Happier Abroad Forum Community

• There are pros and cons to every place, as they say, same-same but different.
• There are billions of nice girls out there, you're bound to get one.
• Shave or trim your facial hair, wear nice after shave and wear clean clothes
• Read a lot, learn languages, develop an interest how things are done differently
• When you think about a place to be 'happier abroad' think about how to make a living, permanent residence, citizenship, ease of traveling there to and from your home country, climate, food, general ambience, does it gel with you and your personality, learning the local language etc etc - women come down the list with this - if you end up in Accra, Kuala Lumpur or Tallinn - there are going to be beautiful women wherever you go.
• When you pick a place, take a trip out there for a couple of weeks or a month, see how you gel with the place
• Once you move abroad, leave all the politics and other internal shit at home - become a better man, I have changed a lot these last ten years, in fact, beyond all recognition
• Have an excercise routine - even if it is a walk in the evening, you can train with weights, do martial arts, run or jog, cycle, hit a bag - make sure you do something regularly.
• Prostitution can turn into an addiction - try and find a nice girl who you love and who can be your regular sex partner.
• You'll probably never be 'accepted' by your host culture as you are back home, some crap things come from this but some very good things come out of this also - embrace the good and try not to let the crappier parts get you down.
• You'll change if you ever make it abroad - if you do it right, you will become a far better person than you could ever imagine.
• The best thing I ever did was move abroad and to Asia, I never thought when I was 20 I would ever live in China.
• And finally, we all have a bucket of shit to carry around - the types of shit in each bucket is different but it is up to you to change or throw out what you don't like, you live in a bit of a shithole, girls don't like you, too fat, too bald, too boring, don't like your life, don't like your job, mum and dad think you're a loser, no friends etc - it is up to you to change it into something that you like, it is your responsibility and no-one cares if it never changes - you have more freedom to change than you think...

MarcosZeitola wrote: ↑

September 27th, 2020, 12:15 am

Take care, Yick. You've been a good poster. I enjoyed your posts and thought many of them were quite enlightening and interesting. With both you and Hypermak out of the picture, the reasons for me to remain are wearing quite thin as well, so these may be one of the last few where we can see men of quality post posts of quality in this conspiracy-theorist riddled wasteland of a forum. A shame, because it has had better days and I'm glad to have been around for some of them.

Whatever ails your family member back home, I hope all will be well and you will be able to clear your head, stay positive and live your best life. I hope you find what you are looking for in life. And hopefully soon, when this Chinese virus blows over, you'll find Mrs. Right in the Philippines and turn her into Mrs. Yick. If anyone among our forum's single members can pull it off and find a great one, it's you brother.

Winston wrote: ↑

September 27th, 2020, 12:19 am

Thats good advice yick. Maybe @Ghost will make a return now. Why cant you just put those you dont like on ignore? Its very simple. Every forum that rebels against the mainstream is gonna have some assholes.

If u wanna chat me on Skype just PM your username and I'll add you and I'll give u mine as well.

yick wrote: ↑

September 27th, 2020, 12:03 am

Yeah, time has come to bid farewell, though I will look in from time to time, I won't be posting again, hopefully - that will encourage 'Ghost' to make his comeback and of course, it will be like the old times again.

I am sure Winston will continue to live his life Abroad if not happier, hopefully, he gets to smell the flowers and realise how lucky he is, many people would kill to have his life, yes, even in Taiwan! I know I am very lucky to live my life and earn my living the way I do - I know a lot of people baulk at it and turn their nose up at the job but it beats being depressed and on the dole which is how it was before - or if I was lucky, night shift agency work - I don't do that anymore, and I am very happy about that.

Though I don't like what is happening to @hypermak my leaving has nothing to do with that, a horrible situation back home to a family member has just come up and it is about time I started clearing my head of negativity and focused on staying positive, it is a shame that a forum as this which could do that actually doesn't - the worst member of this forum isn't actually Spencer but 'Mercury' what an absolute waste of bandwith his posts are, anyway, I am sure he will continue to post away and his life won't improve but that will remain his problem - the way it should be.

For anyone wanting 'Happier Abroad' this is the advice I can give you.

