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Here's a disturbing question.

Why is it that women seem to look more happy, lively and free in photos when they are with other women, or even alone, than if they are with a guy or male partner? Have any of you noticed this?

If you look at girls in photos with other girls, they look happier, more comfortable, more lively, and more spontaneous. But with guys, they look more stiff and uptight. Why is that?

Even when they are in a photo alone (such as the ones you see in their profiles or Facebook), they look more relaxed and natural, than if they are with a guy.

Is it because deep down, women truly don't like men, and only pretend to in order to get money and houses and to look normal in society?

Is this the true reason why women with money suddenly no longer need love or romance from men, whereas men with money still need love and romance from women? Is it because women never truly needed love/romance deep down in the first place?

What do you think? Isn't this disturbing? Any of you notice this too?

Winston wrote:Here's a disturbing question.

Why is it that women seem to look more happy, lively and free in photos when they are with other women, or even alone, than if they are with a guy or male partner? Have any of you noticed this?

If you look at girls in photos with other girls, they look happier, more comfortable, more lively, and more spontaneous. But with guys, they look more stiff and uptight. Why is that?

Even when they are in a photo alone (such as the ones you see in their profiles or Facebook), they look more relaxed and natural, than if they are with a guy.

Is it because deep down, women truly don't like men, and only pretend to in order to get money and houses and to look normal in society?

Is this the true reason why women with money suddenly no longer need love or romance from men, whereas men with money still need love and romance from women? Is it because women never truly needed love/romance deep down in the first place?

What do you think? Isn't this disturbing? Any of you notice this too?

Broads are good at faking stuff. You almost fell for it. Women have hypnotizing powers. For real. They fake orgasms, love, feelings, everything to an untrained eye....or dick. LOL

Post some examples for compare and contrast, please.

Adama wrote:Post some examples for compare and contrast, please.

Oh come on. Don't you know any women?

You can see what I mean on Facebook or Google Images. They contain an endless supply of photos of women. Look at them and you'll see what I mean. Women look more relaxed and comfortable around other women. They look happier too. Alone, they pose better as well. But with men they look more stiff and uptight, as if they were humoring someone.

Why is that? Why aren't women as happy with men as much as with women? Is there a reason?

Winston wrote: Is it because deep down, women truly don't like men, and only pretend to in order to get money and houses and to look normal in society?

Is this the true reason why women with money suddenly no longer need love or romance from men, whereas men with money still need love and romance from women? Is it because women never truly needed love/romance deep down in the first place?

Short answer, for the most part, yes.


You're not the only one to notice this phenomenon. I noticed this back during the Myspace era. Girls looking like they're having the time of their life laughing and smiling with each other but in pics with guys they look like bored as all hell. The guy almost always looked far more attached. The only exceptions I noticed were couples where they were both under 21 and the guy was very good looking.

Women these have more interest in going shoe shopping with their female friends spending their father, boyfriend or hubby's money. The rise of social networking websites and smartphones put the final nail in the coffin. Because of them women now have access to loads of attention and validation in addition to gossip, 24/7/365. There is simply so much a woman would rather do, and now have easy access to, than spend time with some guy. Taking "cute" pics and posting them on facebook or posting their meaningless drivel on Facebook or Twitter gets priority over the boyfriend or hubby. It's the same situation here in China except you can replace "facebook" and "twitter" with "weibo".

In many ways, most men have become obsolete. Slave away at your 9 to 5, pay your taxes, maybe give her some validation now and then, and if you get married and divorced pay your alimony, and maybe raise the kids of some single mother. Those are the only uses women have for you.

It's a bitter pill to swallow but that's just the way it is.

I've noticed it, Winston, and I knew exactly what you were on about as soon as I read the title of the thread. It's true. I think it's just natural though, when you're with your own kind, to be more relaxed. I think men do it too. I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing, but it can certainly be evidence of a woman not really being into a guy. It depends on the girl I suppose.

Unless they're part of our inner circle or we need to have sex with them, why care if they're happy?

