Contrarian Expatriate wrote: ↑August 28th, 2020, 11:32 am
If that’s true, that would explain the absolute, psychological unraveling that took place when I detailed way guys should avoid getting married.
Very often reactions like that take place because they know it’s true but the pain of the illusion being destroyed is too much to bear. Lashing out becomes the result.
Before the tones got toxic and childish, back when our exchanges still had the pretension of a debate, I didn't agree on you but that certainly wasn't earth-shattering, it didn't stir up any soul soup.
It was just two people who don't know each other in the slightest (in fact I may well be Publicduende and it wouldn't change a thing), never met and never will meet, who disagree on a topic neither of them seem expert of. That's right, since I never married and only had one long-term relationship and you never married and in fact seem to purposely avoid anything that will give away too much of yourself to the ladies.
It's another pillar of your delusion castle, to think that whatever you say has any power whatsoever on people. What you have been lecturing us about, is just the standard-ass MGTOW the Internet is packed with. And it doesn't lack a certain hypocrisy, you know... Acting all bossy and independent and hating on the US of A while still getting a generous pension, the "golden handcuff" as you called it, from your civil servant job. Giving masculinity and relationship advice without ever knowing what it means to break your neck to feed a family of 4, or showing compassion towards a woman, in fact any fellow human being, who is at a weak point in their life.
It's unimpressive, it's unoriginal and it's hardly anything that would destroy anybody's illusion. If somebody doesn't want to get married because they think they can have it easier by saving up or investing and have that cash all for themselves, they could do with or without listening to you.
Now, what I did see is quite the opposite: anything that even scrapes your illusions, about your success, your wealth, your great NFL player looks is enough to put you in a whole world of pain, and that's when the s*it spigot opens up.
You stop even wanting to rebuke what people are saying, no matter how well-articulated and polite their arguments, no matter the evidence that stays here on these pages, post by post. You prefer to take the level of conversation to that of a spoiled 10-yo kid who just lost his latest iPhone on a bet. You resort to the lowest, most childish and pointless possible form of talking: ad-hominem attacks on the way they people look (PAG's "pointy head"), what profession they do (the "short angry cheflet"), how much money they make or will make in their lives, as if any of this had anything to do with their opinion and the debate at hand.
In a way, you do unhinge people. You exasperate them with your attitude, then you withdraw your hand and call them "mental cases" when their criticism becomes more vocal and goes down the same downward route you led them into. As I said many times, if you ambush people into a dark alley and they are happy to put up a fight, don't expect to come out both victorious and a victim, at the same time. If you want to play a game of throwing mud at people, don't complain and feel all bothered when you get dirty, too.
