The typical exaggerated comment from Mercury.Mercury wrote: ↑November 4th, 2022, 12:24 pmFor men, online dating is a waste of money. When you're dealing with over 3,000 single men to every 1 single woman on those dating sites, you're sure to lose as surely as a pedestrian on the ground trying to race a space shuttle in orbit above. You might message an attractive woman on Match or Tinder, and unbeknownsd to you, there are about 375,000 other men messaging her as well....
It is not wrong what he says, internet online dating is indeed a waste of time and money for men, especially those who are looking for a Western woman.
A large number of these female profiles turns out to contain seriously misleading information while some of them are fake profiles of women who do not even exist. They were created by the website owner to boost the income, to attract more men to sign up and pay.
The situation is not so much better here in Japan, South Korea and Taiwan either.
There is a gender imbalance, also in Japan, not so high like in China or India, about 100 young women vs. 105 young men.
Most social research data show that about 35 % of all younger women between 20 and 35 do not want to look for a long-term relationship with a man but only 25 % of men think like that.
This means
105 men less 25 % = 79
100 women less 35 % = 65
14 men = approx. 15 % of Japanese young men between 20 and 35 y/o have no chance to find a woman for a long term relationship, as there is none existing, and Japan, South Korea and Taiwan are indeed importers of foreign women for marriage with a Japanese man. Situation is a bit better in the large cities, but worse in places with not so much population, and it is hopeless on islands and in rural areas. You will see only elderly people and some young men. Many elementary small schools are closing down now in rural regions in all Japan, no children.
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Of course Mercury's comments of 3000 single men vs. one woman and 375000 email offers from men to one single female are ridiculous.
More realistic spoken however, the issue does exist, the dating scene is totally broken and it does not look good for young men looking for a female friend.
A Chinese woman from Shanghai, 30 y/o, told me when looking for marriage in Japan she got around 200 serious offers from Japanese men. About Japanese women, even those with moderate looks, if interested in marriage, will likely receive more replies if she is willing to publish her profile somewhere on the Japanese dating internet sites.
Women (even those with low education and who own nothing) have really a choice, but men have not.
A Filipina I knew personally - just plain average, not really what I consider as beautiful, who really had nothing (just a factory worker in a Japanese company in Cebu) and who was looking for meeting men - preferably from Western Europe - got about 50 replies and left Philippines for Germany.
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However what kind of men women choose is often highly questionable too. Honest men with a regular job have little hope indeed.
Best chances are for men to find plenty of women if
1 - they are really rich and offer women a party life-style
2 - they are talking BS, BS and BS, and feel no shame about it - typical con-man or braggart
3 - men with a criminal record, who offer women an 'exciting' way of life-style, drugs, violence...
Somewhat sad....but true...especially for Western women.