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Guys,

As time goes on, it's getting more and more difficult for me to deal with having no sex life whatsoever. I'm caught in this dilemma of NEEDING sex really really badly since my body is just teeming with Testosterone and I have a high sex drive, yet my future plans, morals, and concerns prevent me from going out here in the USA and trying to get laid.

Herein lies the problem... to put it bluntly, my plan is to relocate to another country in a few years, whenever I get the funds or ability to generate passive income set for me. There I want to meet a quality girl who hasn't slept around, enter a committed relationship with her, and "live happily ever after". However, a few years is a long goddamn time!

It's been 2 years now since I last had sex, and that was with my now ex-wife before the bottom fell out for good on our marriage. She was only the 2nd girl I had sex with in my life (though I did fool around with a few other girlfriends growing up) because that is the person I was, and to a large extent, still am. I've never been one for hookups and absolutely HATE the hookup culture that perverts the United States. And this might make you laugh, but I'm not religious and am actually atheist (though I want to pursue Ch'an/Zen Buddhism) so these morals just naturally come from within me.

But as time goes on here, lack of having any kind of sexual life whatsoever is literally KILLING me. After having consistent sex during my marriage over a span of 12 years, going without it altogether is proving to be more than I can take. Fapping sucks, fleshlights suck, porn sucks. Maybe a quality silicone doll would add some temporary spice but I'm not dropping thousands of dollars on one that could be used to save for my journey.


Now to the meat of my concerns... if I really wanted to I could probably get laid, but here are the problems I have with this --

1) I absolutely HATE what women in the USA have become. I mean HATE! Their attitude, their morals, their pure relentless arrogance! I tend to get rejected almost all the time when I approach and so every time I did I'd be feeding the disgusting, mutated, overblown egos that these... creatures... possess. Thus, I'd just be propagating the cycle of madness in doing so, directly contributing to the problem with Western Women.

2) I am extremely concerned about the outbreak and plague of false accusations and false rape charges that runs rampant in the USA. I seriously don't know how so many guys do it, how they have sex with so many different women here without running into this problem. It seems like you're just asking for trouble by having anything to do with even ONE AW, let alone dozens (or hundreds!).

3) American society is ripe with STD's of all kinds, especially Herpes and HPV. People grind and make out with people that they just met right then and there on the dance floor, any wonder why 1 in 4 have the Herp and up to 80+ percent will get it by the time they die? I am completely STD free and am PARANOID beyond comprehense of getting infected. This disgusting hookup culture has spread so much filth that getting together with ANY American woman is akin to playing russian roulette with half the chambers loaded.

4) Pregnancy. Pure and simple. So many of these skanks out there will try to trap a man like this. Again, how the hell can all these players have sex with hundreds of different women and not get screwed over like this? Knowing my luck the first girl I tried to hookup with would find a way to do this to me.

5) I feel that I would be doing a disservice to my future love by hooking up with randoms and putting notches on my belt.


Now I know many of you would tell me to just hire an escort to avoid these problems, but P4P is not my thing. I need an emotional connection to someone if I'm going to have sex. I'm the last of a dying breed who thinks sex should be at least SOMEWHAT sacred and not something you just give to someone like shaking their hand. So at any rate the escort/P4P thing is out of the question. Besides, the few hundred a pop I'd have to spend on an escort would take away from saving for my journey.


I guess what I'm wondering is, have any of you guys gone through this kind of situation? How the hell can I ease the pain of NEEDING sex so bad but being completely unable to get it in this environment? I don't want to take trips to other countries until it's time to choose one to move to because I am struggling to make money and can't blow it on 2-week vacations, not if I EVER want to have a nestegg saved up that would give me at least a chance to try to make my move.

EVERYWHERE I LOOK sex is RIGHT IN MY FACE and I'm tired of it! On the radio all they ever talk about on these morning shows is SEX SEX SEX HOOKUP SEX BJ'S SEX HOOKUPS just like on TV, just like out at clubs, just like EVERYWHERE in this toxic society. Everyone else in the world is having sex except for me and they do everything in their power to ram it down my throat incessantly. For a guy like me who gets NO sex WHATSOEVER it is truly maddening. I feel like one of these days I'm just going to lose it completely and turn into a vegetable.

