EXACTLY! I also spent 4 years living in Asia as well and it kicks ass on living here in Canada. Girls in Asia are simply more feminine and less butchy and guyish. Somewhere down the line it became cool for girls here to act like men. Women play hard to get and would rather go out with their friends and see how many guys they can deny, rather try and have genuine conversations and get to know someone. It's all a game. Of course it is, why else would we have so called "gurus" teaching us how to play their game and beat them at it?ryanx wrote:After being away from the West and specifically Canada for around 4 years, and living in Asia (mainly Taiwan) I came back for some fresh air and rest and relaxation - my first visit to Vancouver...man! this society is seriously sick. There are fat, ugly, aggressive, tattooed, loud women everywhere...some female bus drivers are particularly gross! I have no idea how they get into and out of the driver seat.
People in general look downcast and depressed, Everybody's head is buried in an iPhone, an e-Reader or an iPad. Nobody looks anybody in the eye, all your actions are viewed suspiciously. Some people look quite wound up and close to the edge.
A lot of people mumble to themselves as they walk. Some clearly crave human contact (you can see it on their faces as they look at others hoping to make some connection).
Service is efficient and fast, but there is no joy or vitality on anybody's face. Politeness and niceness is forced and contrived. Very rarely can you get past superficial scripted banter about how your day is going...this is not everybody of course. There are some enlightened souls who are aware of this oppressive atmosphere and once you make an effort they respond well and meaningfully and are glad for the warmth.
My favorite is when I give as much attitude and more to the aggressive, out of control attitudes of females who have been getting away with being obnoxious just for being female and feeling untouchable, the expression of rage and dumbfoundedness on their faces is priceless! - Thank you Tom Leykis!!
I mean, why would they act like that unless they knew they can get away with it? Of course they have a trump card up their sleeves, which is if you give them too much attitude they are gonna get hysterical and call for some authority to deal with you...not because you did anything wrong or broke any laws or attacked them in any shape or form...but the hassle of dealing with this and trying to prove that it is their shitty attitudes that is wrong in the first place that is enough of a deterrent for most men to back down and further embolden the female for the next encounter.
In Asia I am totally respectful of the general female population and feel comfortable around them. I don't hassle them in any way and very rarely do I have to mildly rebuke one in a gentle humorous manner...so I know it is not ME for sure.
The society is unwell. You look around you at all the material and technological advances...it looks right, but it feels wrong! (trademarked).
I had another thought today about the so called 'political correctness' phenomenon in the West. It is actually a very selfish mechanism to serve the person being 'correct' so they would feel good about themselves. It is never about the person at the receiving end. Why not just replace the 'correctness' with some humanity and kindness?
How sad our society has become. Even just a simple conversation is a no no when in public lest someone might judge the situation as a date or "we're together".
I had the best time in Asia where you just be yourself and have fun with real genuine girls. I've never been so depressed in my life as when I came back here. I'm still not fully out of it and it's been 8 months.
I'd rather be single than get back into the "game". Where can I meet a genuine asian girl here?