[quote=" however the way that society works is that I am largely denied access (figuratively speaking) to my own women, let alone white women, and the only consistent and easy option I have is black women. (I want to remind you that black women are at the bottom of the dating totem pole in america*) So naturally I feel resentful because of this situation. Basically I feel like society is saying:
"f**k you asian guys, you all can have what nobody else wants".
And yes, I'm aware that that sounds really messed up, but I feel its the truth. I mean hell, even a lot of black guys don't even want black women. As asian men, why is it our responsibility to take them? The situation regarding black women doesn't even have anything to do with us! Do you sort of understand where I am coming from now? [/quote]
I think this is a cop out. You say you dislike the message that society portrays about asian men. Asian men are portrayed as being inferior to white men (in the romantic/sexual sense), especially because asian women date white men disproportionately. You claim that the reason you aren't interested in Black women, romantically (which is fine, btw) is because you don't want to validate the belief that asian men are inferior by dating the only group that (as you claim) is said to be worthy of asian men, the "more inferior black woman."
I understand what you are saying, but I think this is a cop out because if you really wanted to address the disparity that Asian men face in the sexual/romantic market, you would be addressing and shunning white supremacy, which is what fuels the disregard of Asian men in the sexual market place, instead you're validating white supremacy by shunning Black women who you claim you respect.
I don't think that you really respect Black women, there is no way someone who respects Black women would write the things that you've written. "A lot of black guys don't even want black women?" over 90% of Black men who marry are married to Black women, the majority of Black men will reproduce with Black women. So there is no validity to your claim there.
In addition, I am not sure where you are located, but from what I see, MOST Black women prefer their own race, just like most people prefer their own race. Of the Black women who do date outside their race, MOST date White men, which makes sense because white men are the largest male demographic so Black women are more likely to encounter and interact with white men than say Asian men. So there is no truth again to the fact that Black women/Asian men are being pushed to date one another, they are not at all.
In the media, I can't recall the last time I've seen an Asian man/Black woman couple. Maybe Romeo Must Die with Aaliyah, but that was years ago.
If you prefer to date Asian women (your own race) that is perfectly fine. If you don't prefer to date Black women that is also perfectly fine, but don't use the excuse that you're avoiding dating black women (most of whom prefer bm any way ) as some form of social justice or as a way to get back at white men. It would make more sense to shun white supremacy and challenge the very notion that there even exists such a thing as "racial-sexual hierarchy," not validate the very thing that is causing such a disregard for Asian men in the first place.
I know of one Asian male/Black female couple. They consist of a Japanese man and African-American woman, they seem very happy and I'm sure they would be very insulted by much of what you've written here.
I think it's good that you don't date Black women, I hope you find happiness