Even counsellors, gurus, and police tell you to be a workaholic in America.

[Mercury]

Many people suffering from isolation have heard it before from counsellors; "Get a job. Get out of the bar/nightclub scene. Get into the work environment!" Even American police officers dealing with people having issues in the community are telling them; you need to have a job, it's illegal to socialize and make friends in this country. Even if you already have a job, they tell you; get another job, work more hours, expand your work schedule and ethic.

Clearly, America has become even a nationwide military style workaholic boot camp covering nearly 3.8 million square miles of the Earth's surface. A boot camp where you are scolded for taking even a day off work once a decade and are expected to have a repeating schedule governed strictly and solely by the rotation of the Earth. This is one country that aims to turn people into robots, and with the toxic chemicals put into American food, this country is approaching the level of even a lobotomy lab. And even the police hate Section-8 subsidized housing; they actually even want handicapped persons permanently locked away! Section-8 housing is the perfect choice for persons with autism, cerebral palsy, spina-bifita, polio, wheelchair bound, Down's syndrome, and what not that want to live in the general community but simply can not hold a job due to their disability. But again, as you can see by how many people voted for Trump in the recent election, nearly half of Americans want to see all handicapped people institutionalized, locked away, out of sight and out of mind.

[Yohan]

Many people suffering from isolation have heard it before from counsellors; "Get a job. Get out of the bar/nightclub scene. Get into the work environment!" Even American police officers dealing with people having issues in the community are telling them; you need to have a job, it's illegal to socialize and make friends in this country. Even if you already have a job, they tell you; get another job, work more hours, expand your work schedule and ethic.

To try your best to get away from the bar/nightclub scene in USA is a good advice. It is also a good advice to a person who has nothing and is a nothing to tell him 'get a job'.

I am not sure about working hours in USA - often American people are complaining about long working time in Asia.

About isolation, this is a problem not only in USA, but also in Continental Europe somehow, but USA/UK are surely worse. Also in some countries in Asia there is isolation existing.

About Japanese people, they are in general not very communicative. In Japan you need your family, otherwise you might spend a week or so without exchanging even a single word with somebody. Automatisation can also to be blamed - you are frequently when you need some information or placing an order merely talking to an answer machine or touching a screen...

You will hear similar comments about other developed Asian countries and feeling isolated, in South Korea, Taiwan, Singapore...especially from men.

[Winston]

Why does getting a job and having social connection and a good dating scene and positive relations between men and women all have to be mutually exclusive? Why cant a society have it all? Even if work is part of life, why does it have to be a religion? And why does social connection and dating/flirtation have to be excluded? That doesn't make sense.

Why can't America and NE Asia be like Brazil or Colombia or Philippines, and allow social connection and dating to flow FREELY? Do they really believe that making money will make everyone happy and fulfilled? Isn't that naive and instinctually false? Why does America and NE Asia still believe that when they know it's not true? Why is money the most important thing in the universe? Surely the elite know better than that right? Even animals know better.

What do you think @Yohan?

[Yohan]

Why can't America and NE Asia be like Brazil or Colombia or Philippines, and allow social connection and dating to flow FREELY? Do they really believe that making money will make everyone happy and fulfilled? Isn't that naive and instinctually false?
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What do you think @Yohan?

USA has terrible regulations which make communication from men to women risky. This is not the case in Philippines or Brazil - also not here in Japan.

It is maybe because society is teaching you to consider the other next to you - while this is not the case in USA, everybody thinks only about himself or especially herself to be 'something better'.

There is some relation between 'harsh living conditions' vs.'able to make money and to improve your life' -
The best example is likely North Korea vs. South Korea.

It really seems you cannot have both.

There are various videos on Youtube where former North Koreans who made it up to South Korea by risking their life are talking openly about while life is much better in South Korea but always they mention that this personal feeling of isolation in South Korea did not exist while they were still living and suffering in North Korea. Whenever there was an opportunity they were 'talking' to each other and did never feel 'lonely'...

Northern people describe themselves - excluding politics of course' - as 'talkative' 'helpful to each other' during their daily life and mention that such communication does not exist in South Korea. - South Koreans are 'not helpful to each other' 'merely do not look at other people' 'barely even know their neighbors' 'are greedy and unwilling to share anything with others' etc.