the US media where you are fed mindless entertainment, bad news to keep you living in fear and paranoia, and told that working and consuming alone makes you happy, while putting up a fake facade all day long that every day is great and hunky dory and never complain about anything in order to fit into the fake prison of your culture. The choice is yours.