jamesbond wrote:I agree with Winston when he says on his website American women are the most unapproachable, unfriendly, antisocial and paranoid women in the world! But it's not just the women, the men in American are also aloof and don't like talking to strangers. In America there is the mentality that we don't talk to strangers and some people don't even talk to their neighbors! How are you supposed to meet people when it's taboo to talk to strangers? I guess the bars and nightclubs are the only socially acceptable places to talk to strangers! That really limits your opportunities to meet people. No wonder why so many people are using the personal ads and internet dating! People even avoid making eye contact with others when out in public!
IMO if we look back to a time when humans lived in smaller tribal settlements, we were probably quite xenophobic because bumping into folks from other tribes sometimes resulted in beheadings (or scalping in North America). When people visited another tribe, they had to be very cautious. I recall watching a show on Amazon natives, one visitor came to a village and he sat by the entrance area for everyone to see. He waited patiently for someone in the tribe to come fetch him, because had he intruded right away, he may have been killed.
Relations between men and women varied, but usually these tribal societies had some kind of festival or event where boys and girls are allowed to meet and dance. Outside of permissible "meeting events", eloping with someone's daughter might end very badly for you.
It's funny to compare this to modern day people's behavior. With advent of trains, automobiles, urbanization, WW1 / WW2, etc., people from all kinds of backgrounds find themselves living next to each other in the city. Yet instinctively I think we still have some "genetic memory" on how to protect ourselves by forming cliques (to replace tribes) and act cautiously to strangers. Also, instead of dances around the bonfire, we go to clubs to dance around a disco ball, or some other sanctioned social event.
This kind of defensive behavior is also evident in real estate, where walled, exclusive communities command higher price and rent. Just as our ancestors built walls and dug moats, we still value the safety and security of walls and gates.
In old days people built fortifications in carefully chosen locations, where access is limited and the enemy cannot assault you from the rear. Just as castles were protected in the rear by inaccessible cliff, lake, river, or some other geographic feature, we still value building exclusive communities on hills with limited access roadways. If you knew your guests (wanted or not) can only come from one direction, it makes it easier to defend your castle.
Also, older cities like Tokyo built many confusing alleyways that twist and turn, with many dead-ends. So if the enemy invaded, they might get lost and give you the opportunity to hit them from rear or flee. Having fences and difficult to nagivate roads also prevent fast-moving raiders on horses from coming in to snach your people/goods and getting away quickly.
Today when people shop for a good gated community, they also look at its layout and road access. If the community is arranged like grid-iron pattern, it makes it easy for a child molester to rush in, grab your kid, and run away. Community parks next to major streets also make it easier for criminals to drive up in their car and rob you. This is why good master-planned communities have slower, curvy roads, sometimes confusing with end-ends, and HOA/association parks located in the center of the community under everyone's watchful eye.
Homes in well-defended communities retain their value better, because as humans we somehow instinctively know the value of good security. As Americans we express this through suburban sprawl (away from undesirable areas) and development of walled, exclusive communities. This is very evident in locations like South Orange County (California) where the residents resist ubranization and construction of more rail through their communities, preferring to remain behind the safety of their walled enclaves, and hanging out with their exclusive clique (tribe).
People retreat to this self-defense mentality when they feel threatened. Why is it that suburban America, one of the safest places in the world, produce such paranoid people? I don't have an answer for that, but I can tell you that people leave their walled enclaves and cliques willingly when they're discontent, or feel that they'd get a better deal elsewhere.
So, you see, it's difficult to "break in" and take an American women who is well protected by the safety of her "tribe" and defensive walls, which can be real (socio-economic barrier) or virtual (sexual market value). It takes a lot of time and effort, unless if you got lucky at a dance around the bonfire (clubbing), or if you're lucky enough to have a high sexual market value that makes her want to abandon her walled enclave to be with you.
p.s. I apologize if my real estate analogies are head-spinning