Advice for a newbie?
Posted: November 17th, 2012, 11:52 pm
Hi,
I'm David and I thought to tell you a little about myself in hope someone can offer advice for my situation.
I am twenty years old, half Chinese, half white. My mother is Chinese and my father of blonde European ancestry. I am pretty good looking, though not very tall. Some people can tell I am Asian, but others cannot.
I am very conservative and traditional, but I should make clear what I mean by this. I am not specifically religious, but I do want to remain a virgin until marriage. My goal is to be married by age twenty seven, preferably to a woman a few years younger. I want to raise a family.
As for my relationships with women, I get along well enough with my older sister because we grew up together, but she is a hardcore liberal feminist. Feminist theory has its roots in Marxism, so this is altogether unsurprising. My sister is not one who is merely influenced by Feminism through the media, but is an active participant in its propagation. I reject these theories and that is why I am a conservative. I believe in Capitalism, but not the Ayn Rand fetishism that is used as a strawman and is not reflective of most conservative thought. Honestly, I believe Socialism is viable in smaller communities, but when applied to massive states like China, Soviet Union, or increasingly in America it just becomes an uncontrollable bureaucracy with quite often deadly consequences. I believe in traditional gender roles and it is in this sense that I am conservative, but certainly not in any nationalistic sense of the word. I also primarily believe in libertarian methodologies.
As for my mother, she was a careerist woman who put in much less effort towards raising me than my father. She once told me she worked so hard because she was afraid of winding up like her friends, divorced without a safety net. In any case, this was an insecure and self fulfilling prophecy as her valuing a career over motherhood caused considerable tension with my father. My father has privately told me not to marry someone like her. I have a very strained relationship with my mother.
When I entered high school, I went to a county school where students from each town in the county could take an entrance exam and the top five in each town would be admitted. This means almost all of my classmates were new. On the first day, I got up from my chair during a class and when I returned a girl was sitting there. She was about to give me my seat back when I told her to stay and sat next to her. We played board games together and it was one of the happiest days of my life (there weren't many at the time). Her name was Angel, or Andzelika, and she was Polish. She moved to America when she was seven, but still had a considerable accent. She was very religious, but also very smart, and wrote poetry. She would teach me things like sign language and the genus and species names of various animals. For reasons I will not get into, things did not work out, but on reflection I now know that that is the type of girl I want. She was not ugly, but she was not the type likely to get a modeling contract. Nevertheless, her personality was so refreshing compared to my sister or various other girls. From reading this site, I would hope that this is just more characteristic of foreign women's personalities versus American women. I long to find another like her and vow to seize such an opportunity if it occurs. Since time has passed, I am not so nostalgically enamored with her as much as I have a recognizance of a certain personality type I desire and hope to find in other foreign women. I would not settle for less.
As far as looks, I have spent considerable time browsing foreign dating sites and have concluded that I personally find Ukrainian women most attractive, by a margin large enough that I can say so with confidence. Not just Russian women, but specifically Ukrainian. Not that that matters so much though. As said above, I would be much more interested in an average looking woman with a good personality than an entitled "bitchy" American woman with model looks.
I am twenty now, and this is merely reflective of long term goals. I am not so much looking to go abroad or start dating next month say. But my ultimate goal is to be married by twenty seven so I can find a woman young enough to start a family. My mother initially did not want children, so my dad waited until they were both in their thirties to have my sister and I. He wanted more children and regretted not being able to. My sister does not want children, so my dad placed the burden on me to give him grandchildren. It is, however, a role I am happy to accept. I am conservative because I find the divorce rate and number of single mothers shockingly high, a real national tragedy.
Do I have a good mindset? Does anyone else have similar experiences? Any types of advice you can offer?
I would like to thank Winston and others for their writings. This is very good and important work.
I'm David and I thought to tell you a little about myself in hope someone can offer advice for my situation.
I am twenty years old, half Chinese, half white. My mother is Chinese and my father of blonde European ancestry. I am pretty good looking, though not very tall. Some people can tell I am Asian, but others cannot.
I am very conservative and traditional, but I should make clear what I mean by this. I am not specifically religious, but I do want to remain a virgin until marriage. My goal is to be married by age twenty seven, preferably to a woman a few years younger. I want to raise a family.
As for my relationships with women, I get along well enough with my older sister because we grew up together, but she is a hardcore liberal feminist. Feminist theory has its roots in Marxism, so this is altogether unsurprising. My sister is not one who is merely influenced by Feminism through the media, but is an active participant in its propagation. I reject these theories and that is why I am a conservative. I believe in Capitalism, but not the Ayn Rand fetishism that is used as a strawman and is not reflective of most conservative thought. Honestly, I believe Socialism is viable in smaller communities, but when applied to massive states like China, Soviet Union, or increasingly in America it just becomes an uncontrollable bureaucracy with quite often deadly consequences. I believe in traditional gender roles and it is in this sense that I am conservative, but certainly not in any nationalistic sense of the word. I also primarily believe in libertarian methodologies.
As for my mother, she was a careerist woman who put in much less effort towards raising me than my father. She once told me she worked so hard because she was afraid of winding up like her friends, divorced without a safety net. In any case, this was an insecure and self fulfilling prophecy as her valuing a career over motherhood caused considerable tension with my father. My father has privately told me not to marry someone like her. I have a very strained relationship with my mother.
When I entered high school, I went to a county school where students from each town in the county could take an entrance exam and the top five in each town would be admitted. This means almost all of my classmates were new. On the first day, I got up from my chair during a class and when I returned a girl was sitting there. She was about to give me my seat back when I told her to stay and sat next to her. We played board games together and it was one of the happiest days of my life (there weren't many at the time). Her name was Angel, or Andzelika, and she was Polish. She moved to America when she was seven, but still had a considerable accent. She was very religious, but also very smart, and wrote poetry. She would teach me things like sign language and the genus and species names of various animals. For reasons I will not get into, things did not work out, but on reflection I now know that that is the type of girl I want. She was not ugly, but she was not the type likely to get a modeling contract. Nevertheless, her personality was so refreshing compared to my sister or various other girls. From reading this site, I would hope that this is just more characteristic of foreign women's personalities versus American women. I long to find another like her and vow to seize such an opportunity if it occurs. Since time has passed, I am not so nostalgically enamored with her as much as I have a recognizance of a certain personality type I desire and hope to find in other foreign women. I would not settle for less.
As far as looks, I have spent considerable time browsing foreign dating sites and have concluded that I personally find Ukrainian women most attractive, by a margin large enough that I can say so with confidence. Not just Russian women, but specifically Ukrainian. Not that that matters so much though. As said above, I would be much more interested in an average looking woman with a good personality than an entitled "bitchy" American woman with model looks.
I am twenty now, and this is merely reflective of long term goals. I am not so much looking to go abroad or start dating next month say. But my ultimate goal is to be married by twenty seven so I can find a woman young enough to start a family. My mother initially did not want children, so my dad waited until they were both in their thirties to have my sister and I. He wanted more children and regretted not being able to. My sister does not want children, so my dad placed the burden on me to give him grandchildren. It is, however, a role I am happy to accept. I am conservative because I find the divorce rate and number of single mothers shockingly high, a real national tragedy.
Do I have a good mindset? Does anyone else have similar experiences? Any types of advice you can offer?
I would like to thank Winston and others for their writings. This is very good and important work.
