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I can barely survive on twice that just for my beer money.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/world/20 ... challenge/

Turning 30 this year motivated Helena Liu to start saving for her own home, so she looked for ways to cut her costs.

A college lecturer in Henan province, Liu already lives rent-free in campus housing, but she was spending as much as $100 a month on food.

After three years of shopping sprees, a challenge to spend money on what I really need …
A steamed bun for breakfast: I heated a bun that I bought two days ago. It was very tasty, with pickled Chinese mustard stuffing. I’m loving it so, so much! Every time I have it, I feel I’ve found my comfort food: It tastes just like home.
Lunch time: I had lunch on campus. Yikes! It was so disgusting that even my rice bowl was screaming in shame. The leftover was proof of how awful it was. Even the chopsticks agreed that those food should be banned from entering human stomach. 12 yuan
Dinner in the evening: Went to Yuan’s Skewers with a friend. (Yummy! Liked it!)

Yes China women are more friendly and pliable and marriage minded. However even if they are poor, they are still picky. They aren't simple like Filipinas are. They are gonna analyze everything with a sharp mind, like how stable you are, how marriage minded you are, how financially stable you are, what your character is like, if you are husband material, etc. It's a headache. They analyze everything and aren't easygoing and relaxed like SE Asian women are. So even if they are poor, they still analyze everything with a Chinese mind and are hence very picky. I don't mean they are picky about your looks. Asian women aren't as hung on looks as white women are. I mean they are picky about a lot of other things, like your character, stability, financial status, etc. They look at long term and the big picture. So no, they aren't easy even if they are poor.

Winston wrote: ↑

December 3rd, 2024, 3:53 am

Yes China women are more friendly and pliable and marriage minded. However even if they are poor, they are still picky.
They aren't simple like Filipinas are.

.... your character, stability, financial status, etc. They look at long term and the big picture. So no, they aren't easy even if they are poor.

There are other criteria too, many Chinese women refuse to marry a foreigner, insist he must be Chinese or if willing to move to overseas, insist he must be overseas Chinese.

Families often have a strong influence to the daughter, even if she is not young anymore, demanding compensation from the groom for taking her away, and in many cases there is no consideration from where the groom should get or make such a lot of money, which is not even for the bride, but for her parents. etc. etc.

Men, including foreign men are not walking ATMs and often refuse to continue to date such women. China has a surplus of men who gave up dating at all and prefer a financially better troublefree life-style as a single - but there are also a huge number of single women with delusional demands.

No man is good for them while still young and when they are leftover passing 35+ and their old family members are passing away and they are alone, they start to cry about they cannot find a reasonable man - but no man is showing up and is interesting in them any more.

I have no compassion for such women.

They aren't simple like Filipinas are.

In case of dating and looking for a long-term relationship Filipinas are the better choice I think. A major concern when dating a foreign woman is surely communication and Chinese is not an easy language, neither spoken nor written if the man is from Western countries and wants to bring a woman back to his country or considers to settle down in China.

English knowledge is OK with Chinese women from Hongkong or other major Chinese cities, but surely not in areas which are known to be rural and with low income. However life in such major cities which are often crowded is not cheap at all. Do you have enough money for that?

Long-stay in China is a bit difficult and risky for foreigners, the government is not really welcoming you and there are a lot of restrictions.

All in all, China is not the best place in this world to look for a long-term relationship with a woman if you are a foreign man not familiar with China and not able to communicate in Chinese, just my opinion.

With China women living off of $70/month, are they more pliable now?

This headline is misleading I would say.

Even a simple young factory worker, female from a rural area, without much education, no working experience, but willing to do some regular job, makes nowadays around yuan 2500 to 3000,- (this will be approx. USD 340,- to 410,-)

Xue Yang, a 28-year-old woman in Shanghai, had a well-paid job as a financial adviser at a computer-software company until the end of last year. She bought an apartment with her husband, spent generously on travel and clothes, and never thought of tracking daily expenses. Then her company, struggling amid an industry-wide recession, let her go.

Living on severance pay and savings, she took a few months off to study. This summer, she was finally ready to start afresh — only to find the job market was dire.

So while applying for jobs, Xue joined the challenge to keep her monthly food budget under $70. Her husband, who works long hours, usually eats at his company cafeteria, meaning Xue most often cooks for herself.

She is married anyway, not alone. Her husband is not jobless.
During all these years she was working she had a good income but she was wasting money and did not think about her future and to consider to save up some money.

Such women are not poor and surely not more pliable now. She has much more money and is owning much more than merely USD 70,-.

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About food - this is true - if you eat only the cheapest of the cheap what low-income people eat - can be really cheap, surprisingly cheap, in many countries in Asia, also here in Japan.

However do you want such a life-style for yourself? Also be aware what you have other expenses and not only food - for housing, utilities, some medical expenses etc. which you cannot avoid easily.