Winston wrote: ↑April 10th, 2024, 12:44 am
True @publicduende. However I don't think that even middle class Filipinas are approachable. In the malls they also look closed and don't acknowledge my existence if I say hi to them. Yes they do often look stuck up. They look like they're better than everyone. They have that arrogant look on their face and body language and aura. I've seen it many times in the malls of angeles city and manila. They definitely don't look open to cold approach by a stranger.
@Winston
First of all, I don't understand why people including you obsess with the idea of flirting with Filipina girls in the malls. Everywhere in the world, girls are open to chitchatting and flirting when they are not busy doing something else. If they're in a mall, moving from A to B, they're not free. If they have something important to talk about with their friends at a coffee shop, they're not free. If they are behind a counter serving customers, not only they're not free, any interaction that goes beyond sales will get them scolded by their supervisors.
Of course a man can always break that barrier and trigger interest instantly, but there are conditions. One condition is that they have to be open for that, so they have to be either single, or in the mood for a little adventure. The other is that the man has to have something compelling that grabs their attention. Usually looks, maybe a super-confident attitude, or the right excuse to approach them.
Having said all this, I don't 50-yo out of shape men like me and you are exactly the kind of diversions these girls are looking for to break up their activities and give us the time of the day.
After so many years in the Philippines, indeed, so many years out and about trying to approach girls, you stil haven't got this simple memo. It can only get worse with age, and it will. I promise you.
You should get resigned and look for girls who are closer to our age: divorcees with kids, in their late 30s or 40s. Like anywhere in the world, those women know their chances are a lot thinner, so chances that they will be willing to entertain the likes of us are much higher. Alternatively, you always have the dating site, where at least you can see how the girl looks like and understand her level of desperation in wanting to hook up with a mature foreigner, perhaps in the hope of getting a life-saving relationship with him, or maybe some short-term benefit.
Winston wrote: ↑April 10th, 2024, 12:44 am
So why do so many people make such bogus videos like this? Furthermore why do they talk about game and social skills? If a woman isn't attracted to you those things aren't going to make any difference. You will still hit a wall. These videos give you the illusion of control that you don't really have. I hate that. It's deceptive and BS. Why is everyone on YouTube so full of BS?
Simple, Winnie, because optimism and happiness
sell clicks and subscribes. I don't spend enourmous amounts of time watching random videos on YT. Yet, I couldn't help realising how "young backpacker vlogger in the Philippines", or "mature vlogger settled in the Philippines" have become extremely common. True, most of these men seem to portray the Philippines, or at least the areas they visit, usually Manila, Cebu City, Davao or Dumaguete, as some tropical paradise with pretty girls willing to flirt with you can be found at every street corner.
Fortunately, some of the more honest of the lot have also started to make videos warning fellow men that it's ain't that rosy, after all. Yes, obviously no girl will stop and call the police if a foreigner is staring at them a little too much. Yet, it's mostly "see but not touch". Filipino people, especially those you meet in an urban context, are indeed getting out of poverty. Both the men and the women are less and less interested in hanging out with a foreigner "just because". This is exactly why it becomes even more evident that, when they do, it's because of some hidden agenda that comes right out pretty soon, usually money less usually help finding a job.
Winston wrote: ↑April 10th, 2024, 12:44 am
Btw sure they don't need us. but why can't Filipinas seek us for companionship, connection, chemistry, etc rather than financial need only? That's what I don't get. Why can't relationships be about chemistry and love like they show in the movies? How come Filipinas don't act like they do in Filipino romance movies? Lol
Well, because they have someone else providing that companionship, connection, chemistry. Isn't it a little arrogant of us to think that we are the only men who can satisfy a Filipina's needs? Just the fact that a Filipina can speak the same language with local men, have a shared cultural background and understanding, is something that puts any local man way, way above us.
Plus, there are definitely a lot fewer young and pretty girls than men perfectly capable to take care at them, so the cards are stacked against us foreigners to boot. Only the rock bottom girls, those who know won't get much more than a tricycle driver who will get them pregnant and leave immediately after, will actively look for a foreigner. This is a story we have been telling for years, decades in fact.