PrisonerOfLife wrote:...when one has been ousted and humiliated by AW for all of his adult life?
I think your answer will come from a simple realization. There's a US author and psychiatrist named Dr. Livingston, who wrote a critically acclaimed book called
Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart, wherein he conveys 30 truths or life lessons. One of these life lessons is "The statute of limitation has expired on most of our childhood traumas." Although being rejected by many women is adult trauma, the lesson still holds. There is nothing keeping you from being successful with women (overseas) unless you're still crippled by the pain and bitterness of past experience. I know it's hard, but at a certain point you have to realize that dwelling on the past hinders your future endeavors. Trust me on this. Let it go.
Yes...you were hurt, but put in context. Pain isn't something to be totally avoided and hated, it's also a learning experience. How can you truly appreciate what love is if you've never felt the opposite? Life consists of such dualities of understanding. There is nothing hold you back except your own fears and doubts. All the women that had ever humiliated you are long in the past. Take a breath of fresh air and look towards the future.
PrisonerOfLife wrote:Does exemplifying confidence really matter as much to FW as it does to AW, or is it primarily a false construct that gives AW something comfortable to identify as "attractive" without saying that they prefer volatile men over reliable men?
Is social status in a feminazi country a reliable indicator of how non-western women will respond?
I think in order to answer you question, you need to understand some male-female sexual dynamics.
The general behavior of women (and men) in a society is dictated by a combination of genetics and culture. Since basic primal genetic behaviors are universal--because we're all humans--the only deciding factor in how a group behaves is culture. You could think of genetics as an impulse and culture as a restraint. Traditional societies usually have strict rules on behaviors (culture) and employ tactics such as group shaming to make sure no one does anything selfish to harm the society. The reason I bring this up is because women are naturally hypergamous:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypergamy (Important that you understand this first)
In a society (such as the US) where there is no more restraining culture (thanks sexual revolution), genetically determined behaviors takes a front seat. That means the natural hypergamy of women comes roaring out, and traditional relationship structures that society has been so use to gets broken down. Combine that with income equality and we have hypergamous women that can't choose the "best males" based on socioeconomic status because there aren't that many. Instead, they have to choose based on other indicators of what constitutes "alpha male", such as confident/aggressive/aloof behaviors. This is the basis for PUA, which is a thriving community on the internet.
Since AW are not traditionally-cultured; confidence, boldness, and borderline sociopath behaviors work better on them than foreign women, arguably to the point of sickness. Chris Brown beats his girlfriend and still has millions of (female) fans and is very rich. A lot of AW just love "bad boys." This would not be tolerated in other countries.
Of course this is a simplified explanation. There are other complex social factors to consider like liberalism/feminism.
To understand more, read a previous post of mine:
viewtopic.php?t=16206
PrisonerOfLife wrote:It seems like I'm among the least confident of the social rejects I know that things will actually be different given how suppressed I feel in this culture and how fake everything is. How can one be assured that the new foreign environment is not toxic like the USA is?
These questions may seem self-defeating, but I'm an inherently skeptical and dissonant person in this regard. Basically what I'm asking here is how do you be confident enough to know that your new environment will allow you to thrive when your old environment made you miserable?
Stop this pessimism and self-defeatism. The only reason you're a social reject is because you consider yourself one. You say everything is fake in this society, yet you measure yourself by its "fake" standards. It's okay not to have a million (facebook) friends and going to parties/bars to get retarded drunk. As long as you can communicate effectively with people, have a few close friends, and spend quality time with family--that is fine. A lot of "popular" people don't have such in depth relationships with anyone.
I think you're like what I once was--an over-analyzing type. Hungry for information to explain the troubles in the world but at the same time this desire cripples you from enjoying life. "Everything has to be carefully planned out and calculated. Risks have to be assessed."
Am I ringing any bells? The thing is that there are no assurances in life, including being happier abroad. It doesn't mean strategic planning and information collecting isn't still essential, but there comes a time when you have to take the plunge and desirable results aren't always guaranteed. But isn't it what makes life beautiful? The unknown? You're over-thinking cripples you towards inaction. So what if you find out you don't like one country, go visit another one. Pork some bar girls once in a while.
I don't think you'll be happy anywhere unless things change. Why? Because your problem is an internal problem--one of self-doubt, low self-esteem, and risk-aversion . Are you afraid if getting hurt or making a mistake? If so, you'll never get anywhere. Most humans are like turtles. They are comfortable in their shells but occasionally stick their heads out and look around to see whats out there. If they see something outside of their comfort zone, they quickly retreat back into their shells. Don't be a turtle.
You have confidence by gaining more life experiences, making mistakes, and accepting/learning from them.
Maybe you should save up some money, set aside a few weeks, and take the plunge and explore a country (and its women ;D ).
PM me if you need help deciding on what country.
