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So I am 25 years old and everyone around is in a relationship or are married and I feel extremely left out. I never had a girlfriend and I have been rejected all the time. Most of my cousins are all married or is dating a girl. I feel so left out in life. Anyone else feels the same way ?

I always feel left out.

I'm like you. I never had a girlfriend. I never even kissed a girl before. I'm a virgin. I'm not sure I feel left out anymore because I don't want a whore or a slut, and that's just what most modern girls are, especially in the West.

I'm not going to post anything about myself or why I feel left out. I did it too many times that most of the forum doesn't want to read about why I feel left out.

Every time I'm about to start something that could actually help me earn decent money on my own or help me on the steps I need to take to be able to afford a girl, it seems I always get dealt a bad hand. The story of my life is date dealing me bad hands.

When life gives you lemons, you make lemonade.

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Life gives me lemons but when I try to to make lemonade, it's like something in life even takes the lemons away from me. Hopefully my luck begins to change for the better.

I am doing things and focusing on myself and money at the moment. I'm not sure anything significant in life can be accomplished without luck and I have terrible luck for some unknown reason.

Feelings bore me. What I want to know is what you are going to do.

drive0494 wrote:So I am 25 years old and everyone around is in a relationship or are married and I feel extremely left out. I never had a girlfriend and I have been rejected all the time. Most of my cousins are all married or is dating a girl. I feel so left out in life. Anyone else feels the same way ?

Drive0494, I too at times have felt left out. I'm a 42yr old tall (6'1") Black man who is still a virgin, has no children, never been married, never had a girlfriend, and has never kissed a woman. Not to brag here, but I'm not ugly looking (In fact many people have told me I look 10-15yrs younger), I'm NOT gay, NOT obese, nor do I hate women. And I'm not some jerk, domineering, or mean-spirited person. Yet I haven't had much luck with finding women either who are not already taken (married or has a boyfriend). Not to mention I don't want to deal with single mothers or overweight/obese women!!! So to deal with the loneiness, social isolation, depression, boredom, datelessness, I have turned to intellectual pursuits (reading books on current events, conspiracies, military weapons, politics, history, etc.) and artistic work (drawings and paintings of military aircraft, cars, cities, etc,). However, I am open to dating and possibly marrying beautiful open-minded FOREIGN WOMEN (who like Black American men). And/or moving overseas to live, find love, and starting a new life (Such as teaching art at an international school). So don't feel too bad drive0494, you are still a young man and have time on your side to find an attractive woman who will appreciate you for being yourself. Here's a link you might want to check out:

HOW AND WHERE TO MOVE OVERSEAS AS A SINGLE MAN

http://www.girlschase.com/content/how-a ... single-man

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drive0494 wrote:So I am 25 years old and everyone around is in a relationship or are married and I feel extremely left out. I never had a girlfriend and I have been rejected all the time. Most of my cousins are all married or is dating a girl. I feel so left out in life. Anyone else feels the same way ?

Drive0494, I too at times have felt left out. I'm a 42yr old tall (6'1") Black man who is still a virgin, has no children, never been married, never had a girlfriend, and has never kissed a woman. Not to brag here, but I'm not ugly looking (In fact many people have told me I look 10-15yrs younger), I'm NOT gay, NOT obese, nor do I hate women. And I'm not some jerk, domineering, or mean-spirited person. Yet I haven't had much luck with finding women either who are not already taken (married or has a boyfriend). Not to mention I don't want to deal with single mothers or overweight/obese women!!! So to deal with the loneiness, social isolation, depression, boredom, datelessness, I have turned to intellectual pursuits (reading books on current events, conspiracies, military weapons, politics, history, etc.) and artistic work (drawings and paintings of military aircraft, cars, cities, etc,). However, I am open to dating and possibly marrying beautiful open-minded FOREIGN WOMEN (who like Black American men). And/or moving overseas to live, find love, and starting a new life (Such as teaching art at an international school). So don't feel too bad drive0494, you are still a young man and have time on your side to find an attractive woman who will appreciate you for being yourself. Here's a link you might want to check out:

HOW AND WHERE TO MOVE OVERSEAS AS A SINGLE MAN

http://www.girlschase.com/content/how-a ... single-man

Ok. you know another thing just came to my mind. a lot of people always seem to think that I am gay just because I never kissed a girl or had a girlfriend and it really ticks me off when people say that. It's like they look at my facebook and then think " oh he must be gay because i never seen him have a girlfriend at all ". A couple of people from high school actually did that and message me and ask when I am gonna come out of the closet. I am 100 percent straight but people seem to always judge before they even know the full story.

Ghost wrote:Now that I've spent a cumulative one and a half years abroad, my feeling of being left out comes from knowing that I will probably never be able to find a virgin wife and have a family of my own with her. Even abroad, most women are either sluts or they don't date foreigners.

I don't know what your situation is, exactly, but it is possible to find virgin girls abroad. Did you try to pick up a little bit of the local language and look for girls who don't interact much with expats?

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Based on my observations its safe to say that foreign men are magnet for slutty and damaged local women.

Maybe these women know they can take advantage of and benefit from western men loose standards, if you can call them standards at all.



I banged quiete a few fw but I cant think of single one that wasnt slutty or shifty,secretly always on lookout for better deal.

When I was 25, I was single, without a girlfriend. And I had not dated all that much. I had been praying for a wife. But when I was 26, I spent a Christmas alone overseas, and realized how much I wanted a wife and family. So I prayed more intensely about it, met my wife in February, and married her in December. I was living in Indonesia at the time.

I think dating in the USA is all about being completely average and mediocre, or what most people call normal. There is something abnormal about us. Either in the way we look, our willingness to take risks and possibly make a fool of ourselves in the process, our experience with women, etc. It is probably like a Bell Curve.

It is okay to be at the extremes of the Bell curve. That's okay, because it isnt abnormal because it's still within the range of normal human variation. But if you are an outlier, which is a spot far outside the curve and outside of its plot, then you are going to have a really hard time in Anglo societies.

There are a couple of ways to solve this: 1. Find the few women in society who are also the outliers in the same way you are (which would require knowing what's different about you first). 2. Go foreign to places where such distinctions do not exist or do not matter.