What the hell can I do to ease this pain and keep trying to set up my future dreams? I'm out of ideas and this pain has become unbearable.

Thanks guys.

With limited answers. I am only assuming you are a white male as you have not said otherwise. Then i would say simply go Asian. At the local casino where i live many guys just hang out there and pick up Chinese women who incidentally clean the house out every other night. They had a Pit Boss who looked just like Austin Powers and he had 2 Japanese girlfriends. So hang out where they hang out and pick the one that smiles at you.
I have had a few Asian women liking me.

ErikHeaven wrote:With limited answers. I am only assuming you are a white male as you have not said otherwise. Then i would say simply go Asian. At the local casino where i live many guys just hang out there and pick up Chinese women who incidentally clean the house out every other night. They had a Pit Boss who looked just like Austin Powers and he had 2 Japanese girlfriends. So hang out where they hang out and pick the one that smiles at you.
I have had a few Asian women liking me.

Yeah I'm a white male. Age 35, pretty decent looking, decent physique, full head of hair (growing my hair long actually).

Yet not good enough for the vast majority of Ameriskanks out there, despite my outgoing and confident personality and sharp sarcastic wit. Which I guess doesn't matter because I want nothing to do with Ameriskanks in the first place.

Asian women here in the states are just as horrendous as their whitebitch counterparts. Unless I got to socialize with some that were basically fresh off the boat they will have mutated into everything that makes Ameriskanks Ameriskanks, so the concerns I listed out all apply.

I've found that pretty much ALL "exotic" women who live here in the states are even more arrogant that white girls. They're even tougher to approach because they view themselves as even more of a prize due to their exotic appearance. That or they only stick to their own kind (like indian women) and want nothing to do with the likes of me.

No way to win with women here in the states, but I do appreciate your reply!

You have your own experiences and i will not invalidate them. I was hanging out at Niagara Falls one day and a Japanese woman started up a conversation with me. Her English was bad yet we managed to scrape by. We also managed to get back to her hotel room and had sex. I just always smile be friendly and situations like this happen all the time. I get action in Toronto as well too. We have different perceptions yet i see single women all the time who want to have a sex thing.

I appreciate your honesty. Most men prefer to pretend that sex and money fall into their lap like mana from heaven, even if it's not true.

Why do you have to wait a few years to leave the country? A plane ticket can cost 600 dollars if you search around.

Do you live close to Mexico or Canada? You don't like P4P but sometimes you can find a working girl that you can have an emotional connection with. I've had that with some Angeles City bar girls even. Foreign P4P girls are not always all business like American ones are.

It is not true that everyone is getting laid except you. That is just hype. According to American culture though, you aren't supposed to need sex. You are supposed to be strong and independent and not have needs outside of work and money. lol

I'm going to move this thread to the Advice board.

Especially single moms here in the USA they are always ready for casual sex. f**k em and flee.

And yes when i was in the Army we went to Mexico and we had plenty of women there who were hot and skinny and only charged 50.00 dollars U.S. Things are different now and i am sure the same deal applies or you could just go there and marry one. They are hot loyal and traditional women.

Women *never* start conversations with me. Whenever I try to start one with randoms in public they do their best to give me quick rushed responses to everything I say and ignore me once I stop talking.

Any time I've approached one in the past they've shot me down brutally.

Women in the US just don't like me, period. Never could figure out why. Even if they did though I'm still apprehensive about trying to get laid because of reasons 2-5 in my list.

A lot of women in the US dislike me at first glance too. They can sense that I'm authentic and uncorrupted and not a conformist with a herd mentality, and that turns them off for some reason.

What state are you in? I'm sure you can fly to Mexico for a few days and get it out of your system? Believe it or not, there are working girls who will treat you like a boyfriend, and be sweet to you and satisfy you emotionally, not just physically. They are not cold and business-like like you think.