• There are pros and cons to every place, as they say, same-same but different.
• There are billions of nice girls out there, you're bound to get one.
• Shave or trim your facial hair, wear nice after shave and wear clean clothes
• Read a lot, learn languages, develop an interest how things are done differently
• When you think about a place to be 'happier abroad' think about how to make a living, permanent residence, citizenship, ease of traveling there to and from your home country, climate, food, general ambience, does it gel with you and your personality, learning the local language etc etc - women come down the list with this - if you end up in Accra, Kuala Lumpur or Tallinn - there are going to be beautiful women wherever you go.
• When you pick a place, take a trip out there for a couple of weeks or a month, see how you gel with the place
• Once you move abroad, leave all the politics and other internal shit at home - become a better man, I have changed a lot these last ten years, in fact, beyond all recognition
• Have an excercise routine - even if it is a walk in the evening, you can train with weights, do martial arts, run or jog, cycle, hit a bag - make sure you do something regularly.
• Prostitution can turn into an addiction - try and find a nice girl who you love and who can be your regular sex partner.
• You'll probably never be 'accepted' by your host culture as you are back home, some crap things come from this but some very good things come out of this also - embrace the good and try not to let the crappier parts get you down.
• You'll change if you ever make it abroad - if you do it right, you will become a far better person than you could ever imagine.
• The best thing I ever did was move abroad and to Asia, I never thought when I was 20 I would ever live in China.
• And finally, we all have a bucket of shit to carry around - the types of shit in each bucket is different but it is up to you to change or throw out what you don't like, you live in a bit of a shithole, girls don't like you, too fat, too bald, too boring, don't like your life, don't like your job, mum and dad think you're a loser, no friends etc - it is up to you to change it into something that you like, it is your responsibility and no-one cares if it never changes - you have more freedom to change than you think...

That's it for now, I am more than happy to speak to Winston on Skype anytime he wants, was meant to do it a few years ago but I am happy to do this now as I am actually leaving, any questions he wants to ask me then he can and he can report back to you!

There are idiots on here but there have been some excellent posters who have made valuable contributions, take care and everyone be well.!

Is is up to you to change it into something that you like, it is your responsibility and no-one cares if it never changes - you have more freedom to change than you think...

hypermak wrote: ↑

September 27th, 2020, 6:50 am

yick wrote: ↑

September 27th, 2020, 12:03 am

Yeah, time has come to bid farewell, though I will look in from time to time, I won't be posting again, hopefully - that will encourage 'Ghost' to make his comeback and of course, it will be like the old times again.

I am sure Winston will continue to live his life Abroad if not happier, hopefully, he gets to smell the flowers and realise how lucky he is, many people would kill to have his life, yes, even in Taiwan! I know I am very lucky to live my life and earn my living the way I do - I know a lot of people baulk at it and turn their nose up at the job but it beats being depressed and on the dole which is how it was before - or if I was lucky, night shift agency work - I don't do that anymore, and I am very happy about that.

Though I don't like what is happening to @hypermak my leaving has nothing to do with that, a horrible situation back home to a family member has just come up and it is about time I started clearing my head of negativity and focused on staying positive, it is a shame that a forum as this which could do that actually doesn't - the worst member of this forum isn't actually Spencer but 'Mercury' what an absolute waste of bandwith his posts are, anyway, I am sure he will continue to post away and his life won't improve but that will remain his problem - the way it should be.

For anyone wanting 'Happier Abroad' this is the advice I can give you.

