Final solution of the Tsar problem

[MarcosZeitola]

I have done some thinking lately. In no small part because I sometimes experience... a spiritual emptiness in my life. And because I do actually think about subjects such as morality, things beyond our mortality, beyond plain old-fashioned hedonism...

Now I've been thinking of adding another wife. I've chatted some girls online. Some of the sweetest ones that always seem to swipe for me, are Muslim girls from Indonesia. I only talk to the ones I find cute; not the pug-nosed types but the paler, full-lipped, pretty ones. The ones that show signs of admixture with both the native Indonesians, their Muslim conquerors, the Dutch and Chinese traders. At times, the result of this admixture can be stunning. More often, it is not quite stunning, but definitely very pleasing to the eye.

Now Tsar has broadened his horizons a little bit, looking for Chinese girls. Which is great, but when it comes to virginity and Chinese girls, or Vietnamese girls, or Filipinas, Thais or Christian Indonesians, your chances are... less than ideal. But with a Muslima? Damn! You've struck gold, my friend. There is something beautifully simple about them. Purity is all but guaranteed, virginity as holy to them as the name of their Prophet and his supposed virtues...

So I have been chatting this girl for a while. Lovely girl! Very pretty. There's something Chinese about her eye area, but not so awfully slit-eyed either, just a tad bit. Nose, great. Jawline, to die for. Eyebrows gorgeous. Her hair, I can only guess, as she always devoutly covers it with a hijab. I asked her for a selfie yesterday. She said: "Marcos, wait a bit... I have to put on my hijbab first, is it okay?" And I dunno, man, but my heart kinda melted a little bit? It's just so... deliciously wholesome. I find it adorable.

She's eighteen years old. She lives with her parents. Studies, but does so from home. When she goes out, there is almost always a chaperone. This girl, my friend, is as pure as the driven snow. And even if she were to not find a husband soon, she'd still be every bit as virginal ten years down the line because she simply is off-limits. Muslim girls are off-f***ing-limits.

Still, as off-limits as they are for fun, Indonesian Muslims are not at all off-limits for serious candidates for marriage. They are a lot more approachable than, say, Afghan or Pakistani girls. Let alone Indian girls, don't get me started on those; the ones abroad quite slutty, the ones back home about as hard to find as a unicorn and will drop you at the blink of an eye from their parents, the slightest hesitation meaning the end of your chances. Not Indonesian girls! They're doable. You can get one, Tsar, provided you approach her respectfully, carefully, and make good conversation with her.

You want some teenage plaything, which is fine and dandy. But you're going to have to think anout your chances here. Be realistic, too. What is the 'next best thing' to you, dying a lonely virgin? You're my friend Tsar, and you're not bad guy, contrary to what anyone here may think. You're solid. But you're also incredibly picky. The fact that you now seem open to Chinese ladies gives me a bit of hope. Because if you'd be open to a Chinese girl, surely you'd be open to an Indonesian one as well?

If virginity is what you are after, by all means, go and research Islam a little bit. They prize and honor virginity more than any other faith, and although many of the Western Muslims have long since turned into degenerates, much virtue is to be found in their overseas comrades. @Fschmidt was on to something when he suggested Islam as a possible solution years ago. I strongly implore you to consider this option, and I think it would be far more agreeable to your temperament and lack of social and romantic experience compared to China. A safer 'hunting ground', too, than Eastern-Europe. Safer, by far. If you play your cards right, that is.

I don't expect or desire any rebuttal here, Tsar. I don't want you to dismiss my words. Just, let it sink in for a bit. Let it marinate in your brain a little. If Chinese girls are now an option for you, Indonesian girls must be added to your list. They are demure, they are innocent, and quite non-threatening for a man of your age, your stature and slight build, not to mention your lack of sexual and romantic advantures to date. Far more suitable for a man such as you, than a statuesque Slavic lady with legs for days and hands twice the size of yours.

Tsar, grow a beard. Dress nicely and modestly. Join some international dating sites and put your settings to "global". Pretend to be a Muslim, learn the lingo; you surely will look the part due to your somewhat swarthy looks. And if Bulgaria, for whatever reason, does not work out, you would have a solid Plan B and a chance to lose your virginity and build up a stable family, as opposed to just masturbating to teenagers for eternity. As your friend, I hope you would consider this as an option. And if you would fail to find "The One" I could even help you in acquiring someone, if needed. Hell, there are even bridal services for this particular situation. Professional matchmakers, taking the pressure off of you.

