Wife Requirements

[Jester]

I'm not interested in a wife, but I if I had to choose one, then this is my list.

1 - Doesn't complain, hate, snark, bring me down with sarcastic remarks. She's a peaceful, nurturing woman satisfied with her lot in life....

...In the end you want someone who's pleasant to the eyes and you can actually live with.

Even fat girls could find a man if they would learn this one.

[Jester]

If a man is handling a household with efficiency, he's in every right to demand that his wife not drive, works a lower job and is relegated to household duties.

Did you mean that, ideally...

...a wife shouldn't be driving for a high-level corporate career...

OR...

...a wife shouldn't be driving a car?

[Jester]

Not at all. What I'm saying is that a man should strive to be the best at whatever position he chooses, and his woman should follow his lead. Many of us bemoan women and how this society socializes them, but we never examine our end of the situation: Men must accept the fact that women are like children. They are attentive to the surface, materialistic things, and once you break those barriers( which all women have to a degree), you are able to break into an actual relationship.

It's not unrealistic for a man to become wealthy, as it isn't unrealistic for a man to demand that his woman not work. Women aren't supposed to be the choosers, men are, and if a man can't understand that his woman is inferior to him, then he's doomed to never understand the complexities of a relationship.

Multiple men, even men on this site, are afraid to demand exactly what they want out of their women. If a man is handling a household with efficiency, he's in every right to demand that his wife not drive, works a lower job and is relegated to household duties. Do the wealthiest men deserve the most beautiful women? Yes. For he has proven himself able, and he's in a position to have her because he worked hard enough for her. When you've accomplished in life, you control your life.

Poetry. +1.

[ChosenTraveler]

If a man is handling a household with efficiency, he's in every right to demand that his wife not drive, works a lower job and is relegated to household duties.

Did you mean that, ideally...

...a wife shouldn't be driving for a high-level corporate career...

OR...

...a wife shouldn't be driving a car?

I meant that he has every right to demand that his wife not drive a car.

[Jester]

If a man is handling a household with efficiency, he's in every right to demand that his wife not drive, works a lower job and is relegated to household duties.

Did you mean that, ideally...

...a wife shouldn't be driving for a high-level corporate career...

OR...

...a wife shouldn't be driving a car?

I meant that he has every right to demand that his wife not drive a car.

Wow!

I understand that women feel secure in the Middle East, where a husband doesn't need a housekey, because his wife will be there when he comes home. I understand that Filipinas like to ask permission before leaving the house.

But how would you make that work elsewhere? Could you?

Do you envision taking her shopping via car one half day a week, and having her walk to a nearby market on the other days?

[ILoveBlackAmericanWomen]

As a woman who read all my vote goes for......(drumroll)



Dragon. His expectations are PERFECTION. Very reasonable and appropriate. Not insecure sounding or over the top and unrealistic. Andrew being a close second.

[ILoveBlackAmericanWomen]

....women to reject guys who look like me ....

I was just at a party full of Colombians and other Latins tonight. I saw a couple totally mismatched by North American standards. Pot-bellied older fella, ugly face, not a witty guy or a spectacular dancer, quiet, basic decent guy, at least 55 years old, looks older, grey hair, bald in front, serious jowls. He was with one of the best-looking women there, a 30-ish, leggy blonde. She was all over him. Both of them looked happy.

Pretty sure the were both Colombians.

So yeah, Happier Abroad and all that. There is hope for all. I wish every guy on this site could see that couple.

I'm glad you mentioned this. I go to a restaurant where the general manager is very fat and 36 he is not ugly but the type attractive women won't want to be seen with..yet in my eyes he is the sweetest,shy man he told me I'm his crush and honestly he is my crush. I am a attractive woman and for us to be seen together will physically be misMATCHED but forget that.

[Jester]

So yeah, Happier Abroad and all that. There is hope for all. I wish every guy on this site could see that couple.

I'm glad you mentioned this. I go to a restaurant where the general manager is very fat and 36 he is not ugly but the type attractive women won't want to be seen with..yet in my eyes he is the sweetest,shy man he told me I'm his crush and honestly he is my crush. I am a attractive woman and for us to be seen together will physically be misMATCHED but forget that.

You know, Love, I used to tell my sisters, don't choose a man who looks good to you. Choose a man to whom you look good. Choose a man for whom you will be desirable and precious.

Gossip is eternal, as is the need to know your own mind - and shrug it off:

"I am black, but comely, O you daughters of Jerusalem, as the tents of Kedar, as the curtains of Solomon."

The girls may giggle at first, but they will be wistfully envious, if they see your man doting on you in years to come.

[targetguy]

Its good to have a compatable wife and mother type but one thing even more important is health. If that gal has health problems the bill can be costly and haveing children is a huge expense. Not everyone is up to health concerns and education level helps also. to me education level and health issues are a major concerns especially to my wallet because i have to spend the rest of my life with these issues.

[abcdavid01]

I'm not interested in a wife, but I if I had to choose one, then this is my list.

1 - Doesn't complain, hate, snark, bring me down with sarcastic remarks. She's a peaceful, nurturing woman satisfied with her lot in life....

...In the end you want someone who's pleasant to the eyes and you can actually live with.

Even fat girls could find a man if they would learn this one.

