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When I lived in Costa Rica, I was in a rural pineapple farm area in Rio Celeste. Beautiful place that I recommend warmly. Once I was hitchhiking in the RAIN and seriously every single vehicle slowed down as not to splash me. Once in Guatuso, a lady invited me to eat with her family. People smiled at me all the time. Even a doctor who charged me $100 returned it because there was not much he could do for me. That is right, returned it.

I returned to the US and what I have found is that nobody empathizes with anyone else if they can afford not to. If someone has a good job then they cannot possibly understand why it is hard for a twenty-something to find a job in this market. If they are married, they cannot understand why I don't have a girlfriend. They just tell me there are plenty of women out there with no regard that I have been looking and that is NOT TRUE! But again, they are married so they are not looking. My grandmother lives on a pension due to my grandfather being a part of a union and now she is against unions because why the hell should she be concerned about the next generation? And don't get me started on the dating scene because we all know how out of touch old people are now. When I get to be up there in years I'll tell young people to expatriate out of America but by then we might even be in the mainstream.

I write in a journal all the damn time and people assume it is a hobby but it is a NECESSITY. I spend so much time alone that writing is my way of communication. People have shown me at every turn that I cannot depend on them so I have only myself. Now I get angry when people tell me to leave the journal at home because it shows me they don't ****ing get it. Actually most people would rather look down on people on top of their moral high horse than to listen or relate to anyone else.

Wow...That's an Amazing place in Costo Rica man...I would hold on to it for like ever and not let the secret out for Psychopaths to go there and ruin it.

Your post refreshed my morning. Seriously, In all parts of history in India, we never had a period like that when people were so good.

All these years I was thinking, why the F these vehicles don't slow down near potholes. I thought its normal for humans to be not that deep in concern for others. I have been splashed a lot for like 30 years due to the bad road condition in India and every time it made me think, why don't they slow down, infact people here have that evil smile when they splash someone. I was of the belief that no one would even think like that until you wrote it, I was thinking all these years...I'm crazy for thinking like that. I thought its normal for people do like that but I would not do it.

I also feel disconnected with people here. This is just one example, but people here are extremely greedy, selfish and these are people in third world countries, can you imagine the stress living among these insensitive humans.

Its the same replies here also as you mentioned, if you don't get a job, and they have it...its the usual reply, gf, marriage, money, everything is same insensitive reply.

The issue is, Human Beings are wired to be a Social Animal. After a while, we need that connection with another human being. Our DNA demands it. We just can't live alone in a cave....This I believe is kinda curse we have to live by and manage.

Meeting people for the sake of DNA programming has become like Jerking off to let go off the steam for me now in India. These Social Interactions are programs in our DNAs that forces us to meet people around no matter even if they are stupid. Now, I know, its not me, but my body that needs it. We are living in a Hive and our body needs to interact with other humans to stay intact.

Just meet people for the sake of it, but know that, its just the way we are designed to function. We don't need to be a part of it and listen and feel to all crap humans could do. It actually helps us find good people also.

Thank you for the post. It cleared lots of blocked thoughts in me.

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The American mentality is "I go get mines and f**k everyone else!" attitude which causes people to become greedy, malicious, and evil creatures towards one another. The rat race in America is disgusting and anti-human. People don't give a shit about each other because they're too busy chasing money and buying crap from China. Tight-knit communities and genuine friendships abroad show deep contrast with the sociopathic personality of violent gun-loving America. People are strangers to each other in U.S. communities where most people don't even know their next door neighbors. It's a sad, disturbing, and lonely place in the United States.