If losing your virginity to a cute girl at the soonest possible opportunity is your main goal in life, and you wish to not be a scumbag about it and live a life of virtue and stability? Consider Indonesia. Consider it, Tsar, and you could be balls-deep in prime Indonesian punani within six months, finally rid of all that pent-up rage and the sexual frustration of over three decades.

Think about it!

[yick]

That would be a good solution for a lot of men but that isn't what Tsar wants.

He wants control via his 'wealth' he seems to have this fetish about buying a woman's virginity but not just any woman's virginity - of course, he could have gone anywhere in the Muslim world to get a virgin bride if he had converted - it happens to converts all the time of every race and he could get a beautiful virgin bride in Malaysia, Indonesia, Tunisia, Morocco etc.

What Tsar craves is power and control.

He seems to have a touch of the 'Elliot Rodger's' about him, Elliot Rodger could have gone to anywhere in Asia and had beautiful women and lost his virginity to a queue a mile long - women who wouldn't have been accessible to the 'Chad's' of this world, but he didn't want an Asian woman, he wanted a white woman because in his f***ed-up mind. It would prove to a world who simply didn't care.

If Tsar went to Indonesia and got a virgin bride, he would want another one in a year or two - not that I think that would happen because he doesn't want that which is why he has ignored your well thought out post.

[MarcosZeitola]

That would be a good solution for a lot of men but that isn't what Tsar wants.

Perhaps not, but he did write in another topic recently that he was now opening up his options to include Chinese girls. And I happen to know from personal experience and observation that you're just as likely to find a cute specimen in Indonesia as you are in China, they have a similar ratio homely versus beautiful girls. The main difference is the virginity; a Chinese girl is a lot more likely to not be anywhere near as demure. Her dad won't cut you up with a salami sword for 'dishonoring' her too, if you're found out... nor would her brothers, in fact she's quite unlikely to have any brothers or even cousins to begin with.

If social skills are an issue, it would seem ideal to marry into a culture that is large and vibrant and that tends to produce larger than average families. Indonesia would be perfect in this regard. Marrying into such a family, Tsar would suddenly find himself blessed with a whole new set of parents, siblings, cousins... far more caring relatives, too, than their money-obsessed and materialistic American counterparts.

Eastern European birth rates are rather dramatic right now. At 1.54 children per woman, for instance, Bulgaria is a country with an exceptionally low birth rate, lower even than countries typically referred to by ignorant Americans as "feminist shitholes" like, for instance, Germany, the Netherlands and Sweden. This likely indicates a population that isn't awfully conservative, has a reasonable available supply of birth control and a semi-Westernized populace... in such a place, one could get the cheerleader of his dreams, but the chances of her still being a virgin if she's truly stunning, would be small. Plus, you'd never know it for a fact. That nagging doubt would always be there...

Go to Indonesia, and guess what? You can kiss that nagging doubt goodbye. In fact, if Tsar is worried about being 'compared to other men', I would bet my right nut that the likelihood of a Bulgarian teenager having watched porn at least once or twice on a whim is pretty damn high. Whereas a devout Indonesian girl likely never saw a single penis in her life, not in person nor on a screen. Ever.

If you want "pure as driven snow", Western women aren't exactly ideal. But since he's seriously considering Chinese girls, the jump from Chinese to Indonesian is inconceivably small. But you'd cut a lot of the crap, nip potential issues right in the bud and save him from a lot of potential hang-ups. Not to mention the fact that Indonesian Muslims tend to be less materialistic than their Christian counterparts, and I dare say make far superior wives to whore-ish Eastern Europeans with a love for bling, or heavily Americanized faux-Christian Filipinas.

I mean shit! These girls cook amazing good. Sate ajam, rendang beef, soto ajam soup, good lord I could go on for ages and I'd drool over my keyboard just describing it. Now Chinese cuisine can be excellent, too, but the likelihood of your spouse-to-be being able to properly cook all that yummy goodness herself are absolutely tiny; it'll more likely be take-out for him. Filipino cuisine can be great, too, but it depends on the region and too much of it is awfully bland. As for Eastern Europe... well, I love my ghoulash as much as the next guy, but meh...

Bottom line, if Tsar has his eye on some cute Chinese girls, surely he wouldn't mind taking into consideration a cute Indonesian Muslim. The last one I talked to even had curly hair, which was absolutely adorable and being blessed to see it when she hides it from the whole world might be even more meaningful than any steamy little encounter with a cheerleader-type girl could ever be.

