Do you think that most loners stay home every weekend?
Posted: July 11th, 2013, 9:52 pm
I have found this to be true much of my life. There was a period I had to go out places alone and when I looked around I felt like I was the only one at a table by myself. It sucked actually but I made the best of it because I knew I didn't want to be one of those people that sat passive in their life staying at home watching TV every Saturday night. I had to take initiative to put myself out there and find social contacts. A woman is not going to walk into my living room.
This is another point I want to dwell on. People are always trying to convince me that I am miserable because I have a bad attitude towards life. Well, I went out and every time I had a good attitude but I cannot say the same about everyone around me. People at night clubs and bars too often have really bad attitudes towards everyone they do not know. Their conversations are shallow, negative and petty. They have these frowns on their faces like they are too good to smile at anyone or even to acknowledge that anyone else exists outside of their small worlds. Other people cannot possibly understand what I see because when people go out they go out with their cliques and they don't have to acknowledge the world around them. Few really know what it means to have to work to meet other human beings. Few people really see how stuck-up the culture is in America because they live in these fantasy lands where America is a social place full of possibilities and that anyone not finding friends is just a loser that is staying at home.
I traveled to Costa Rica because I could no longer tolerate living lonely and dateless all the time. Those people are so happy, genuine and down-to-earth with stronger values and a rich culture. All of those hours working out at the gym had finally paid off because I was in a culture where people didn't ignore each other all the time. Right now, I do spend most of my time alone but I am studying to be a massage therapist and I can name almost all of the facial muscles now plus a few more. Thankfully, people going into a profession of healing are people of a lot more substance than what I see in much of America.
This is another point I want to dwell on. People are always trying to convince me that I am miserable because I have a bad attitude towards life. Well, I went out and every time I had a good attitude but I cannot say the same about everyone around me. People at night clubs and bars too often have really bad attitudes towards everyone they do not know. Their conversations are shallow, negative and petty. They have these frowns on their faces like they are too good to smile at anyone or even to acknowledge that anyone else exists outside of their small worlds. Other people cannot possibly understand what I see because when people go out they go out with their cliques and they don't have to acknowledge the world around them. Few really know what it means to have to work to meet other human beings. Few people really see how stuck-up the culture is in America because they live in these fantasy lands where America is a social place full of possibilities and that anyone not finding friends is just a loser that is staying at home.
I traveled to Costa Rica because I could no longer tolerate living lonely and dateless all the time. Those people are so happy, genuine and down-to-earth with stronger values and a rich culture. All of those hours working out at the gym had finally paid off because I was in a culture where people didn't ignore each other all the time. Right now, I do spend most of my time alone but I am studying to be a massage therapist and I can name almost all of the facial muscles now plus a few more. Thankfully, people going into a profession of healing are people of a lot more substance than what I see in much of America.
