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Hi!


Skype conversation between me and her (Filipina, 26 years old):


Her:

"Hello xxxx ! Good evening. You know what, this is kinda hard for me but I want to tell you something. I'm not telling you this because I want to impress or something. but to be Honest with you. I'm not lazy person but the reason why I cannot apply for an appropriate job here is because I don't have the permit, I'm illegal. I just came here for vacation and to look for my auntie for 6 mons but my Visa was expired. When they ask me (aunties) if I want to stay here so I answered them I 'll try. That's why I stay here Illegal. That's the reason! I didn't tell you this before because I don't know how to tell you. And a bit afraid. I hope you understand."


Her:

"If my auntie go back to the philippines on 2016 for good, I mean she will never go back here, I will go with her. And then now that we're planning to go home my aunties ask me If ever Am I willing to marry a swiss?! And I told to them that when I met your husband in luzern He's very kind so I said Yes. Maybe I should try meeting someone here in switzerland. That's why we look in the internet. But of course I'm looking for a partner but to the right person. To the one I love. Not just because of anything"


Me: Why are you looking for a swiss guy?

She: "I'm not referring to a swiss. I would be able to marry anyone who will accept me for who I am. Filipino, swiss, german or anyone. To the right person at the right time. But I just tried it over this chatroom"


Is she trustworthy or is she using me for the green card? What do you guys think?

Teal Lantern wrote:Using you? No.
From what you posted, she didn't ask you for anything.

Mentioning a problem and seeing if you don a Captain-Fix-It cape? YES!
Then, when/if it goes bad for you, she'll be able to say she "didn't ask, you offered...".

Solution: Don't put on the cape.

Hmm this seems like a lot of chess moves for a woman. Do they really think this far ahead?

drealm wrote:Hmm this seems like a lot of chess moves for a woman. Do they really think this far ahead?

Yes. Manipulation, for a woman, is like upper body strength, for a man.

For them, it's not many moves at all:
1) Mention problem to orbiter.

2) Busy herself (texting FWB?) while orbiter fixes problem.

3a) If orbiter doesn't fix problem, find next orbiter, go back to step one.
3b) If orbiter fixes problem, say thanks (optional), go bang FWB.

If one must play the game, be the ONS/FWB getting the bang, not the orbiter fixing her problems for free.

I would be suspicious of her and her intentions, mr_certainly_not_ordinary. That's why, it's better to meet a person face-to-face instead of through Skype or through a dating site. You can really gauge a person much better that way.