Contrarian Expatriate wrote: ↑March 23rd, 2019, 8:00 amVery much correct, although I am in my fifties now and I am having more fun than most 20 year olds are having. I don't know how long this "fun" will last, but I still prefer it over a wife and family to whom I choose to be enslavedZambales wrote: ↑March 23rd, 2019, 7:15 amYou need to look at it from a different angle. There's absolutely no guarantee that children will look after their parents in their swansong. Both the parents or children could die before it gets that far. The child/children could have mental or physical problems, turn into nasty, selfish or rebellious individuals or simply fall out with their parents. There's numerous potential outcomes that need considering. Anyhow, it's not morally correct to bring children into this world for strategic purposes.flowerthief00 wrote: ↑March 22nd, 2019, 10:55 pmIF Though the loss of freedom is no small price to pay, the payoff comes later when the kids are grown and begin to have kids of their own. It is a tried and true strategy to not be lonely in your later years and to exit life with the satisfaction of having built something that persists.
I would say one of the most crucial junctures in your life is when you're a young adult. It doesn't last forever so enjoy it while you can without the need for expensive complications such as kids and relationships. Worry about being lonely nearer the time because that time may never come. If it does, get a cat.
I do understand that in the West, marriage is often a suicide move for men. It can be considerably different other places. I'm really not feeling my misery - married to a good Filipina who sees to it I get waited on hand and foot. Financially, when I met my wife, she was from a modest middle class family, mother father and brother, but her family has since inherited extensive land holdings in the Philippines, moving them into the wealthy category by any standard. I'm not feeling the slavery bit, sorry that I'm not miserable...lol