Which Asian country has the best/loyal wives?

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Which Asian country has the best/loyal wives?

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I married an American white woman and she completely changed when she went back to college. She started to think marriage was only for fools and she wanted to have as many partners as possible. She was always a little controlling and ultra-feminist. She ended up cheating on me so I divorced her.

I started dating and was appalled at how not only selfish women are here but also how they openly admit it and brag about it. They also seem to jump from partner to partner and date only a-holes. It's disgusting!

I'd like to date a nice girl who has traditional views on gender roles and is not overly materialistic. My last girlfriend was Chinese and she was definitely, better than a lot of girls in the states but she was still very immature acting and very materialistic.

What are the countries with the nicest women who are not materialistic and selfish?

Oh and I'm not rich but I am a hard worker. Do you need to be rich to get a foreign girl interested in you and to marry her? I'd like to bring her back to the States. And yes, I know it would be better to move to another country and marry there but that is not an option. I have friends and family that count on me here. I'm 35, decent looking and have a personality women really seem to like. However, I'm not sure if it is all about money like it is with shallow American Woman.
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markpost wrote:I have friends and family that count on me here.
But, can you count on them to support you on following a dream?
1)Too much of one thing defeats the purpose.
2)Everybody is full of it. What's your hypocrisy?
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markpost wrote:I married an American white woman and she completely changed when she went back to college. She started to think marriage was only for fools and she wanted to have as many partners as possible. She was always a little controlling and ultra-feminist. She ended up cheating on me so I divorced her.

I started dating and was appalled at how not only selfish women are here but also how they openly admit it and brag about it. They also seem to jump from partner to partner and date only a-holes. It's disgusting!

I'd like to date a nice girl who has traditional views on gender roles and is not overly materialistic. My last girlfriend was Chinese and she was definitely, better than a lot of girls in the states but she was still very immature acting and very materialistic.

What are the countries with the nicest women who are not materialistic and selfish?

Oh and I'm not rich but I am a hard worker. Do you need to be rich to get a foreign girl interested in you and to marry her? I'd like to bring her back to the States. And yes, I know it would be better to move to another country and marry there but that is not an option. I have friends and family that count on me here. I'm 35, decent looking and have a personality women really seem to like. However, I'm not sure if it is all about money like it is with shallow American Woman.
Mark, it's a box of chocolates out there, you never know what you're gonna get. You can only take actions to lower the risks. Coming to Asia to do your search is one. Here are some more:

- Target ladies who are mid-late 20s (or perhaps a very mature early 20s). The human brain changes and develops through as late as 25. So you wanna go for a 'what you see is what you get' case.

- Avoid package deals (girls with kids). You want to be genetically tied to her new family.

- Good hunting grounds-
a. Philippines: provinces, select urban girls, girls sincerely involved with the church
b. Vietnam good girls (likely virgins) if you are willing to go through the cultural and language hurdles
c. China down-to-earth non-materialistic types from second to fourth tier backgrounds, also some cultural and language issues might be at play

- Avoid Thailand

- If you bring them back to States, you increase risk of a future problem in most cases. But it can be doable

- If you want more advice on Filippinas, correspond with our resident posters who married them - Davewe, Outwest, Pete

- If you want more advice on Chinese, correspond with Kai1275

- If you want more advice on Vietnam girls, contact Falcon

- You might spread your net to include serious Christian girls from S.Korea and girls from Taiwan. But those countries are very developed with low birthrates so it's not as easy. But I do think once you snag once, chances are good for going the distance.
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markpost wrote:
What are the countries with the nicest women who are not materialistic and selfish?
Woman from Southern Philippines by a landslide. However, you do need to be very selective. The youngest, sexiest Filipinas will usually screw you around so its better to choose an average looking woman.
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Taco wrote:
markpost wrote:
What are the countries with the nicest women who are not materialistic and selfish?
Woman from Southern Philippines by a landslide. However, you do need to be very selective. Most Filipinos lie like there is no tomorrow.
Sorry Taco, I forgot to mention you as one of our resident posters married to a Pinay.
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Useful thread here, thanks to all.
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Rock wrote:
markpost wrote:I married an American white woman and she completely changed when she went back to college. She started to think marriage was only for fools and she wanted to have as many partners as possible. She was always a little controlling and ultra-feminist. She ended up cheating on me so I divorced her.

I started dating and was appalled at how not only selfish women are here but also how they openly admit it and brag about it. They also seem to jump from partner to partner and date only a-holes. It's disgusting!

