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Greetings.

I am new to the site. My name is Justin, and I live in Arizona.

I recently was dealing with depression, confusion about things, and becoming more and more isolated in my love life. I was smarting from a move from Chicago to Phoenix for work. I left in March. There was a woman that I was dating, and I loved very much. She did not take the plunge with me. This was the only person that I loved with my entire heart and soul, and I was married before to someone I did not feel this strongly about.

Anyways, I was the ultimate guy to her. Bought her a sympathy card when her dog died, was supportive of many decisions that she made. I coddled her and loved her without condition. Got her a job that she quit a week after I moved. Ultimately, she chose her best friend over me. I could not understand why this was.

Once it ended, I became empty inside, because my logical brain said that I was damn near perfect to her, yet she couldn't do the things that I have seen women do for the men that they loved.

Then, about 2 weeks ago, I was discussing things online with a long lost friend. He told me about international dating, and so much more.

He referred me to this site.

The first thing I read was the research section. I couldn't look away. My ex fit the profile of how women act. Mind you, she is overweight and still had that sense of entitlement.
After reading the research section, I have been enlightened. I have been only on POF looking to meet women overseas. I have a communication with one in Mexico, and I really want to meet her.

I have been preaching about the site like it is Scripture. I have noticed huge swings in behavior patterns that I was completely oblivious to, prior to reading the site. I want to regurgitate when I see American women act exactly as described.

Any advice on work in Mexico? How much should I save?

Also, how do I add a picture under my name for posting? Any help would be greatly appreciated. I look forward to reading posts, and becoming a member of this site.

Roll Tide!

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Just so I'm sure, you left your girl in Chicago and you were really cut-up that she never came with you to Phoenix.

Now you've had time to think things over, you feel she wasn't really in love with you (or didn't love you as much as you loved her). Now you've found foreign women and "...you won't go back" to US women.

Like Ghost, I'm glad you've woken up to US women before your life got ruined by child/mommy support. I've never been to Mexico, but I'd advise you to go there first for a visit and see if you can live there/find a job that pays enough to live on. And secondly, you don't need to rush - just go when you can, and remember to meet more than one girl there as there's plenty of attractive girls there.

Polya, yes. She didn't want to come. I think this mainly had to do with the fact that she would be 100% reliant on me.
Don't know and don't care anymore.

I do plan on learning Spanish. I am a purchasing agent, but one of my co workers lived in Mexico for 5 years and made great money.
The biggest fear I have about Mexico is the pollution.

Also, I am just a huge fan of the Crimson Tide. Lifelong. may family is originally from there.

I guess I am concerned about finding women abroad because I am 300 pounds.

bama79rolltide wrote:Polya, yes. She didn't want to come. I think this mainly had to do with the fact that she would be 100% reliant on me.
Don't know and don't care anymore.

I do plan on learning Spanish. I am a purchasing agent, but one of my co workers lived in Mexico for 5 years and made great money.
The biggest fear I have about Mexico is the pollution.

Also, I am just a huge fan of the Crimson Tide. Lifelong. may family is originally from there.

I guess I am concerned about finding women abroad because I am 300 pounds.

well lose some weight lol

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bama79rolltide wrote:Polya, yes. She didn't want to come. I think this mainly had to do with the fact that she would be 100% reliant on me.
Don't know and don't care anymore.

I do plan on learning Spanish. I am a purchasing agent, but one of my co workers lived in Mexico for 5 years and made great money.
The biggest fear I have about Mexico is the pollution.

Also, I am just a huge fan of the Crimson Tide. Lifelong. may family is originally from there.

I guess I am concerned about finding women abroad because I am 300 pounds.

By far your best chances is in the Philippines. Filipinas are just amazing. They are a culture that will truly accept you for who you are and they REALLY don't care about looks as you will see in their dating profiles. They are the only foreign women profiles that I see that repeatedly state looks doesn't matter. And one reason why I believe them when they say it is because damn near 75% of them will date a man 20-35 years older than them. (Even to upper 60's) .If they don't care much about large age spreads, then they are most likely to not care about looks or weight too. Another advantage is that they speak English there. Im like you in that Im a total wuss when it comes to adjusting to 3rd world environments such as pollution and lack of modern stuff, but Cebu is almost as modern as the US and its clean, and the taxi drivers don't try to rip you off, and a TON of Americans are choosing Cebu to retire. Though, work is another thing altogether. In South America you can actually make a good income teaching English if you make the effort to get advanced certification (like about $18K to $27K). But the Phils don't need native English teachers as much. To live in the phils, you need passive income. Winston says he gets part time gigs from other expats, but finding something steady and full time, not likely.

If you do go to S America, Colombia seems the most modern and easiest to adjust too. Anyways, good luck to ya!

PS- As the author of the research section, glad you liked it. : )