[Yohan]

..... the jump from Chinese to Indonesian is inconceivably small

.....if Tsar has his eye on some cute Chinese girls, surely he wouldn't mind taking into consideration a cute Indonesian Muslim

I don't think the difference between Chinese (Chinese from where? Mainland China?) and Indonesian women (from where in Indonesia? Urban area or from a fishing village?) is so inconceivably small. These are clearly two different worlds - if you really want to switch from Communist China mainland to Muslim majority Indonesia you will start with point zero. Not much in common.

About Tsar, there is always practical thinking missing wherever he wants to go - I do not consider to live in Bulgaria with an EU-passport is such a big move forward. The question is - even now for him - what is next, what is his/her (their) future? I see no planning at all - living where? In Indonesia working on a farm or in China doing what? Make a living out of what?

I said it many times, before you even consider 'anything about women' and you really want to relocate to other places worldwide think about what are the major issues for yourself you will face.

Language, visa/working permit, housing, regular income depending on your qualifications (so-called 'English teacher' is not a good qualification, just a short-time work-around to win time) - call yourself only a teacher with long-term employment if you are qualified to work in an international school, just my opinion. Further consider health insurance, future possible retirement allowances and so on.

Relocation is not so easy - and to take such foreign women from somewhere back to Europe or USA is also often a recipe for a disaster.

[yick]

I think Marcos advice is good advice to the wrong person. He has now got to the stage where he is compromising on what he wants. I think the main advantages Marcos wrote are worthwhile and valid but not to Tsar, I have never read where he wants a good cook or a woman who wants to make a nice home.

I would personally prefer an Indonesian or a Filipina over most Eastern Euro women (who sound like trouble for the main part) but he seems to have brought this up because he isn't getting what he wants in Bulgaria, being white and American is nothing to anyone these days. He talks about certain Chinese girls with a certain look - he wants something near to a European as possible - which is why certain guys prefer Colombia to Peru even though there are plenty of lookers in Peru - the girls in Colombia can pass as white in a lot of cases. I don't how many attractive Indonesians could pass as white with big boobs?

Regards Yohan's point - Tsar has said he doesn't want to work even if teaching is where he will get a) the visa and b)
meet the kind of girls he wants to meet - young, studious, virgin types - decent, educated, middle class girls - I don't think he has any work experience and also he will need to deal with a Eastern work culture.

But if Tsar wanted to work then teaching is probably the only realistic option - especially in China - they need English teachers and there are some really good jobs here - they don't need bakers, electricians, real estate agents, recruitment consultants, bus drivers, doctors, lawyers, nurses etc - they have enough of their own.

[Tsar]

That would be a good solution for a lot of men but that isn't what Tsar wants.

I do want an Asian girl overall, more than White girls. Better climates because I like summer, many have more traditional cultures, and most have more girls than Europe.

It isn't like I ever thought British girls, French girls, German girls, Greek girls, or whatever would ever be good or my type. I never seriously considered Bulgarian girls. There are only 3 White nations that I ever seriously considered and do consider for White girls. I traveled to Bulgaria during Winter because I had to abruptly leave America. It was winter, I was essentially homeless and going to be homeless, Covid-19 turned really bad in America a week or two after I left, and there are product shortages in the United States. A girl would have been a bonus and maybe helped me to adjust better.

I was taking time to read the post a few times and I was thinking about a lot of things yesterday. I do not have any good options with my financial issues, Covid-19 international travel restrictions, and low income.

[Tsar]

I have done some thinking lately. In no small part because I sometimes experience... a spiritual emptiness in my life. And because I do actually think about subjects such as morality, things beyond our mortality, beyond plain old-fashioned hedonism...

Now I've been thinking of adding another wife. I've chatted some girls online. Some of the sweetest ones that always seem to swipe for me, are Muslim girls from Indonesia. I only talk to the ones I find cute; not the pug-nosed types but the paler, full-lipped, pretty ones. The ones that show signs of admixture with both the native Indonesians, their Muslim conquerors, the Dutch and Chinese traders. At times, the result of this admixture can be stunning. More often, it is not quite stunning, but definitely very pleasing to the eye.

I will definitely consider Indonesia as an option. There was one Indonesian girl on an international chat website similar to what you describe as the beautiful ones.

I would consider most of Asia. I can't say the same thing about Whites. I just never thought Asia might be culturally better when it came to girls until recently.

The only White girls I ever seriously considered were Russian girls, then girls from Belarus and Ukraine. I had some interest for awhile in Vietnamese girls after I documentary and would go for any Asian girl as long as she was my type. Cute and virgin.