I'd like to date a nice girl who has traditional views on gender roles and is not overly materialistic. My last girlfriend was Chinese and she was definitely, better than a lot of girls in the states but she was still very immature acting and very materialistic.

What are the countries with the nicest women who are not materialistic and selfish?

Oh and I'm not rich but I am a hard worker. Do you need to be rich to get a foreign girl interested in you and to marry her? I'd like to bring her back to the States. And yes, I know it would be better to move to another country and marry there but that is not an option. I have friends and family that count on me here. I'm 35, decent looking and have a personality women really seem to like. However, I'm not sure if it is all about money like it is with shallow American Woman.
Mark, it's a box of chocolates out there, you never know what you're gonna get. You can only take actions to lower the risks. Coming to Asia to do your search is one. Here are some more:

- Target ladies who are mid-late 20s (or perhaps a very mature early 20s). The human brain changes and develops through as late as 25. So you wanna go for a 'what you see is what you get' case.

- Avoid package deals (girls with kids). You want to be genetically tied to her new family.

- Good hunting grounds-
a. Philippines: provinces, select urban girls, girls sincerely involved with the church
b. Vietnam good girls (likely virgins) if you are willing to go through the cultural and language hurdles
c. China down-to-earth non-materialistic types from second to fourth tier backgrounds, also some cultural and language issues might be at play

- Avoid Thailand

- If you bring them back to States, you increase risk of a future problem in most cases. But it can be doable

- If you want more advice on Filippinas, correspond with our resident posters who married them - Davewe, Outwest, Pete

- If you want more advice on Chinese, correspond with Kai1275

- If you want more advice on Vietnam girls, contact Falcon

- You might spread your net to include serious Christian girls from S.Korea and girls from Taiwan. But those countries are very developed with low birthrates so it's not as easy. But I do think once you snag once, chances are good for going the distance.
It absolutely can be done but certainly takes work, motivation, an open but wary attitude, and a mature eye. I am newly married, so you might get more about marriage from Pete and Outwest. OTOH, the process of finding the right one is fresh in my mind, so I might be able to help also.

As to the question "Are they materialistic?" Sure they are - most people are - men and women. But it's different. My wife goes to the mall. She buys a shirt at H&M for $12 and feels good. She goes to another store and sees a shirt for $30 and says, "OMG that's so expensive!" I don't disagree :)

OTOH if she is poor, it will take her time to understand what is and isn't a good use of resources, how to budget (she never had much to budget) and what is expensive. For example, my cousin is very well fixed. He is building a house on the Jersey shore - actually he is rebuilding it - damaged beyond repair by Sandy. He post pics weekly. It's a borderline mansion - certainly a multi-million dollar house. Janet asks shyly, "Could we ever have a house like that?" I laugh. "Not in this lifetime. That house is at least a couple million." To her it's just a nice looking house. She can't quite conceive of what it takes to purchase such a place. OTOH, ask her how much a complete lechon (roasted pig) costs and she knows down to the peso :)
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These are all very helpful replies. I'll make sure to be very careful on who I select. I do want someone who is cute but she doesn't have to be a supermodel. That being said I think someone who is attractive can have a good heart too. I do get plenty of attention from average girls here in the states and even some pretty attractive ones too sometimes. However, most have pretty bad personalities and are deeply damaged individuals. I think good women are harder to find these days, especially, in a consumer driven society that places little value on family or commitment. That being said, I'm sure women are having a harder time finding decent men as well.

Oh and I also had a question on South Korean women. I produce television commercials for a living so I love anything related to video or film. I am a fan of some of the films being produced in South Korea. This also has me interested in South Korean women too since I enjoy aspects of that culture already. They are also very attractive to me. However, South Korea is also very Westernized and I don't want a woman too similar to those found in the US. I want someone marriage minded and committed to family. Should I avoid South Korea altogether?
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OK, now you've wasted your youth on some pretty feminist girl, you hope to find a foreign girl to "love you" - But on the other hand watch the movie "her" and get a virtual wife now, then a robot wife soon!
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markpost wrote:These are all very helpful replies. I'll make sure to be very careful on who I select. I do want someone who is cute but she doesn't have to be a supermodel. That being said I think someone who is attractive can have a good heart too. I do get plenty of attention from average girls here in the states and even some pretty attractive ones too sometimes. However, most have pretty bad personalities and are deeply damaged individuals. I think good women are harder to find these days, especially, in a consumer driven society that places little value on family or commitment. That being said, I'm sure women are having a harder time finding decent men as well.

