skateboardstephen wrote:Yeah but the Iceman also said she played him though...he never really got into detail about what happened...maybe a could ask him what happened.??djfourmoney wrote:I actually wasn't talking about you, feeling guilty? lolskateboardstephen wrote:If you where referring to me we you said "assume"..You forget i live here and go to the grocery store with my wife..i go to church with my wife and the mall..clubs with some friends(even though i don't like clubs)..i use public transportation i live 5 minutes off the most famous beach in Salvador near the two most famous neighborhoods where all the tourist go...i am not saying it is impossible to for black men to meet the women they want i am just saying with certain ones it is going to be a harder than others depending on Race,skin color and social economic status...I am reporting what i see....i just met a Black dude who was living in Rio and we have made the same observation pertaining to race ,dating and social status in Brazil.djfourmoney wrote:I sort of don't understand.... But here goes.kai1275 wrote: Interesting. Being who you are, do you think you have it easier than your average black guy?
One thing I do not like about Latinas is that they often times take just as much if not more work, (game/swag/whatever) to pull their attention. Feels like trying to pull a non-freak white woman sometimes. Too much peacock routine shit. If you step down like talk to a 6-7, when you are normally a 8-9 pullable guy, they play hard to get too much too. Might be insecurity. I have had more Latinas flake on me in the US than Asian women here in the US too. Might have to do with my Chinese is much better than my Spanish, lol.
The 8-10s think any 7-9 guy is not good enough for them and play alot of games but may give up eventually. I'm personally too impatient for shit like that. I give each woman about 5 mins-15 mins of my time. A 9+ one, maybe 1 hour at the most. I'm much too busy with my work usually to play games with women. Of course that does not work well in the US. Hence the need for going abroad....
If you want to meet many women in a short amount of time, the best thing to do is go on one of these group/gang tours put on by AFA, TLC or something. There you will meet 150-200-300 women over a four or five day period. Some (many?) are uncomfortable when put in that position and fail.
Those that can focus usually find success.
But what I am trying to do is prove you can be just as effective and keep the majority of $2000-$3000 you would spend in your pocket in not in their coffers.
You simply need to meet more than a few women here and there which is the typical pattern of dating for most American men.
Seldom are you in a position to meet more than a few women ever at a social event, this includes nightclubs/discos.
You need to meet roughly 100 women, maybe less but for sure more than 5-10... As John at AFA put it, there is no excuse that if you're on vacation or on a tour why you can't meet two/three women a day? You only need to meet them for 15-30 mins at a time for something as innocent as coffee. Also by setting up say 25-50 dates or more is you automatically compensate for the flakes and other excuses women will have for not meeting you.
It really shouldn't take you more than a month to find at least a woman that's datable in the medium term if not marriage material.
I also don't assume (like certain people...) that Light skin and White skinned Latinas aren't interested in Black men. One of the reasons I picked Brazil (frankly it was easy) is because while Afro-Brazilian women are ringing alarm bells (more justified than Afro-American women ringing the same bells) about Interracial (though they are all Brazilians so saying IR sounds strange to me) Marriage. Some 31% of all marriages in Brazil are Black men and either Morena or Loria women (Brown or Blonde) or Afro-Brazilian women marrying White and Light skinned Brazilian men and Europeans.
IE Mixed Marriages are NORMAL in that country and not discouraged which again is a cause of concern for Afro-Brazilians (rightly so but a bit of an overreaction).
Also age gaps of 8-10 years are NORMAL.
This is NOT THE CASE in North America or Western Europe and in some case not even Eastern Europe. Sure there are exceptions but I believe the best selection in that case is in Eastern Europe.
For now its too expensive to pursue Eastern European women and living in Russia, Ukraine, Belarus, etc, etc is NOT AN OPTION.
Besides I got a 36 year old Russian in St Pete that's ready to go and quote "Tired of being alone" (with her three cats). Gift horse in the mouth maybe, but I'll take my chances...
I understand your observations, believe me. There is a sizable "Brown" skin population in Bahia and some "White" skin Brazilians. So in that state its likely true that IR is difficult, more difficult than say Rio or Sao Paulo who also have sizable Black populations, some 8 Million in SP's metro area.
I also don't disagree on social status and its effects on dating in Brazil. Being American, not to toot any horns gives me automatic social status; As long as I live like an American while in Brazil. My concern over working in a hostel is based on that fear that middle class Brazilians might believe I am American but aren't wealthy (relatively speaking of course). After all why would a wealth American work at a hostel when its usually backpacker types that do that sort of work?
The guy I met in Mexico City said working at a hostel didn't impact his social life. He has a more vibrant social life in Mexico City than he ever did at home...
I also know a brother in Rio and he works for a Multi-National American company connected to I believe the oil industry. Apparently he has little problem dating. In fact co-workers showed him around the city including Termas/GDP when he first got there. He's been in and out of Brazil for two years and also spent time in Colombia where he's been dating a local there.
According to him, he's had its fill of "White skinned" women in Brazil and prefers medium/darker skin women.
In any case unlike America there is no scarcity/shortage of good looking women. If you remember one of Iceman's videos he spoke about his trip to Brazil where his cousin met a "White" Brazilian woman and he eventually married her.
So its not impossible, I wouldn't even say its much more difficult.
Actually he did... I think he took those videos down. But I listen to both of them, there are two videos, one was private.
She was influenced by local Brazilian women she met in the mall. I think they lived in Houston.
I find that some people are easily influenced by others especially those of the same ethic background. Of course they told her she could easily get a White man as that is an upgrade in America over a Black man.
But as with anything it takes two to tango, so while she likely wasn't that aggressive she did allow herself to get picked up. Dude's mistake is trying to take a educated and athletic brothers woman from him.
He laid down the law and threaten that White guy and he never came around again, but that was the second time. The second time he shipped her butt back to Brazil...
But I guess they really do love each other, so after about six months, he went and got her. As far as I know they are still married.
Latinas are a bit of an emotional mess and you better be able to handle it or you'll be nervous wreck.
He did know her as well as any local woman, because he went back to Brazil several times before they decided to get married.
Now here's his mistake I think, HE BROUGHT HERE BACK TO AMERICA.
I'd say this is less of a risk with certain women and more of a risk with other women. Since Latin American cultural is stratified by skin color, as Cenk of the Young Turks would say Of Cooourse! You take a major risk as non-White man bringing your latin girl back to America.
I still say these are the exception not the norm.
I don't plan on coming back long term, only to visit.
Besides once we start having kids it will become much harder to travel as you're paying for three or four plane tickets and airlines these days only give discounts to newborns.
Johnny of The Expat Files is totally against bringing Latin American women to America for the exact fear that happen to Iceman's cousin, she'll try to upgrade her husband once she understand that men in serious need of Gatorade and Pedilyte will even try to steal another man's woman from him.
Such is the scarcity based dating market in America.
I'm not that concerned actually, if she's not sure even a little bit, no ring and no marriage and for me that's EASY to do.