If you're out in public and you see an attractive woman, have you ever had the following assumptions;
- She's got a boyfriend, all attractive women do
- She's got loads of guys interested in her
- She'd only be interested in x, y, z type guys
- She must be unfriendly and stuck-up
The questions I want to ask; how many times have you avoided starting a conversation (in any social setting, such as being introduced, at a party, meeting friends of friends, a meetup event) because of assuming one of these things? Also, how many times have you been proven wrong?
I'm wondering, could there be many attractive women out there who're single in large part simply because no-one approaches or starts a conversation with them, likely due to the above assumptions? Or, they only get approached by the sorts of guys who're only after one thing and are not interested in getting to know her as a person?
I hear one reason why attractive women are often single is that men simply don't start conversations with them, even within settings where there's mutual people, such as friends of friends.
Also, social circumstances. Remember the big social catch 22 of needing to know lots of people to meet people through? What's the most common way people meet their partner? Through people they know. Didn't it occur to you that this could apply? If you don't know many people who don't know many people, how are you going to meet people? Didn't it occur that the same may apply to women as well as guys? Think about that. If you've ever been frustrated about not getting to meet new people because your friends don't know ,any people, didn't it occur to you that there's probably women in the same situation?
Take some time to think and to question some of these assumptions. What evidence do you have to believe e.g. 'all attractive women are taken'? What evidence do you have against? Be careful of 'confirmation bias'; that is the tendency to focus more on evidence that supports negative assumptions more than evidence against and also causes us to dismiss evidence against our negative assumptions.
Yeah, yeah, I know there's likely to be knee-jerk cynical replies, but do stop and think, question your assumptions. I want questioning assumptions and evidence against.
NOTE; AUDIENCE THIS IS AIMED AT
This is not aimed at people who're looking for one-night stands or trophy wives. This is aimed at a) guys who're unhappily single and want to be appreciated for who they are b) guys who're enjoying happy dating lives and relationships who've had these thoughts in the past to share their perspective, opinion and insight.