Oh and I also had a question on South Korean women. I produce television commercials for a living so I love anything related to video or film. I am a fan of some of the films being produced in South Korea. This also has me interested in South Korean women too since I enjoy aspects of that culture already. They are also very attractive to me. However, South Korea is also very Westernized and I don't want a woman too similar to those found in the US. I want someone marriage minded and committed to family. Should I avoid South Korea altogether?
As a Korean American, I suggest you avoid South Korea altogether, and look for someplace in Southeast Asia instead.
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Anyone has any opinion on Japan? A relative of mine back in Shanghai wants to hook me up with Japanese women whom I hear often come to the city to look for local men since they're seen as ideal marriage material. I'm not sure about the age range, but I definitely don't want those significantly older than I am. I hope they're conservative and traditional enough since I hear Japanese women make the best wives and mothers. And I find Japanese to be prettier on average than most Chinese and don't have this constant need for their spouse to support their poor rural family with money like Chinese or Southeast Asian women do.
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Taco wrote: Woman from Southern Philippines by a landslide. However, you do need to be very selective. The youngest, sexiest Filipinas will usually screw you around so its better to choose an average looking woman.
Why women from Southern Philippines?
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ryanx wrote:Why women from Southern Philippines?
I wonder why he suggests that too. My wife is from Northern Luzon and is pretty ideal. I've never been to the Southern Philippines or any of the other islands yet (time & finances would not allow it at this point) but I am quite curious as to what the differences are between Southern, Eastern, Western and Northern Filipina girls. Are the differences between the islands and their population that great? Also, does it matter if your girl is Isinay, Ilocano, Bukalot, of partial Spanish or Chinese background or a mixture of several tribes and nationalities?
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polya wrote:OK, now you've wasted your youth on some pretty feminist girl, you hope to find a foreign girl to "love you" - But on the other hand watch the movie "her" and get a virtual wife now, then a robot wife soon!
I tried to watch that stupid movie yesterday and it was so boring I skipped ahead to see if it got better. If I could make out the story line, the operating system was 'cheating' on him by talking with other men like himself, but it didn't decrease her love for him.

If the 'Her' situation worked it, it doesn't sound at all like a viable alternative.

We do need to warn young men to avoid feminists and not just marry up the physically pretty girls. Men need to be selective, too. American man can make some lousy husbands. Our culture doesn't promote or appreciate 'masculine virtues.' Part of this may be due to feminism trying to gender-neutralize everything.
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sea_dragon wrote:Anyone has any opinion on Japan? A relative of mine back in Shanghai wants to hook me up with Japanese women whom I hear often come to the city to look for local men since they're seen as ideal marriage material. I'm not sure about the age range, but I definitely don't want those significantly older than I am. I hope they're conservative and traditional enough since I hear Japanese women make the best wives and mothers. And I find Japanese to be prettier on average than most Chinese and don't have this constant need for their spouse to support their poor rural family with money like Chinese or Southeast Asian women do.
I spoke with a Japanese single mother converted to Christianity. She said no one had taught her that premarital sex was wrong. She got pregnant out of wedlock before she found this out, she said. She believes it is wrong now.

She also said in churches the number of women greatly outnumber the number of men who are Christians. Many who are serious about their faith do not want to marry nonChristians and end up never marrying. She also suspects some of the women may remain virgins. If you could find someone like that with a good personality and strong ethics and values who embraces the traditional serve-your-husband Japanese role of the wife, I could see how that could work. A Japanese friend of mine told me that are 'wife queen' and 'husband king' marriages. It's true everywhere, even Japan. Some of the Japanese women get careers and put off marriage just like the west.

In general, Japanese culture seems like it may have a slutty vibe, porn all over the place, men and women trying to find a sex partner on Christmas day, and stuff like that. It's not the ideal culture for finding a wife, but one might be able to find a good wife there if he is selective.

I'm posting with some basic assumptions. The best option for a good wife is someone who is not feminist in her thinking. Rather, they believe in submitting to their husbands (and/or do it because it's engrained in them somehow). If the husband is the boss in the woman's mind, this prevents lots and lots of conflict in the marriage and makes things run smoothly. Acceptance of male leadership also helps the woman be happy. There is some truth to 'a happy wife means a happy life.'

Statistically, virginity at marriage is linked to much lower rates of 'marital disruption.' If extra-marital sex is such a bad thing to her before marriage that she preserves her virginity, it makes sense that she may try to exercise the same discipline to keep her body for her husband after marriage. Also, there are benefits from having only bonded sexually with her own husband.
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