Got led on by a Filipina

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davewe wrote: Also, whomever the winner is will always know that you could have chosen many others. There's good and bad to that.
What's the bad part?
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Hero wrote:
davewe wrote: Also, whomever the winner is will always know that you could have chosen many others. There's good and bad to that.
What's the bad part?
A little jealousy is not bad, but if the girl is very jealous and insecure - that could be the bad part.
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They think that an American man at 47 ( in 2015) is the same as a Filipino man at 47-- they are too provincial to know the difference. And in the Philippines, a 47 year old man is a grandfather already. They also think that American men in 20s and 30s are going to have the money and the wherewithal/desire to fly half way across the world to look for a GF/love.

It's naivite and ignorance/provincialism.

Internet relationships should not be taken seriously- ever. Only after you meet in person and decide to deepen it and continue and remove all others from your life, then and only then can you declare it a relationship. Otherwise, you are just chatting. Keep it that way.

It's really better to meet women there, period. This way, they see what you look like and sound like and act like. Otherwise, they judge you by superficial things such as age, nationality, salary. There's no chemistry factor online.

One Filipina also led me on for 11 months and then told me I was too old for her. But she was only one of many I corresponded with.

Generally, I try to be discreet about my personal details- I smile and say: "Secret!" That's the Filipino way of not offending people and not giving out personal information too much. When in Asia, you learn to be discreet. Plus even in the US, discretion is always advised.

Plus, many girls- some 5 out of 10 on such websites are there to ask for money. They will chat and butter you up, wait about a week and then start asking for 3000 pesos, 5000 pesos to "borrow". They have many guys there and if they ask 10, there's always one sap that will send some money. It's a good source of income and may yield as much as 5000 pesos every 3 days. Just tell the porener you need money for school or hospital or to get clearances to look for a job and it magically appears. And it does!

Then, even if you meet in person, many are there because they want you to take them shopping, dining etc. They also create sob stories to make you part with your money. Many are in relationships or living with boyfriends already, but the BF's have got no money so they get an idea to look for a porener to get some money. For themselves and the BF's. You will be surprised at how many unscrupulous people there are.

It's a minefield. But good ones are out there. Even online, I met 2 people who are probably the best Filipinas I had known. Honest, intelligent, kind, etc. But even they needed money sometimes.
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ladislav wrote: But good ones are out there. Even online, I met 2 people who are probably the best Filipinas I had known. Honest, intelligent, kind, etc. But even they needed money sometimes.
That sounded positive until I read the last six words. Did they ask you for money?

If so, these type of girls are the ones you really need to watch. The type that'll play the waiting game by portraying themselves to be a model partner and thus putting you into a false sense of security.........and that's when it all begins!
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Sounds to me winston was right. In the philippines they see foreign men as santa claus.

Whats the point? It just a different type of gold digger.
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chanta76 wrote:Sounds to me winston was right. In the philippines they see foreign men as santa claus.
They can do, especially the ones on the dating sites. But saying that, there are women in every country in the world who see men in the same light.
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True but it seems like allot of the posters here go to the Philippine under the impression that the women there are so much better but in reality it seems like they are no different from western women so far..
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Zambales wrote: That sounded positive until I read the last six words. Did they ask you for money?

If so, these type of girls are the ones you really need to watch. The type that'll play the waiting game by portraying themselves to be a model partner and thus putting you into a false sense of security.........and that's when it all begins!
Yeah, one girl actually waited 9 YEARS before she asked me for money.
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chanta76 wrote:True but it seems like allot of the posters here go to the Philippine under the impression that the women there are so much better but in reality it seems like they are no different from western women so far..
In both the USA and the Philippines, the majority of women are no good. But that majority is much bigger in the USA.
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Re: Got led on by a Filipina

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chanta76 wrote:Sounds to me winston was right. In the philippines they see foreign men as santa claus.

Whats the point? It just a different type of gold digger.
No, I don't think that Winston is right and I doubt he ever was Santa Claus. That is unless you consider giving something to your child and the mother of your child to be Santa Claus :)

The biggest struggle about online dating internationally is not that there are more scammers than in person (although there might be), it's that we don't have all our senses in play to make good judgments. It's like texting, which as an old fart I hate, because I can't hear the tone of voice and get a better idea of the feelings behind the message. So you can start online and via chat or cam, but in the end we all know it's meaningless until you have met and spent time together.Even then, shit happens and people change their minds. It might be for nefarious reasons or good reasons. In the case of Hero, she may genuinely have decided he was too old for her, and it may be for a dozen other reasons and she was simply saving face (or saving his face).

I chatted with scores of girls but in the end could only choose one. Did the other girls think I was a bad guy or leading them on? I am sure a few did, although I also made friends with several of the also rans.In fact I fixed up one of the also rans with my friend - they are now married.

Guys complain (for some good reasons) that the girls are desperate and therefore they can't always believe them. In this case Hero's chat mate told him the truth (maybe). She wasn't desperate and wanted someone younger (maybe).

IMO when a guy starts down this path he has to set up a list of what he wants and what he must have - and stick to it. Even then there has to be flexibility. A girl who asks for cash the week after they meet online should be dumped. A girl who asks for cash a week after the wedding - well, dumping her's a little bit tougher :)
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Re: Got led on by a Filipina

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When you think about it, the best looking women in the western world and those who use international dating sites such as Filipina's tend to use their beauty to their own advantage without a second's thought for the men involved, which doesn't bode well for us guys.

So is there a way around this?

I think so.

As we all seem to have ditched the bitches from the west perhaps its a good idea to ditch the dating site diva's too.

So what's the alternative?

I think there's a much better chance of finding a desired partner if you actually go to the Philippines and hang out for a month or two. I don't mean in the cities where the women are too 'commercialised' so to speak, but out in the provinces where they have a more innocent demeanour about them. I bet a lot of these girls have never even heard of dating sites let alone been on one. Furthermore, by doing this it seriously reduces the competition found online.
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Re: Got led on by a Filipina

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davewe wrote:

IMO when a guy starts down this path he has to set up a list of what he wants and what he must have - and stick to it.
Excellent advice.
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Re: Got led on by a Filipina

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Got a couple of new cute Filipina friends, aged 20 and 22, who have no problem with my age. All is well again :D
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