Got PLAYED - now what?
Posted: April 6th, 2014, 1:28 am
OK kinda LOL at myself now,,,
...hurt a little earlier today...
Got played by a 19 year old who was trying to make a long-term bf (beta-type) jealous...
Apparently she just needed a tall White gringo on FB to get her desired result... I guess.
No major damage done, my ego is pretty much just scar tissue anyway these days.
But back to square one.
Here's the narrative:
Decided the loneliness-while-working just could not wait till I take a bride-hunting trip to elsewhere. Decided I had to get someone in NOW. Thought I had found the ideal path to a cute little assistant/protege etc. Put out a well-thought-out flier ("annuncio") about what I needed in assistant. Posted where women would see it, like grocery store. From there got a good cook who came in twice, cleaned, all that. But also had the guts to hand it to a couple of promo girls who were handing out THEIR fliers for clubs or whatever.
One of the promo girls called the next morning and asked if she could bring a friend. Sure, the first time or two, I told her. Went to pick them up at a grocery store (noone uses addresses here). BOTH HOT. DAMN. OK, well, they want a paycheck, not you, Jester, cool your jets. But one, the more feminine one, Miss N, was clearly open to flirtation of a civilized sort. So, you know, HEY now....
She hinted that she liked to ride horses, and they rent horses on the beach. Cool -a healthy outdoors date. I said we'd make a plan sometime. (Figured I could know her better by working together a few more days, before putting on my Casanova cap.) Then a while she let me know excitedly that the Marineros baseball team would be playing. OK, I said. Let's go, and why don't we bring your little brother. She said OK, but sounded a little disappointed. I frankly like a crowd, but also I wasn't planning to stretch her out and make love on the stadium bleachers, and didnt see why I shouldnt do something nice for a kid from a very poor area (had seen their house). Anyway her pal (Miss P) reminded her she couldnt go that afternoon, something else, blah blah. The weather was nice, so I suggested a beach date for the next day. She jumped. Damn, that was easy.
Dropping them off (on my way to the gym, looks like I'll have to get in shape for these young chicks, right?), Miss P confessed that they had quit their job at the club to work for me. I hadnt put that together before. Can you imagine quitting a job to work for a guy you never met? Anyway, I felt a little awed by their faith, wanted to give them Saturday work, and told Miss P to come along the next day (which was today), because she and Miss N always did everything together.
Miss P was very grateful for kindness I'd shown, and Miss N glowed after I did my Latin Caballero intro with her mom at her house, and when I visibly winked at her saying goodbye. She looked like she would have accepted an embrazo or beso in front of mom, but I saw no reason to push it. Sneaking up her, that's what ol' Jester was doin'. Yup. Smart one, that Jester.
Hell her MOM was glowing too.
All's well, right? OK, so this morning, no show. Let it go a while. Called Miss P about 25 minutes in, then Miss N an hour later. Both phones gave some kind of rapidishspanish backtalk to the effect that they were incommunicado or out of minutes or whatever. BOTH phones. OK, I've only been flaked by a girl twice before in my life, but I DO know the signs. BUT... the chick was so hot, so sweet, and so okay with my polite "kino", and had TOLD me she didnt have a bf (when I asked). And she had clearly WANTED to go out with me (if only for some get-out-of-the-house fun). So what gives? Hmmm... sent her a FB message, "obviously there is some kind of problem, are she and Miss P OK?" Deafening silence. Hmmm. Well, Jester has seen this before. ONE parent liked me (in this case the mom), but I must have been shut down by the OTHER parent. I've been shut down like that twice, once with a gal in Georgia, once in Glendale, both marriageable, interested cuties 25 to 30+ years younger. Sometimes, as Will Smith said, parents just don't understand.
Oh, the pain. (Quoting DOCTOR Smith now.)
A little later a lightbulb went on. Hmm -check HER FB. After all, she had nosed around mine. I noticed she had "liked" my two bestest handsomest pictures. OK. Nuthin wrong wit dat.
