Is "being yourself" the problem?

[Traveler]

I remember Neil Strauss, author of The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, commenting that the more fake he learned to act towards women the more success he had with women. He was eventually able to marry this woman:



Men like fake tits. Women like fake personalities. Maybe "being yourself" is overrated.

[Natural_Born_Cynic]

Eww... why did he married that bimbo? He should've gone abroad instead to Eastern Europe or South America.

[fschmidt]

"I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not."
-- Kurt Cobain

[Cornfed]

If you are just trying to score skanks then as far as they are concerned you are there to entertain them, so being a pretentious blowhard would probably help.

[MarcosZeitola]

The problem with most men is that when they do "fake it" they don't "make it" because their acting skills are simply subpar. If you want to trick a woman into believing you are a certain type of guy, you have to be believable. It has to feel believable. If it doesn't feel smooth and natural, she won't fall for it and you'll be shit out of luck. Also, you will need to not be hideous, dorky, badly dressed, or obese.

[Pixel--Dude]

I disagree with OP. Why should I pretend to be someone else just to trick a woman into dating me? Lol. If the woman doesn't like me for who I am then quite simply she can f**k off.

[MrMan]

How was he being 'fake'? Did he pretend to be a doctor or a billionaire? Did he pretend his parents had a perfect family, but they were each five-times divorced ex-cons?

If you lie to a woman, then marry her, chances are, she will find out. If he's pretending to have an English accent, keeping that up throughout a marriage will be difficult and stressful. Faking something like that would be difficult and stressful over time, but people you are around long enough would eventually find out.

Be yourself. You don't really have any other choice.