vlkmo wrote: ↑September 14th, 2024, 4:26 pm
Why would a good God create a person, especially men, with a sexual drive and then because of certain worldly circumstances within or not within their direct control or otherwise, that drive and desire is unfulfilled, and when he finally gets to Heaven he is told that he won't be having sexual activity or relations with the opposite sex and he won't have to even think about wanting it any more for the rest of eternity.
What bothers me a lot is that when I discussed this with other Christians, the usual argument is something along the lines of "you will not desire it anymore and be happy" but they don't understand it from the other perspective, if that makes any sense for them. Yet in Islam and Mormonism it is almost granted that men who were upset about their sex/love life or lack of would receive that exact thing in Heaven. Having grown up in Christianity myself, I'm having an existential crisis over it.
It just seems so cruel and God wasn't fair to me in this aspect of life.
Well, the sexual drive is strong. I'm thinking there will be so much pleasure and fulfillment in the resurrection, after being glorified and becoming eternal beings, that we cannot comprehend in this age, that we cannot comprehend right now that it will not bother us.
i can understand the appeal the Islamic views of the afterlife would have had to early Muhammadan male raiders who went around capturing women as slaves and having sex with them. Especially those guys, being offered 70 female perpetually deflowerable virgins, and having capacity enough for them all. For men who lived like that, who were probably rather high-sex drive men to engage in such a vocation as pillaging, capturing slaves, and raping the females or taking them as wives in a society in which they had a lot of power, it must have especially appealed to them.
As a man getting into my 50's now, if I just thought in terms of my own life experience, getting the sensations of youth back and living as a young man is appealing, so such a naturalistic view of the afterlife can appeal to a lot of people. But God has something better for those who are resurrected.
We must prioritize pleasing God over gratification of sexual desires. If your main desire is to please God, then you can forgo pleasure for a season. If your main goal is to satisfy sexual urges, or if you start thinking of that as an entitlement, that's not the right attitude for living the Christian life. God is, of course, merciful. I refrained from having sexual relations until I was married in my late 20's. I actually have a high sex drive, and I know there were women who would have gone for it, too. But after marriage, I have certainly enjoyed doing this with my wife.
I wanted to marry.... to have sex, companionship, love, and eventually to have children. I prayed for a wife. Then I prayed much more intensely for a wife and I met her. We had actually been briefly introduced before we figured out, but after that first conversation, both of us suspected that we would marry, and we eventually did. And we had lots of sex, and made babies. Of course, women can get sore, may not have the same appetite, have periods, recovery after childbirth, etc.
If you want to marry, prioritize God first, and ask Him for a wife. Believe Him and trust Him to provide. In the meantime, prepare yourself to be the best husband youc an be.