Then I noticed hearts and I love you from a guy her age, posted a couple days before. Response from her was cold, "thank you". Hmmm. Who is this guy? Clicked him. His status? "In a relationship".... with her! Ahh, the plot thickens. Miss N... MY Miss N... the future mother of a new race of Armeno-Mexicans... is IN A RELATIONSHIP... or WAS... or is being pursued by a guy who HAS NO GAME AT ALL. Ahhh... it becomes clear. Nope it wasn't the parents. I was being used as a foil, to torture this poor longsuffering Romeo.
Even worse than getting shut down by parents. At least if it was parents, I could console myself that a young hottie actually wanted me.
But now it's clear, she just wanted my presence on FB. A photo op at a baseball game, as she had originally suggested, would have been perfect. No kissy kissy, no skin, just a great FB post to rub poor Romeo's face in.
Anyway maybe the beach was too much, and the FB "likes" on my photos were enough for Romeo to come running and pleading.
Got USED.
Am I sad and hurt. Nope. Do I feel stupid? Yup.
PLUSES:
1) At least it happened before I took her on a date and spent any money. Didnt even pay for a taco. Please DO NOT ASK what I wouldve spent if I'd been allowed to blunder forward.
(The girls each got paid the first day they worked, but they worked hard and did a lot of work. The second day I only paid one girl's wage, the other came for the vibes, and worked anyway. So I got more than what I paid for.)
2) I am free to move to a nicer area
(Where I am now is close to their neighborhood.)
3) Free to travel the world, if I just get my cash flow going again, and sort through old stuff.
MINUSES:
1) Lost a chance to learn Spanish for free.
2) Didn't "get any".
3) Lost my "street cred" on HA.
4) Lost a chance to have a circle of friends down here who are young and Mexican, not old and gringo.
NOW:
Do I go suck my thumb, as Robert Kiyosaki would say, and wait till I can really concentrate on taking a dating-trip to more fertile soil? (rural Mexico, Syria, SEA, etc. -somewhere that Miss Next 19 year old WILL be for real, no games)
Or at least find some accommodating young ladies in SEA who can lend a helping hand, so to speak?
Or do I do the "annuncio" thing AGAIN? Frankly my heart's not in in it right now. I feel like I will get more of what I got before - old mamas or young flakes.
I don't mind long odds if it's the only way, but I don't want to swim upstream unnecessarily.
And I really hate looking stupid!
...hurt a little earlier today...
Got played by a 19 year old who was trying to make a long-term bf (beta-type) jealous...
Apparently she just needed a tall White gringo on FB to get her desired result... I guess.
No major damage done, my ego is pretty much just scar tissue anyway these days.
But back to square one.
Here's the narrative:
Decided the loneliness-while-working just could not wait till I take a bride-hunting trip to elsewhere. Decided I had to get someone in NOW. Thought I had found the ideal path to a cute little assistant/protege etc. Put out a well-thought-out flier ("annuncio") about what I needed in assistant. Posted where women would see it, like grocery store. From there got a good cook who came in twice, cleaned, all that. But also had the guts to hand it to a couple of promo girls who were handing out THEIR fliers for clubs or whatever.
One of the promo girls called the next morning and asked if she could bring a friend. Sure, the first time or two, I told her. Went to pick them up at a grocery store (noone uses addresses here). BOTH HOT. DAMN. OK, well, they want a paycheck, not you, Jester, cool your jets. But one, the more feminine one, Miss N, was clearly open to flirtation of a civilized sort. So, you know, HEY now....
She hinted that she liked to ride horses, and they rent horses on the beach. Cool -a healthy outdoors date. I said we'd make a plan sometime. (Figured I could know her better by working together a few more days, before putting on my Casanova cap.) Then a while she let me know excitedly that the Marineros baseball team would be playing. OK, I said. Let's go, and why don't we bring your little brother. She said OK, but sounded a little disappointed. I frankly like a crowd, but also I wasn't planning to stretch her out and make love on the stadium bleachers, and didnt see why I shouldnt do something nice for a kid from a very poor area (had seen their house). Anyway her pal (Miss P) reminded her she couldnt go that afternoon, something else, blah blah. The weather was nice, so I suggested a beach date for the next day. She jumped. Damn, that was easy.
