DevilsAdvocate wrote:OutWest wrote:DevilsAdvocate wrote:pete98146 wrote:How old are you DA?? If I may ask...
I am 44 but look younger, say around 35 or so....
But at 44 I can see the aging really catching up to me now, I'm at the time now where the aging is going to increase much faster, in 10 years I'll go from looking young still and youthful with a baby face to looking like JC
It's nice to know though that I have 10 years before I'll reach JC's age and he can pull girls at his age, so I should do well. He's 6'4" though and I'm 5"10 but I think maybe being 5"10 over there might be better because 6'4" seems tall for a short girl
But anyway I should do well, but then again, I'm only looking for one girl, I'm the exact opposite of a hound dog, I'm an intellectual and scientist with my own business and I'm not really sociable. But in Thailand with such an exotic culture and things to see which I never have or even heard of before and with an exotic girl with me at my side to go do things with is exactly what I need...
I might still go get a Filipina, I love the way they look too, maybe even more so, Filipinas are very sexy.
It's going to be a fun adventure, one that I never thought of taking before in my life....
Bored with the USA
Bored with television
Bored with movies
Time for a new adventure, and it's nice that others can pave the way some to give us guys some inspiration that if we do get on a plane and go half way around the world to someplace you never been before and cannot even speak the language and don't know anybody at all, that you can hookup with a nice girl who will love to be your tour guide, friend, lover, etc.....
Just a little sophistication and some money and once again an American man can be a little romantic with a girl again, something that if does exist still in the USA it's not something I'm interested in being....
But with a nice friendly Thai girl.....sure....why not...
It's fun to be a little romantic, but not with a sheboy....
You will run into problems in Thailand- they are just different. American-Thai marriages seem to be problematic as well.
Gather with a cluster of long time expats in Thailand and the stories begin to come out, and many of them are NOT pretty.
One that I have heard repeatedly is the expat leaves Thai wife (and sometimes kids too) to take care of business back in the US or the UK, and comes back to find his condo or apartment totally empty, and bank account dry. I cannot even count the stories like this I have heard.)
The rose-colored glasses are coming out again- it is NOT like what is being painted here. I have spent a lot of time there, in the north, both Chiang Mai and Chiang Rai, and frankly, there are a lot of good things there. Housing is better and cheaper than most of the Philippines and it is FAR SAFER all around. In fact the general safety of the place can get you off your guard when in fact you are about to be hosed BIG TIME. It is a TOTALLY different mind set! I see NOTHING here that sheds much light on it in fact. Every single aspect of life is viewed differently, "East is East and West is West, and never the twain shall meet." always comes to mind.
I could write a book on this. It certainly applies in the Philippines and even MORE in mainland SE Asia.
If you get off the plane in the mode here, you are setting yourself up! Thailand has some good things to offer, but go slow!
If you do not, you may end up making that disaster in the Philippines look like enjoyable foreplay to the real hose job.
All I read here would run you headlong into disaster.
The P4P business in Thailand is even bigger than in the Philippines, and the attitude towards it is also different.
I cannot count the number of parents I have known of in the north who have new appliances or a car because they harvested one of their daughters totally without shame and sold him to the pimps that make their rounds to buy girls. I do not use the term metaphorically, I mean they sit down and negotiate just like selling a cow or pig.
Thai attitudes towards sex may encourage this, it seems almost mechanical, or just another body function, without anything sacred about it, so no big deal to sell it as needed. Now this might be a delight to a man just getting off the plane, it can become problematic if you have a wife or steady GF and you are gone for a while.
I am sure there are some good Thai girls to be found, but like everywhere, it is still a long shot, and those who rush in will really regret it.
Outwest
When you say about to be "hosed", could you be more specific? Do you mean hosed in terms of a girl wanting to take as much money from you as possible? Or are you talking about something else?
Take a look at this video for me:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LfBrxaN51rc
Go to time index 4:28, take a look at that Thai girl with the big huge smile. Is she going to be the type of girl that would hose you?
I think if you're trying to find a faithful Thai wife that may be a serious problem. But if you just want a relationship with one for awhile however long the relationship is good for then what would there be to watch out for?
By "hosed" I mean screwing you over financially or otherwise...life-wrecking events, like the man who comes back from
a 3 week trip to find his Thai wife or GF has emptied the house and bank account...,makes for a very bad day.
The Thai girl at 4:28 in the video...well if I could read hearts I would be so retired...but I could say that a kind of plain looking girl who does not use makeup and who is actually capable of blushing is a far better bet than some bar girl, and an awful lot of men choose the bar-girl. That said, there is a big division in Thai society, and "good girls" do not want to be a farang's vacation GF. It demotes them to hooker-like status.
>>>Frankly, within Thailand, I would be cautious with the women, at least as much as the Philippines.
But there is an interesting dynamic that I should explain. Everyone within Thailand is not really Thai. You may meet Khmer, (Cambodia)
Karen, (Both Thai and Burma) any number of small tribal groups, as well as Burmese. In the north of the country, especially in the
border areas you may meet Shan girls. They can be very beautiful and seductive, some stunning come-hither beauties sometimes.
Of course, if you fell for the wrong one, you would really regret it, but some of them , wow!
Photos below are not quite Wow!, but you get the idea. A lot of the nicest girls you may meet in Thailand may be non-Thai
girls. Often sweet, without the frequent Thai superiority complex. Worth paying attention to!
http://www.redbubble.com/people/johnspi ... l-thailand
http://www.redbubble.com/people/johnspi ... l-thailand
One big difference is that the Shan, though mostly north in Shan state, of what is Burma, actually consider themselves Thai, and the Thai king is considered their king. They speak very closely to Northern Thai, actually called Thai-yai in northern Thailand, or "Great Thai".
You will find them along the Thai border areas in places such as Chiang Rai, or depending on their legal status, just very close to the border in places like Mae Sai, a den of iniquity if there ever was one. Of course, now that Burma is opening up a bit, things may change, especially in small border towns like Tachilec. Keep in mind that as you get up into some of the border areas, especially into Shan state, malaria suppression is minimal and sometimes 80% of the population is infected, so how does that make your odds if you get those mesquito bites?
Background to help- Check out the movie Brokedown Palace, from 1999, it is on Netflix. It is based on a true story, and gives you an idea of what a mind-f**k much of SE Asia can be. "Every truth is a lie." Remember that line.
"A man has got to know his limitations." is a pretty good line to remember in Thailand and many other places.
Do a little brushing up on culture. Be very respectful of the Thai royal family in all cases, Royal's photos will be displayed everywhere, always at some high point in the room. You can be imprisoned for saying negative things about the Thai royals. Spend some time learning how to be seen as respectful. Never lose your temper even if you really really do need to choke the shit out of someone.
Never touch someone on the head, NEVER, it is very disrespectful...never sit with the bottom of your shoes exposed, once again, very disrespectful, inside the house they would be taken off anyway...these are a few of the obvious ones, read, learn, travel and experience.
Outwest