If this is true - and I suppose it is, although I have never seen it for myself - I would say the reasoning for it is because when they are by themselves or with other women, it is all about THEM. How sexy, fabulous, awesome and special they are.

When they are with a man, it is no longer about fabulousness. It is simply another picture they take. More like an obligation. The presence of the man takes away from the "Weee, look at meee" aspect of things, diminishing their enjoyment in the attention whoring.

anamericaninbangkok wrote:Unless they're part of our inner circle or we need to have sex with them, why care if they're happy?

You live in Thailand so it's quit easy to have this stance.
I'm not blaming your remark but things gets catastrophic when you live in a Western country where females have the upper hand on so many matters.

Guys get oversensitive about everything,they can't sustain their insecurities so even a random female or one who will by inadvertance look at him on the street,it's like a big stuff.

It's common to remark how women avoid at all cost to look a male in the eyes on a daily basis on public place.
They have nothing to hide about why they do that, because they understand that so many desesparte males will think that just a look is an invitation to more.

So to finish,i would say when i'm in Thailand i can be who and what i want..and i get a lot stronger in my relation with females because i know i have a good position there.
In France,and everyday is just a struggle to f**k off from here,i witness this insane society where females are over defensive and males are quit pathetic to me.

I'm curious to know if their mentality has to do with the Ted Bundy types scaring the Bejesus out of them many years ago. With the advent of the internet and mass media showing everything and anything, anyone think this has something to do with it?

Good thread here, Winston, and several good comments.

The Professor wrote:

Winston wrote: Is it because deep down, women truly don't like men, and only pretend to in order to get money and houses and to look normal in society?

Is this the true reason why women with money suddenly no longer need love or romance from men, whereas men with money still need love and romance from women? Is it because women never truly needed love/romance deep down in the first place?

Short answer, for the most part, yes.


You're not the only one to notice this phenomenon. I noticed this back during the Myspace era. Girls looking like they're having the time of their life laughing and smiling with each other but in pics with guys they look like bored as all hell. The guy almost always looked far more attached. The only exceptions I noticed were couples where they were both under 21 and the guy was very good looking.

Women these have more interest in going shoe shopping with their female friends spending their father, boyfriend or hubby's money. The rise of social networking websites and smartphones put the final nail in the coffin. Because of them women now have access to loads of attention and validation in addition to gossip, 24/7/365. There is simply so much a woman would rather do, and now have easy access to, than spend time with some guy. Taking "cute" pics and posting them on facebook or posting their meaningless drivel on Facebook or Twitter gets priority over the boyfriend or hubby. It's the same situation here in China except you can replace "facebook" and "twitter" with "weibo".

In many ways, most men have become obsolete. Slave away at your 9 to 5, pay your taxes, maybe give her some validation now and then, and if you get married and divorced pay your alimony, and maybe raise the kids of some single mother. Those are the only uses women have for you.

It's a bitter pill to swallow but that's just the way it is.

All true.

I have this kind of relationship here with attractive, desirable divorcee gf's. They want me to be the life of the party..... when they choose to throw a party. I call it being a "male mistress."

I don't see what I get out of it - other than the one evening, and a little time afterward. No true home, no dedication (except for a brief interlude), no progeny, no joint effort toward my goals.

This is why I sometimes think I would be better off in Thailand, where (as AmericanInBangkok and others "warn") the women will only care about me as long as I provide. I wonder if that would be safer for me, emotionally speaking, then getting finnagled into giving mutual pledges of perfect undying love -- which only **I** really mean...

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me with 14 different women, shame on me!

Or as my wise friend Carlos Sanchez used to say.... you have to give up your cherished illusions.

I don't think I said "women will only care about you as long as you provide." SOME women may only care about you if you're forking over the dough but not every Thai chick is completely focused on a person being their cash cow. If this were the case I wouldn't have got married.

anamericaninbangkok wrote:I don't think I said "women will only care about you as long as you provide." SOME women may only care about you if you're forking over the dough but not every Thai chick is completely focused on a person being their cash cow. If this were the case I wouldn't have got married.

OK. Fair enough.