Dropping them off (on my way to the gym, looks like I'll have to get in shape for these young chicks, right?), Miss P confessed that they had quit their job at the club to work for me. I hadnt put that together before. Can you imagine quitting a job to work for a guy you never met? Anyway, I felt a little awed by their faith, wanted to give them Saturday work, and told Miss P to come along the next day (which was today), because she and Miss N always did everything together.
Miss P was very grateful for kindness I'd shown, and Miss N glowed after I did my Latin Caballero intro with her mom at her house, and when I visibly winked at her saying goodbye. She looked like she would have accepted an embrazo or beso in front of mom, but I saw no reason to push it. Sneaking up her, that's what ol' Jester was doin'. Yup. Smart one, that Jester.
Hell her MOM was glowing too.
All's well, right? OK, so this morning, no show. Let it go a while. Called Miss P about 25 minutes in, then Miss N an hour later. Both phones gave some kind of rapidishspanish backtalk to the effect that they were incommunicado or out of minutes or whatever. BOTH phones. OK, I've only been flaked by a girl twice before in my life, but I DO know the signs. BUT... the chick was so hot, so sweet, and so okay with my polite "kino", and had TOLD me she didnt have a bf (when I asked). And she had clearly WANTED to go out with me (if only for some get-out-of-the-house fun). So what gives? Hmmm... sent her a FB message, "obviously there is some kind of problem, are she and Miss P OK?" Deafening silence. Hmmm. Well, Jester has seen this before. ONE parent liked me (in this case the mom), but I must have been shut down by the OTHER parent. I've been shut down like that twice, once with a gal in Georgia, once in Glendale, both marriageable, interested cuties 25 to 30+ years younger. Sometimes, as Will Smith said, parents just don't understand.
Oh, the pain. (Quoting DOCTOR Smith now.)
A little later a lightbulb went on. Hmm -check HER FB. After all, she had nosed around mine. I noticed she had "liked" my two bestest handsomest pictures. OK. Nuthin wrong wit dat.
Then I noticed hearts and I love you from a guy her age, posted a couple days before. Response from her was cold, "thank you". Hmmm. Who is this guy? Clicked him. His status? "In a relationship".... with her! Ahh, the plot thickens. Miss N... MY Miss N... the future mother of a new race of Armeno-Mexicans... is IN A RELATIONSHIP... or WAS... or is being pursued by a guy who HAS NO GAME AT ALL. Ahhh... it becomes clear. Nope it wasn't the parents. I was being used as a foil, to torture this poor longsuffering Romeo.
Even worse than getting shut down by parents. At least if it was parents, I could console myself that a young hottie actually wanted me.
But now it's clear, she just wanted my presence on FB. A photo op at a baseball game, as she had originally suggested, would have been perfect. No kissy kissy, no skin, just a great FB post to rub poor Romeo's face in.
Anyway maybe the beach was too much, and the FB "likes" on my photos were enough for Romeo to come running and pleading.
Got USED.
Am I sad and hurt. Nope. Do I feel stupid? Yup.
PLUSES:
1) At least it happened before I took her on a date and spent any money. Didnt even pay for a taco. Please DO NOT ASK what I wouldve spent if I'd been allowed to blunder forward.
(The girls each got paid the first day they worked, but they worked hard and did a lot of work. The second day I only paid one girl's wage, the other came for the vibes, and worked anyway. So I got more than what I paid for.)
2) I am free to move to a nicer area
(Where I am now is close to their neighborhood.)
3) Free to travel the world, if I just get my cash flow going again, and sort through old stuff.
MINUSES:
1) Lost a chance to learn Spanish for free.
2) Didn't "get any".
3) Lost my "street cred" on HA.
4) Lost a chance to have a circle of friends down here who are young and Mexican, not old and gringo.
NOW:
Do I go suck my thumb, as Robert Kiyosaki would say, and wait till I can really concentrate on taking a dating-trip to more fertile soil? (rural Mexico, Syria, SEA, etc. -somewhere that Miss Next 19 year old WILL be for real, no games)
Or at least find some accommodating young ladies in SEA who can lend a helping hand, so to speak?
Or do I do the "annuncio" thing AGAIN? Frankly my heart's not in in it right now. I feel like I will get more of what I got before - old mamas or young flakes.
I don't mind long odds if it's the only way, but I don't want to swim upstream unnecessarily.
And I really hate looking stupid!
