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A reader from the Stickman site writes:

"No deal in any relationship, no matter how clearly specified, is going to remain the same. Deals always mutate into newer versions, and newer versions rarely if ever look as good to at least one of the parties. Change is part of being human, and to not anticipate that there will be a series of changes in the initial negotiated deal with time (well, sort of negotiated, depending on the power/wealth imbalance), and some of them will be unacceptable, is to be a fool. The smart man—the man who comes to his senses following the first disaster (and what man hasn’t had at least one?)--concludes that there is only one kind of a good deal. It’s the one that is realistically imaged as having a short life and with a painless exit, in anticipation of that day when enough is enough."

http://www.stickmanbangkok.com/ReadersS ... er7177.htm

This submission is very philosophical, realistic, pessimistic.

There are not much options left for an older guy who wants to have a young wife. Even for younger guys it´s risky.

Why get married? If it is a younger companion you seek, find one you like and make her an offer. As long as you are fishing in 2nd and 3rd world countries, the cost is minimal. Arrangements of this nature are not out of the ordinary in the west also, only the price is higher. If she becomes a problem, find another. Rinse and repeat as necessary.