I spent two years in the Philippines also, and can say they are very different places. Philippines girls may also want a long term relationship and marriage, but they are also very live in the moment type people. If they get to spend a couple of weeks in fancy resorts and scuba diving they will still be happy overall, and move on.ComingSoon wrote:Yea adventurer I really dont want to hurt anyone. I guess being from the US I am used to getting easy sex without much commitment. If it is going to actually "ruin a girl for life" I aint interested in that. I do have a conscience. The Pinay, even if they are hoping for something permanent they seem to be ok with something short term if it benefits them. Not all of course but the ones I met and spent time with. As I said, China is looking like a bad idea.
Chinese women are not like this. They will have the next 50 years of your life planned within a week of meeting you. They know exactly how many kids they want, exactly what schools they will go to, what instruments they will study and all that. They are very practical, almost mechanical about such things. When that plan goes off the rails they can feel lost and without hope. I've seen it happen.
This is not to say you couldn't have a great time in Beijing or Shanghai. I love these places, they feel like being in the future or a science fiction movie. It is possible, not easy like Phils but possible, to meet girls for short time fun.If you're 53, though, it is not likely. As someone said, age gaps over ten years would be greatly frowned upon, and women in their 40's aren't out partying or at clubs.