You are analyzing this thing too much, Winston. Of course a guy has to be somewhat handsome, somewhat charismatic, to get girls. That's common knowledge isn't it? But there are a shit ton of poor bad boys in the Philippines with bad haircuts, tattoos, who smoke and drink all day, and who get laid more then many of us. Westerners (and Westernized Asians such as yourself) like to pretend they're more of a catch, and surely many of us may be, but these are the guys that live in that culture and do better then us. Why?Winston wrote:Yeah but men with second families have to support them somehow with monthly support. It's not all free. There are consequences to everything. Even if you get it without paying, there are karmic consequences.
It's not in a girl's nature to have casual sex with no strings attached. There may be some, but that isnt true of the majority of females. Most women want a lover and true partner. Not a fling. If you ask them, they will all say that of course.
Also the girls that seek casual sex want hot guys, not average looking guys. They need to be stimulated by looks.
How come on dating sites, most female profiles say "If you're just looking for sex, don't contact me", but you NEVER see that on a guy's profile? How come I never see on a genuine girl's dating profile that she's looking for casual sex only, and not love or money or commitment?
So if there are girls actively seeking casual sex, why do they never advertise it online, yet men freely do? I've never met a girl who admitted that she only wanted casual sex with no commitment and no money and no love involved. Not even one girls has ever said that to me. Why not?
They speak the language. They have a sense of charisma. They are younger, and often fitter. You are a man in your forties, and the type of girl you are most attracted to is getting increasingly harder for you to obtain for you, unless you are willing to pay. Your sexual market value is shrinking. All you have going for you at this point is your financial prowess, but when it comes to sexual prowess the girls can get better, younger. They can more stamina and physical attraction from the US marines stationed there, from young sexpats, they can get more money and often looks from Korean businessmen looking for a booty call. There is much more competition now then there was say, 10 years ago, so a lot of guys who used to do well do less well. You have to work a little harder to get the top quality.
Casual sex is very much still a possibility. Let us not delude ourselves. But at the same time, it's not easy for everyone. There are certain requirements... and the list of requirements goes up when the type of girls you are after goes up in the looks department. It is what it is.
Karmic consequences don't seem to bother Filipino guys much... they say a few Hail Mary's, confess to a priest, or to their drinking buddies... and it's business as usual again. They hop on their jeepney to work and forget about their woes. They pray the karma away. Theirs is a forgiving God. They just live their lives, and get around plenty.