That happens pretty often.

My list:

1. Reasonably attractive. It might be nice and a real confidence booster to have a model wife, but can you avoid being insecure when every guy you meet turns their head? I'd be fine with an average looking woman if the other qualities are there. Not obese, nor anorexic. Both imply deeper mental problems.

2. Nice, nurturing, someone who would make a good mother. Not a Feminist or a careerist.

3. Younger than me. I'm very touchy about this because I want to have a family. My parents waited until their thirties and my dad regrets not being able to have more kids. I want to get married by 27 to a woman a few years younger. My grandparents were twelve years apart.

4. Reasonably intelligent. I don't expect wife to do multivariable calculus in her head, but she should be someone I can talk to without wanting to shoot myself.

5. Foreign accents turn me on. What can I say?

There's probably more if I thought about it. I kinda want to know what Tsar would list.

[Tsar]

There's probably more if I thought about it. I kinda want to know what Tsar would list.

This is my list:

1. Virgin (and she should be younger than I am and inexperienced so around 18 years of age)
2. Warmhearted, peaceful, and genuine. No sarcasm, bitterness, cynical, and no attitude issues
3. Nurturing, loving, caring, and gentle. She would there to cheer me up when feeling down
4. Very feminine and beautiful. She should also take pride in her appearance. She should love feminine things.
5. Has a very sweet feminine voice
6. Would be like a best friend. We could also be workout partners
7. Not careerist and not a feminist. She should be happy being feminine and traditional
8. Share the same faith is important, so she should be a Christian.
9. She shouldn't be greedy or materialistic. I would definitely buy her things but she should show sincere gratitude for everything.
10. Amorous and a true romantic. Dancing would be a nice talent
11. Beautiful skin, eyebrows, and physical features. Makeup would be an accent her beauty, not something to enhance it.
12. I love girls with longer hair. Blonde or brunette is is my preference so it's relatively important
13. Green eyes would be a bonus but not mandatory.
14. Physically fit and healthy
15. Moral, loyal, has fidelity, and virtue
16. Considerate
17. Loves butterflies, flowers, and cute animals
18. Very affectionate
19. She should know how to cook
20. Dislike and detest bad boys, thugs, jerks, players, and scumbags

This covers almost everything. I used WPO's list as base for comparison so it's almost as long as his.

[Tsar]

Must be willing to do whatever it takes to sexually please her man.

I second that because it's one of a wife's duties.

Must be open to the concept of polygamy.

That would make things more interesting but it's not on my list. Above all I want a good girl. If she's open to the idea then I wouldn't say no.

Must have no male friends

I second that. If she has male friends then she has more opportunity to cheat and have affairs. I wouldn't want her to have any male friends.

Must be young

This is also a mandatory requirement of mine.

[Jester]

4. I don't expect wife to do multivariable calculus in her head...

But I thought you said elsewhere that you WANTED an Asian wife?!

[Jester]

There's probably more if I thought about it. I kinda want to know what Tsar would list.

This is my list:

1. Virgin (and she should be younger than I am and inexperienced so around 18 years of age)
2. Warmhearted, peaceful, and genuine. No sarcasm, bitterness, cynical, and no attitude issues
3. Nurturing, loving, caring, and gentle. She would there to cheer me up when feeling down
4. Very feminine and beautiful. She should also take pride in her appearance. She should love feminine things.
5. Has a very sweet feminine voice
6. Would be like a best friend. We could also be workout partners
7. Not careerist and not a feminist. She should be happy being feminine and traditional
8. Share the same faith is important, so she should be a Christian.
9. She shouldn't be greedy or materialistic. I would definitely buy her things but she should show sincere gratitude for everything.
10. Amorous and a true romantic. Dancing would be a nice talent
11. Beautiful skin, eyebrows, and physical features. Makeup would be an accent her beauty, not something to enhance it.
12. I love girls with longer hair. Blonde or brunette is is my preference so it's relatively important
13. Green eyes would be a bonus but not mandatory.
14. Physically fit and healthy
15. Moral, loyal, has fidelity, and virtue
16. Considerate
17. Loves butterflies, flowers, and cute animals
18. Very affectionate
19. She should know how to cook
20. Dislike and detest bad boys, thugs, jerks, players, and scumbags

This covers almost everything. I used WPO's list as base for comparison so it's almost as long as his.

+1. Best list ever.

[Jester]

Must be open to the concept of polygamy.

That would make things more interesting but it's not on my list. Above all I want a good girl. If she's open to the idea then I wouldn't say no.

Must have no male friends

I second that. If she has male friends then she has more opportunity to cheat and have affairs. I wouldn't want her to have any male friends.

Must be young

This is also a mandatory requirement of mine.

Glad to hear you're open to polygamy if it happens. Sounds outlandish today, in 15 years it will be more common.

Re the male friends, it's not about infidelity. If you choose well, as I know you will, and do your job as a husband right (carrot and stick), as I know you will, there is nothing to fear.

The danger is mental unfaithfulness. Not like "she's daydreaming of sex with another guy". More like "this guy is nice, I enjoy talking with him". It adds unclean or confusing vibrations to the aura of your relationship. You protect her from that (your male role as protector) by drawing a clear boundary for her (as you make clear that you will).