House, why do you always have to play some superiority game to Winston or anyone else? Seriously, are you really, such a special person?
In reality, Winnie was not meant for a meaningful relationship. He's way past that age, 28-38 (with a bit of a zone in that upper bracket), where a man can find a real match, for his personality type.
Once a guy is beyond that range, it's not very likely that a so-called *soul mate*, is in his horizon. Instead of accepting that and then, f*cking hoes, like Bosstone, who's honest with himself, Winnie insists upon lying and believing in the omnipresence of perfect relationships.
Thats not true. People of all ages can find their soulmate. Mark davis is older than me yet he found his soulmate. I found a soulmate last year in china with lisa. But for some unknown reason my soulmate relationships go south or turn 180 even though i went with the flow and did nothing wrong.
Maybe it was just an infatuation. If a woman truly loves you, she will not change her love for trivial reasons or spin things against you.
Some guys are unlucky like that. Or their soul may repel relationships because they are freethinkers and are on a mission of spiritual growth in life and cannot be bogged down by a relationship. Maybe their own higher selves or guardian angels sabotage their relationships and believe they know whats best or because its not in alignment with their destiny. Or there may be a curse or bad karma. Hard to say.
Also intellectual types tend to have the hardest time. See my video above.
First of all Winnie, there's no such thing as a *soulmate*, in reality it's a *personality-mate*. And while that term sounds very unromantic, that's the reality of the situation.
I've almost never seen an older guy ... find a soul, sorry personality-mate. In those situations, it's a type of father-daughter thing, guised by romantic love.
When I'd first joined this forum, some 6 years ago, I'd broken up with a Brazilian and was willing to accept, living a life alone. Since then, Mel and I had rekindled our original association and slowly, evolved into a BF/GF thing, and finally, a husband and wife couple. It took me by surprise but it happened.
I look around me and I don't find that to be common. Most ppl are full of sh.it and more or less, re-enact their dysfunctional behaviors from prior relationships, again and again. The fact that ppl still talk about soulmates, is the greatest joke of 'em all.
And if you'd read my Georgy Clooney thread, tons of women in New England are interested in me, just because Mel and I had settled down.
You can believe what you want but this is what I see ... you are no longer in your late 30s. You don't have the ability to adapt to different ppl and circumstances. If you weren't interested in commitment, during those late 30s, what's to change today? When a guy passes that point, all women become the same ... one p.ussy is no different than the other. Bosstone can tell you that, despite admiring Mel and myself as a couple, since he knows the real thing when he sees it. In place of posting stuff on forums like this, Bosstone is a highly successful computer consultant who pokes hoes and does a lot of great work. You'll never hear of him, lamenting about *lost love* and other nonsense on places like HA. He'd given in a try, a number of years ago and decided to throw in the towel and live his life, on his own terms.
Many years ago, the Best Picture of 1999, "American Beauty", telegraphed the message of Happier Abroad to the world.
Beware of long term engagements with AWs, you may find yourself in a coffin.
AB discussion thread
BTW, despite settling down with an AW, myself, the warning is still in effect.