• There are pros and cons to every place, as they say, same-same but different.
• There are billions of nice girls out there, you're bound to get one.
• Shave or trim your facial hair, wear nice after shave and wear clean clothes
• Read a lot, learn languages, develop an interest how things are done differently
• When you think about a place to be 'happier abroad' think about how to make a living, permanent residence, citizenship, ease of traveling there to and from your home country, climate, food, general ambience, does it gel with you and your personality, learning the local language etc etc - women come down the list with this - if you end up in Accra, Kuala Lumpur or Tallinn - there are going to be beautiful women wherever you go.
• When you pick a place, take a trip out there for a couple of weeks or a month, see how you gel with the place
• Once you move abroad, leave all the politics and other internal shit at home - become a better man, I have changed a lot these last ten years, in fact, beyond all recognition
• Have an excercise routine - even if it is a walk in the evening, you can train with weights, do martial arts, run or jog, cycle, hit a bag - make sure you do something regularly.
• Prostitution can turn into an addiction - try and find a nice girl who you love and who can be your regular sex partner.
• You'll probably never be 'accepted' by your host culture as you are back home, some crap things come from this but some very good things come out of this also - embrace the good and try not to let the crappier parts get you down.
• You'll change if you ever make it abroad - if you do it right, you will become a far better person than you could ever imagine.
• The best thing I ever did was move abroad and to Asia, I never thought when I was 20 I would ever live in China.
• And finally, we all have a bucket of shit to carry around - the types of shit in each bucket is different but it is up to you to change or throw out what you don't like, you live in a bit of a shithole, girls don't like you, too fat, too bald, too boring, don't like your life, don't like your job, mum and dad think you're a loser, no friends etc - it is up to you to change it into something that you like, it is your responsibility and no-one cares if it never changes - you have more freedom to change than you think...

That's it for now, I am more than happy to speak to Winston on Skype anytime he wants, was meant to do it a few years ago but I am happy to do this now as I am actually leaving, any questions he wants to ask me then he can and he can report back to you!

There are idiots on here but there have been some excellent posters who have made valuable contributions, take care and everyone be well.!

I am sorry to see you go, @yick, mate! I think many will agree with me when I say you represent the truest definition of "happier abroad": you weren't born exactly with a silver spoon in the cradle, you dreamed what's behind the rainbow, worked hard, modestly and silently, and against all odds you caught your dreams by the tail. And now you are a well respected member of a society difficult to crack, the Chinese.

Regardless of your age, physical appearance and financial situation, you seem to have the best possible state of mind to find an amazing companion in the Philippines. Why? Because you like being yourself and we all know that, online or offline, that makes all the difference with women.

I hope your situation back home will improve soon. Whether or not you will be able to be back to the UK to be closer to your family, I can imagine the last thing you need is participate in a forum full of toxic and aggressive exchanges. I have to apologise because, with my constant bickering with Contrarian Expatriate and Spencer, I contributed to bringing that negativity up to the roof.

Finally, I can't agree more with your words of advice. There is a sense of "zen" serenity and wisdom in those words. I wish some of us could hold these words particularly dear and remind themselves that not only are we in control or more than we can imagine, but we have the power to change whenever and wherever we want.

Is is up to you to change it into something that you like, it is your responsibility and no-one cares if it never changes - you have more freedom to change than you think...

Yohan wrote: ↑

September 27th, 2020, 8:08 am

While I do not consider to leave this forum for always, I noticed I am posting now by far less compared to some years ago. I am running out of topics, no idea what to post anymore.

This HA-Forum is declining of good comments related to 'Happier Abroad' and is getting more into conspiracy theories, religious babble,
arguments among members, trolling, USA-politics etc. and I am not interested in that stuff.

In future I will be back about one time in one or two weeks or so, writing one short comment if I find any topic for me...but not more than that.

Wishing every member who decided to leave all the best.

Yohan

Yohan wrote: ↑

September 27th, 2020, 8:08 am

conspiracy theories,

Wishing every member who decided to leave all the best.

Yohan

Winston wrote: ↑

September 27th, 2020, 10:52 am

You guys, it's not true that I like a lot of drama and conflict on the forum. No way. I don't like toxic places or toxic people at all. If it were up to me, this forum would be mainly about:

1. Sharing trip reports from expats abroad or travel experiences.
2. Posting questions about foreign women, foreign cultures, or living abroad, in the hopes of receiving answers to them.
3. Sharing tips and advice about self-improvement.
4. Helping to uplift and inspire those misfits who are depressed in America or wherever with encouragement, without judging them or calling them losers or blaming them for their predicament, unless of course, they have a genuine psychiatric disorder.

statnerd wrote: ↑

September 27th, 2020, 6:24 pm

Why do people announce that they are leaving? How dramatic. Why don't they just stop posting?