Unlike what @yick says, I am actually open to most races. I admit, White girls from Russia or Belarus or Ukraine are my #1 preference and I don't consider any other European girls as viable options or good options. Asian girls are and have been my #2 preference as long as they meet my requirements.

[Tsar]

I would personally prefer an Indonesian or a Filipina over most Eastern Euro women (who sound like trouble for the main part) but he seems to have brought this up because he isn't getting what he wants in Bulgaria, being white and American is nothing to anyone these days. He talks about certain Chinese girls with a certain look - he wants something near to a European as possible - which is why certain guys prefer Colombia to Peru even though there are plenty of lookers in Peru - the girls in Colombia can pass as white in a lot of cases. I don't how many attractive Indonesians could pass as white with big boobs?

Regards Yohan's point - Tsar has said he doesn't want to work even if teaching is where he will get a) the visa and b)
meet the kind of girls he wants to meet - young, studious, virgin types - decent, educated, middle class girls - I don't think he has any work experience and also he will need to deal with a Eastern work culture.

But if Tsar wanted to work then teaching is probably the only realistic option - especially in China - they need English teachers and there are some really good jobs here - they don't need bakers, electricians, real estate agents, recruitment consultants, bus drivers, doctors, lawyers, nurses etc - they have enough of their own.

Bulgaria hasn't been my place for girls. I don't think the girls are a cultural match. I don't go to bars or nightclubs. Most smoke as teens. Smoking accelerates premature aging. There is a reason I only ever considered Russian, Belarusian, and Ukrainian girls with Russia being my main preference and even with Russia, I would avoid girls from Moscow and St. Petersburg.

I am willing to work and teach English. I am doing a TEFL certification online.

You are correct that I don't have work experience. I have a worthless business degree and I was never hired in America. In America there are too few jobs even at the lowest levels for work.

[yick]

Well @Tsar I will give you some worthwhile advice for once.

If you are open to Asia, your business degree is enough to get a job in most places - you could find work in Indonesia, Thailand, China - probably Japan or South Korea - you are early thirties, you should still be good to get something there. The majority of your students will be young ladies in their early twenties - a lot of them will be virgins and a lot of them won't have ever had a boyfriend even.

Lot's of good things here, good food, nice weather (depending where you are of course...) it's peaceful, safe and you're guaranteed work. It is hard to traverse the culture for a couple of years and you'll have days where you hate the place but you will get used to it.

I don't think Indonesia pays amazing but there seems to be lots of work - you would do OK there, if you want to go to North East China then remember the gender imbalance is the worst in these places, if you want to go anywhere in China to meet loads and loads of single women then probably Dongguan, Shenzhen and around there are your best bet as they attract loads of young, single women from all over China to work in the factories there.

Of course you will have to wait until this lockdown has been lifted but it will be lifted soon, I was going to do a year in Korea and go to Russia but I have been in Asia ever since, I like it and have never regretted it.

[Tsar]

About Tsar, there is always practical thinking missing wherever he wants to go - I do not consider to live in Bulgaria with an EU-passport is such a big move forward. The question is - even now for him - what is next, what is his/her (their) future? I see no planning at all - living where? In Indonesia working on a farm or in China doing what? Make a living out of what?

I said it many times, before you even consider 'anything about women' and you really want to relocate to other places worldwide think about what are the major issues for yourself you will face.

Language, visa/working permit, housing, regular income depending on your qualifications (so-called 'English teacher' is not a good qualification, just a short-time work-around to win time) - call yourself only a teacher with long-term employment if you are qualified to work in an international school, just my opinion. Further consider health insurance, future possible retirement allowances and so on.

Relocation is not so easy - and to take such foreign women from somewhere back to Europe or USA is also often a recipe for a disaster.

You're right. I have a worthless degree in business, no second language, I thought the EU's Freedom of Mobility was as simple as moving from a US State to another US State or at least as simple as presenting an EU passport, that an AirBnB would be sufficient lodging for a residence permit, that I could get National Healthcare coverage or a very afford private health insurance for 50 Euro a month. I cannot afford $1,000-$1,500 a year for private health insurance anywhere in the world and that price is only available outside the US and Canada.

[gsjackson]

Why would you get health insurance at your age unless you had a job that would make it easily affordable? Medical services in those countries paid out of pocket are nowhere near as expensive as in the U.S.

Here's an alternative suggestion: live a healthy life. It's not super-hard to figure out how, though mental health is a key component and that's an elusive state for most Americans. It's worked well for me -- knock on wood. From age 56 to 65 I had no health insurance, and my total medical expenses came to about $300 (all in the U.S.). The healthiest people I've known stay well away from doctors, unless it's some kind of trauma emergency that is in the wheelhouse of western medicine.

