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I've been reading these forums for a while. It didn't really hit me until some horrible things happened this year. My mother and I moved down to the south from up north and we have been having a hard time money wise. It's hard to get a job down here and we are very poor. The women was interested in while in college have been living nightmares. 1 was a girl who fought in hardcore clubs, cursed like a sailor and basically harrased me, You wouldn't know because she holds some title down here for dance queen or something. Alot of the girls here are in pageants and hold titles. The 2nd girl was some rich club type going girl, she was cold and wouldn't even be friends with me or look at me. The last was some religous chain smoker who was nuts and paranoid. Maybe it's because i'm black, i'm not sure but that's all the luck I had.

The college I go to is a technical college, it's small, and it has no lunchroom or places to hang out, so each semester i'm lucky if I see 2 or 3 girls I like. The thing is these girls have been living nightmares and they have led me to drink 100 proof vodka straight, I have nightmares often, I am not going back to college for fear of meeting another girl like this. And I'm hiding indoors. I'm trying to get a job but it isn't working out at all, and i'm trapped here. My mom is thinking of moving but she said she is going to give it a year. One entire year. I've been very depressed lately over the whole thing. But here I am. There was 1 russian girl I met last semester who has been here for 7 years. She claimed she had a boyfriend. She seemed alot nicer then most other girls I met down here, but she seemed kind of cold towards me after I made it clear I was interested in her. Not in a very mean way, just kind of cold. Wouldn't look at me or talk to me or anything as a friend. I'm starting to wonder if I really will be single forever. No way for me to travel abroad with no money and no job. And I don't have any friends or family here. Just my mom and my enemies. I thought girls down here would be nicer but some of them just act nice, the other curse like sailors. Some of them have this cold look in their eyes when you stare at them, it's like a mix of confusion and strangeness, like "i hope he's not attracted to me". Sure there were a few that were nice but they had boyfriends. As bad as it sounds I'd prefer the girls back up in newyork, atleast they aren't as closed minded. But i'm glad to be on here.

Welcome. Some black guys and young guys on here who who can advise you better than I can - I am neither.

Just off the top of my head, I think you would do better with white girls in Greenville than Charleston. More tradition of mixing in western Carolinas than in the coastal area I believe. Not an issue of racism more or less, more about social class. Social class is important in the South, especially South Carolina, and flat areas. Hilly areas never had as many rich families etc. You know, Beyonce is mixed, plus look at her beautiful Cherokee cheekbones. That's from the mountains.

Other than that, you are in the right place here at HA. Establish yourself and take care of your mom, and you will be more man than 90+% of the "males" in the world. And 90+% of the women in the world will be open to marrying you, if you throw in a little pursuit.

(90% of educated white women in flat areas of South Carolina still won't be open.)

Anyway, welcome and good luck.

Can you guys learn how to capitalize Black and White? They are races; they are not colors (which by default come lower-case).

cj211991 wrote:I've been reading these forums for a while. It didn't really hit me until some horrible things happened this year. My mother and I moved down to the south from up north and we have been having a hard time money wise. It's hard to get a job down here and we are very poor. The women was interested in while in college have been living nightmares. 1 was a girl who fought in hardcore clubs, cursed like a sailor and basically harrased me, You wouldn't know because she holds some title down here for dance queen or something. Alot of the girls here are in pageants and hold titles. The 2nd girl was some rich club type going girl, she was cold and wouldn't even be friends with me or look at me. The last was some religous chain smoker who was nuts and paranoid. Maybe it's because i'm black, i'm not sure but that's all the luck I had.

The college I go to is a technical college, it's small, and it has no lunchroom or places to hang out, so each semester i'm lucky if I see 2 or 3 girls I like. The thing is these girls have been living nightmares and they have led me to drink 100 proof vodka straight, I have nightmares often, I am not going back to college for fear of meeting another girl like this. And I'm hiding indoors. I'm trying to get a job but it isn't working out at all, and i'm trapped here. My mom is thinking of moving but she said she is going to give it a year. One entire year. I've been very depressed lately over the whole thing. But here I am. There was 1 russian girl I met last semester who has been here for 7 years. She claimed she had a boyfriend. She seemed alot nicer then most other girls I met down here, but she seemed kind of cold towards me after I made it clear I was interested in her. Not in a very mean way, just kind of cold. Wouldn't look at me or talk to me or anything as a friend. I'm starting to wonder if I really will be single forever. No way for me to travel abroad with no money and no job. And I don't have any friends or family here. Just my mom and my enemies. I thought girls down here would be nicer but some of them just act nice, the other curse like sailors. Some of them have this cold look in their eyes when you stare at them, it's like a mix of confusion and strangeness, like "i hope he's not attracted to me". Sure there were a few that were nice but they had boyfriends. As bad as it sounds I'd prefer the girls back up in newyork, atleast they aren't as closed minded. But i'm glad to be on here.

1- Listen to me: the fact you don't see women @ the school that you attend and you're at a technical college literally speaks volumes about how charlatan they are, and in how pseudo-intellectual they are. American women have a strong disinterest in technical recession-proof developer/DBA/network associate/network engineer paradigm. Some exist, but when they find out that you are a techie like they are, they shy away.

2- Finish at that technical college!! Major in J2EE/STRUTS/servlets/JSP/et. al and go out and pay out of your pocket if you cannot get a test voucher for the Prometric proctored certification exams. Every state has at least one testing site. Get some mySQL/PHP (FREE to study, free to download and install) and get that on your resume although the market is somewhat tight but at least you have a better idea of being able to learn an object-oriented language such as VB.NET or Java or C++.

3- Jerk off to some downloaded XHAMSTER PORN...download Ant Toolbar so you can copy those videos from the site to your local, hard drive. It wil keep you focused and not wasting time on dating sites.


4- Make a LinkedIn account and put your display of business acumen up on line.

Devilspeed, my friend.

E_Irizarry wrote:Can you guys learn how to capitalize Black and White? They are races; they are not colors (which by default come lower-case).

Fair Enough.

(jk)