OTB wrote:I know most of you are suffering from loneliness and are craving affection, sex, and attention from a woman. We all want that and that's perfectly fine. We're men.
But we're told to do certain things to possibly find a girlfriend or wife in this country.
Solutions to finding a girlfriend/wife
Some would recommend:
Salsa dancing
Find someone at the gym
Bars (I don't recommend)
Malls/stores and supermarkets
Classes
Social events (concerts, parties, etc.)
Online "meeting" (as I like to call it)
Go out and approach women and if you get rejected so what. javascript:emoticon(':o') LOL
Barriers to deal with
Attempting to approach and strike up a conversation can be perceived as desperate,
you're up to something, or you're a "nice" guy (aka not very masculine).
A lot of times women put no effort into interacting. No effort goes into exercising their social skills. So you're "game" has to be tight to make her come out of her shell.
My buddy's Dad said women have to protect themselves. They just have to. So a wall is put up which sends
out negative vibes which makes us keep our distance.
Approaching is not acceptable behavior in this culture. Only if you're at a bar or at a party.
Sometimes race can be a strike against you.
Most women give no signs of interest.
Putting aside the fact that most of us feel like we're not compatible with AW we still want to find someone.
Note: Of course, I'm referring to women we're attracted to and want to talk to.
Now how can any of those solutions work when you're dealing with those barriers?
So what's the solution for establishing a connection with a female in this country? Is there a solution?
Some people will say it's not that difficult because people are meeting other people. There are plenty of people who are in relationships or married.
I'm still willing to find a girl in this country but how? We suppress our attraction for females, we can't approach them, you can't flirt, you have to be super conscious of everything you do and say if you decide to approach someone who has caught your eye, you can't come off too excited because that would mean you're desperate, you can't do this and you can't do that. SO HOW THE HELL ARE YOU SUPPOSED TO CONNECT WITH A GIRL? There's all these rules for meeting women. It's all so unnatural.
My goodness.
OTB, I enjoy reading your post as I tell you put a lot of thinking into your post. Personally, I tapped out, I really just don't care about meeting American women anymore as I'm better off going to the Caribbean and dealing with the women over there...
But lets just say that I were still interested in meeting American girls what would I do?
This is what I would do that would at least get myself to having a GF here in U.S. Of GaY:
1. Go out and buy a E46 BMW M3. It's only 10-15k This demonstrates status and lets women know that I make money. A nice BMW E46 is very impressive for most young women.
2. Go to massage parlors, or use escorts and get laid to get any sexual frustration out my system that women are so easily able to detect.
3. Luckily though my type of work I travel all the time so I'm able to meet lots of women everyday so it's real simple, I would just ask out the girls who I see on the regular who give me subtle hints that they're interested (ie, asking me if I'm single, taking to me when they don't have to, looking at me for a few seconds longer). I would be taking to multiple girls at once, to a point where I would eventually narrow it down to 1-2 girls that seem the most loyal to me and just stick with 1-2 girls in the rotation until they started pushing for marriage then I would just find new girls.
I know this is what would work FOR ME, but I just don't want to do it because American women are simply not worth my time! I'm voting with my feet and taking my time and money and giving it to foreign women because in the end I'm treated better and I get more in return for my money. 1 good foreign woman is probably better then 10 American women put together, it's that bad here!
At the end of the day, seems to me that American men either have the problem of just attracting women, or American men have the problem of finding QUALITY women out of the women they're able to attract. I'm in the later camp. I was able to attract women even when I was broke, but none of the women I pull are of any quality or worth being with in the long haul such as the last girl I was courting who had no personality, was a workaholic, and a closet alcoholic.