As for the job situation, my impression is that if you get yourself to Asia (assuming it opens up at some point) with TEFL certificate in hand even if one acquired online, as a native English speaker the jobs would be falling in your lap in Indonesia or anyplace else.

[Cornfed]

Why would you get health insurance at your age unless you had a job that would make it easily affordable? Medical services in those countries paid out of pocket are nowhere near as expensive as in the U.S.

Here's an alternative suggestion: live a healthy life.

What if he got hit by a car or something?

[MarcosZeitola]

I will definitely consider Indonesia as an option. There was one Indonesian girl on an international chat website similar to what you describe as the beautiful ones.

Not just Indonesia, Tsar, but specifically a Muslim girl from Indonesia. I am hoping for a more in-depth response to my OP from you sooner because, as I said, I've given it quite some thought and I think this would be the perfect way to guarantee you a girl who would actually be a virgin, as oppposed to just another bikini-clad white whore caked in heavy layers of make-up which seems to be a fairly common trope even in your preferred nation of Ukraine and Russia; a certain trashiness the girls have, even the ones that are young and seem innocent to your point of view.

Kindly give my words some deeper thought and consideration and write to me a more detailed response the soonest you can. Also if there's anything I wrote you disagree with, say so too.

[yick]

I will definitely consider Indonesia as an option. There was one Indonesian girl on an international chat website similar to what you describe as the beautiful ones.

Not just Indonesia, Tsar, but specifically a Muslim girl from Indonesia. I am hoping for a more in-depth response to my OP from you sooner because, as I said, I've given it quite some thought and I think this would be the perfect way to guarantee you a girl who would actually be a virgin, as oppposed to just another bikini-clad white whore caked in heavy layers of make-up which seems to be a fairly common trope even in your preferred nation of Ukraine and Russia; a certain trashiness the girls have, even the ones that are young and seem innocent to your point of view.

Kindly give my words some deeper thought and consideration and write to me a more detailed response the soonest you can. Also if there's anything I wrote you disagree with, say so too.

Wouldn't a lot of families want him to convert? I don't think conversion would be a bad idea to be honest - I see a lot of positives to it but one of them if you are after a woman who doesn't smoke, drink, has took drugs etc then there are basically millions of them waiting.

Some of these women look amazing, Malay women, Indonesians, Iranians, Lebanese etc - would I convert to Islam? Probably not but to be honest, I live my life similar to Muslim anyway except for the five prayers a day to Mecca

[MarcosZeitola]

Wouldn't a lot of families want him to convert? I don't think conversion would be a bad idea to be honest - I see a lot of positives to it but one of them if you are after a woman who doesn't smoke, drink, has took drugs etc then there are basically millions of them waiting.

Some of these women look amazing, Malay women, Indonesians, Iranians, Lebanese etc - would I convert to Islam? Probably not but to be honest, I live my life similar to Muslim anyway except for the five prayers a day to Mecca

They very likely would prefer for him to convert, yes, and whether or not that conversion would be genuine matters little as long as he looks, walks and talks the part. Not too much is needed; he'd have to acknowledge Muhammad as God's prophet and learn the prayers, some basic Arabic is involved but it's relatively minimal. One would also have to, technically, need to have a circumcision but as I understand it, most American males tend to be by default? Plus it's not as if anyone would ever check, they're terribly scared of being labeled gay for even asking and unlike white girls or Filipinas or any orher group, these girls don't even know what a dick looks like.

I'd be willing to play the part, for sure. And I may even grow to like it. I've had times in my life that I would drink quite a bit, but I can go without it and honestly, so could Tsar. Plus there are a lot of more liberal, secular type of Muslims who break several of the lifestyle requirements openly and don't seem to get much trouble over it.

For a man who is all about morality like Tsar, it seems like the best solution. And these girls are a million times less threatening and mercenary than Eastern-European girls who I feel, even at a young age, have something 'hard' about them... like, they're tough girls, calculating girls, girls who are used to dating guys who box, smoke, drink any man under the table and beat the living daylights out of someone who talks smack to them. Muslim girls, on the other hand, are trained from an early age to be demure, easy-going... in the West quite a few have been ruined already, but in Indonesia, Tsar could find his princess, provided he was truly a serious man. Which I feel like he is.

Islam is the answer for him. Not China. Not Vietnam. Not even Indonesia as a nation... but Islam, as a faith and as a culture. It 's the culture that ties up his room together, it's the final solution to his virginity requirement, and the safest option by far.