Would You Date A Single Mom?

[S_Parc]

That does not mean I would date them though, lol. Too risky. And a lion does not take care of the cubs of a rival; a lion EATS the cubs of a rival. But since I'm not interested in them, I am no rival.

Since I'm the only guy who my GF, now fiance, had ever been with, it's not in my cards either

And paradoxically, since I'm *technically* marrying a virgin, I'd also accomplished Tsar's dream but in a completely askance manner

[droid]

marrying a virgin... accomplished Tsar's dream

It's nuts that nowadays that's relegated to being just a dream

[The]

marrying a virgin... accomplished Tsar's dream

It's nuts that nowadays that's relegated to being just a dream

The problem is that Tsar can't talk....You have to be able to talk to find that virgin girl...

[droid]

I'm just saying that it's nuts there aren't many virgins left.

[The]

I'm just saying that it's nuts there aren't many virgins left.

Unless you convert to Islam...You can find a virgin bride there...

[S_Parc]

I'm just saying that it's nuts there aren't many virgins left.

Unless you convert to Islam...You can find a virgin bride there...

Right now, that's Tsar's best option.

Sitting around at home, venting on HA, isn't going to make someone a conversationalist.

Unfortunately, converting and moving to the middle east, may get him on some homeland security watchlist by hey, he could actually work as an informer, if he wants a career in intelligence.

[fightforlove]

Single mothers are good for fast f***s and little else. When it comes to serious relationship, having kids is a deal breaker full-stop. DO NOT EVER clean up some asshole's mess.

[droid]

DO NOT EVER clean up some asshole's mess.

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Damn right!

[The]

Single mothers are good for fast f***s and little else. When it comes to serious relationship, having kids is a deal breaker full-stop. DO NOT EVER clean up some asshole's mess.

Key word is "Asshole"......To paraphrase Obama...."She f***ed an asshole and she can keep her asshole"....

I want no part of it....

[Bane]

I'm finding that a huge chunk of them have cluster B personality disorders, Borderline being particularly prevalent. All the more reason not to bother.

[Ghost]

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[Yohan]

I would never date a single mother in Western countries due to legal concern. Too risky. If you stay with her together over a few months you might be subject to child support in case you split up. So-called palimony for the single mom might also be granted.

In Western countries single mothers while doing nothing are frequently earning more by claiming benefits, various social services and public support for free housing than full-time working men.

I see however no problem to date a single mother in Asia, for example in Philippines, Thailand or in Japan. Co-habitation is legally seen totally different from marriage in the law, the legal status of a single mother in these countries is rather poor and unprotected. Many of these women are quite thankful to see a foreign man is interested in them. There is no competiton by local Asian men who often reject single mothers. These women are often very willing to relocate to abroad.

[MrMan]

I'm just saying that it's nuts there aren't many virgins left.

Unless you convert to Islam...You can find a virgin bride there...

One need not do something that radical. I think the first post I made on happier abroad was the one I made about finding an Indonesian wife. I haven't been there in several years, but when I was there, maintaining virginity before marriage sure seemed to be the norm. Indonesians, at least on a philosophical level, believe wives are supposed to submit to their husbands. Whether it happens depends on the woman and what boundaries you set as a boyfriend and as a husband. It's also the culture for women to know how to cook and take care of the home. She'll likely want to have a baby in the first year if you marry one, though.

There are some really beautiful women in Indonesia. My wife is especially pretty for an Indonesia. When I went to college in the US, it seemed like there were a lot more girls that I'd be interested in for looks (8+) than in Indonesia. In a room of 100 girls of 20-something age in China, I'd probably find more attractive than in the same scenario in Indonesia. That's just my personal preference for looks. But I ended up with one who is very pleasing to my own eye. There are Chinese there, too, if that floats your boat, who are somewhat Indonesian culturally.

If you get a girl from Indonesia, IMO, it's probably a better idea to get one who had to wash other people's clothes growing up rather than one who had a maid wash her clothes. My guess is that she'd be more likely to be a hard worker. My wife was finishing up a degree when I married her. Her English wasn't that great when we started dating. Neither was my Indonesian. We learned from each other. She speaks very well now, though her grammar can be a bit rough at times, and she can be rather vague at times.

There would have to be other cultures where it is not too uncommon for women to be virgins at marriage. I'd imagine some Indian women still keep their virginity as well as some east Asian people-groups. South Koreans were segregated in school by gender throughout high school the last I heard. So if a man got a girlfriend right when she entered college, she'd likely be a virgin.

Even in the US, I've read that one in five never-married singles who are 'very religious' are virgins. They are out there. They should wear a white letter 'V' sown into all their clothes so they can easily be identified.

I hear that there were a couple of virgins on 'The Bachelor' this season. Maybe one of them is still available if they haven't been spoiled since the show was aired.

[Mr Natural]

I've never understood the allure of virgins, unless the guys who want them are insecure about themselves. Me, I figure no matter what her experience from virgin to bargirl or anywhere in between, I am the best thing that ever happened to her both in bed and out. And if by chance she doesn't think so, there are plenty of others who will. Of course this kind of thinking works much better outside western countries and especially well in 3rd world countries. Anyway to me virgins from anywhere are questionable for several reasons, 10x so if you are going to marry her. How do you know how she is going to be in bed? You don't and won't until it's too late. And what makes you think she won't always wonder if lots of other guys would be better? I could go on, and it's true that there are always some things you won't know for sure until after marriage, but behavior in the bedroom isn't one I would be willing to chance. Be careful what you wish for gentlemen......

[Mr Natural]

You'd be a fool not to a little sampling' before you put a ring on her finger. I would not marry a woman I haven't slept with.

But isn't that what all these guys wanting virgins are talking about doing? At least in the majority of cases, if she hasn't given it up to anyone else before marriage ........