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Hi guys as of now Thailand is my Plan B in the Southeast Asia region, right next to Vietnam my Plan A. However, I've heard many horror stories about the dating scene in Thailand. Many websites I've visited say that the lower class women will likely scam you, while the upper class women will be extremely picky and normally only date/marry marry their own men (is this the same in other Southeast Asian countries?). Also heard it's getting more and more expensive to live in Thailand.

#2 in the Don'ts section in this link makes me feel a bit daunted:
http://voices.yahoo.com/dos-dont-dating ... tml?cat=41

If I do end up going to Thailand over Vietnam (I haven't done any work in talking to Thai ladies yet except for this 18 year old Thai girl from Pattaya that once contacted me on www.thaifriendly.com before both of us had to start subscribing), I doubt my ability to get a decent woman in the dating scene if what the websites say is true. Aim middle and upper class they won't likely pick you, aim lower they are likely desperate.

I know AiB will surely call me irrational and chicken once he sees this, but I really don't have experience.


Technically I am not what Thais call a 'farang', as I am Chinese by ethnicity.


So what to do if I end up entering the Thai dating scene so I can get a decent woman? Are Thais tolerant of age differences if the guy is only the same age or slightly younger as them? At my age I can't go for much younger girls because I'm as young as dating can get. Don't think going to a Thai high school and picking up girls over there would be really viable.


I know a Taiwanese-American guy on here that reported success with an Isaan woman, but I don't know if I am going to be that lucky. So what should I do? Get a Thai girl of Chinese descent?


How are the IQs of Thai people (i.e. knowledge, ability to hold a conversation) compared to China and Vietnam?



P.S. I know a Canadian man who taught math at an international school run by Catholics in Bangkok (he will go back there to retire, likely), and he told me a fairly well off Norwegian friend of his in Bangkok is married to a Thai woman who is a member of the Parliament.

PM Ladislav and Repatriate, Baoning! Both have said that Asian men have an advantage in Thai society, compared to other foreigners.

I spent 6 months in Bangkok and dated dozens? hundreds? thousands? of women there.

Bangkok was an awesome place to live.

Onto age difference, I dated from 20 - 37 but it was harder to go young there than it was in China. If youth is your priority the Philippines is best.

So which Thai lady should I have married...

Lady A was very beautiful and possibly a 10. Yet her previous bf cheated on her. And she was previously unmarried, despite being 36. So definite skeletons in her closet.

Lady B was really lovely but she had a domineering sister who wanted to get her hands on a farang's money. Also the family had the fat gene, so that could have been a problem further down the line.

Lady C was fun and we had lots of happy happy while I was there. She had kids so at least one other man found her attractive. Falcon met her and in fact I met her because of Falcon. On the downside she was rather too fond of beer Chang. Many Thai ladies become bar ladies because of problems, they don't develop problems after working in bars.

Lady D wouldn't go on a date without her bff - maybe they were lesbians?

Lady E was really lazy and probably a freelancer. But she seemed pretty rubbish at even going to a bar and finding a farang who wanted a good time. Well if you want a wife who will watch TV all day then just get a bar lady.

Most of the others were kind of lower-middle class and nice company, but just not very attractive or plain boring.

In general if a girl was hot it was hard to get a second date. But if she was 30+ and very hot then there was something fundamentally wrong there.

Oh, and the golden rule is: if you want a smart Asian woman, don't go to Thailand.

Anyone wants to repeat my Bangkok adventure, you can now get 1 year ED visas for 19000 baht/year - a very good deal (prolanguage.co.th)!

Hmmm where to go if I want a smart lady? A lot of guys on here believe a woman with brains automatically equals Westernized, feminist asshole. The Viet ladies I'm talking to as of now seem to have intelligence on par or greater than many Chinese ladies (at least in Beijing and Shanghai).

How to meet good ladies from Thailand/in Thailand? Will they still automatically see me as having money even if I am not a pure foreigner by their definition?