Mexico try Mexico. They have the finest women there and they are nice and traditional. How come nobody talks about Mexican women here? They are good for life marriage partners.

Winston,

I have to wait at least a few years to move out of the country and expat, unless some kind of good job opportunity presents itself or I figure out how to make good passive income in a hurry.

I don't want to take vacation trips out of the country because I see that money as money I could use to save for expating. Having fun for 2 weeks isn't worth pushing back my plan another year.

As for working girls (in any fashion), my concerns are the same for them as they are for normal ameriskanks, especially reasons 3 and 5. And to top it off I could NEVER have an emotional connection with a woman who sells her body. I just couldn't. I don't have any moral qualms with people doing that mind you, but I personally could never connect emotionally with a whore.

I'm in Michigan by the way.


Erik,

As far as Mexico goes, I do want to learn spanish but Mexico is a pretty rough country these days. Plus it's where my backstabbing bitch ex-wife came from... lol.

Damn you got a bad one. You could look into the Black American women who claim they are going to the white man now. I watched a video on Youtube yesterday with black women (The bottom feeders of America) claiming they are going white now. You could f**k tons of them and dump them.
As a black man i have been done with them for years. Could be something to consider. They are good in bed that's about it.

It is not true that going on a two week vacation will set you back a year. Do the math. If you go to Mexico or even the Philippines, you would not have to spend that much, and it would not take you a year to save up for it. You could have fun in the Philippines for 1500 dollars including round trip airfare. It doesn't take a year to save that. Come on now.

If sex is what you want, P4P is the quickest way to get it. If you want love, then join some Mexico personals and meet up with some girls there. You can have both too, meet some girls there and on the side, have some P4P as well, hitting two birds with one stone.

What's stopping you?

ErikHeaven wrote:Especially single moms here in the USA they are always ready for casual sex. f**k em and flee.

@Erik Heaven,

That baffles the shit out of me: how come single mothers arent' grateful enough to have a stable man in their life? Yet they are so gung-ho
about you not able to meet their kids right away YET they are so worried about looking like a whorish role model to their bastardized offspring.
Maybe some of the answer is already in my statements?!

Well the main thing stopping me financially is the fact I'm paying off the rest of my post-divorce credit card debt. I can't blow $1500 because I need to pay this blasted debt that's been eating away at me for years.

What I really want is to find some way to put sex out of my mind altogether right now because I can't even force myself to try P4P or random hookups. The desire to have an actual partner is too great and my morals get in the way.

If I did Mexico it would be to find a partner and I would have to move there. America RUINED my ex wife. I mean RUINED her. She was the sweetest, most innocent girl you ever met when we first got together. Was an illegal and was basically a slave (nanny) for the woman's family who brought her to the states. I rescued her from her predicament and we got married, I got her legalized, and eventually she started working. Over time she started to seriously change for the worse... She became this stubborn witch who criticized everything, expected me to do everything according to her timetable and whim, and treated me like some kind of employee or subordinate instead of her husband. All she cared about was her career and her friends from work, and things REALLY turned to shit after she became a supervisor.

In the beginning of our marriage she would say, "All I want is to be with you, no matter what, I don't care how poor we are or where our life goes. Love is all that matters. Love is the true foundation of a relationship. Please don't ever leave me."

At the end, she'd say, "I don't care what you do to please me, I don't want to be with you any more. You won't stick with one career and I believe that financial security is the true foundation of a relationship. Get lost."

No joke.

So yeah, Mexico has been a little tainted in my eyes. But regardless, that is why I MUST move to another country and live with a girl there if I'm ever to have a lifelong, happy marriage. I already did the "bring a foreign girl here" thing basically (even though she was already here when we met) and it resulted in me losing my ENTIRE FAMILY. We didn't have kids, but she turned my very own parents, sister, and extended family against me. She destroyed my life and kicked me out of hers completely.

Sorry to ramble but thinking about Mexico brings all these bad memories back.