Being a White Woman in Japan

[jamesbond]

I initially proposed that her American way of carrying herself might make her unattractive to Japanese men. I'm talking about things like body language, levels of assertiveness and over-the-top expressiveness. It may be that most Japanese men simply don't know how to take a girl like that since they are used to dealing with Japanese women who tend to be much more reserved and are simply put off by Ani's effusive personality before any romance can take off. As I mentioned in my original post, Ani might not even be aware of this factor. She might be blind to cultural differences surrounding dating and expected male and female behavior. This might have left her at a severe disadvantage when it comes to dating relationship-minded Japanese men despite her attractive appearance.

But it seems like Ani has never been able to find a boyfriend in the US either. In the last video which @jamesbond posted she says that she never had a relationship in high school or college. Ever since she returned to the US some five years ago she still hasn't found a boyfriend. In her most recent video from 2019 she talks about how she found Jesus and how Jesus on the cross always has his arms open to welcome her in a loving embrace but her demeanor reeks of loneliness. She seems like a misfit who cannot find romance anywhere. I've watched a handful of her videos and it seems obvious to me that she has quite an eccentric personality even by US standards. In my experience most people tend not to like eccentricity. They find eccentric individuals strange or too over the top or too difficult to understand and therefore prefer to keep some degree of distance. This might be the real reason for which Ani is unable to find a boyfriend.

Some people might argue that the girl must be a bitch and have some sort of personality disorder if she is unable to find a boyfriend even in the US but I don't think that that's a good argument. Many women in the US are total bitches and treat everybody around them like complete garbage but they are still able to attract men who will put up with them out of desperation. That even includes women in their 30s. For me the undesirable eccentricity argument makes more sense. Ani mostly likely cannot attract a guy because she is just too different and weird for most people.

About midway through this video she goes into a retail store that sells sex toys and sexy underwear. At the very end of the video she explains one of the reasons why she really wants a boyfriend. She turns 38 this year and still lives at home, she basically has no chance of getting a boyfriend and has almost zero chance of ever getting married or having children. She most likely will be alone her whole life.

[Cornfed]

In the last video she posted 2 years ago she was LARPing as a Christian, presumably in an insanely pathetic attempt to get a traditionally minded man to marry her. She may well have already been found half decomposed surrounded by cats and empty wine casks.

[Lucas88]

About midway through this video she goes into a retail store that sells sex toys and sexy underwear. At the very end of the video she explains one of the reasons why she really wants a boyfriend. She turns 38 this year and still lives at home, she basically has no chance of getting a boyfriend and has almost zero chance of ever getting married or having children. She most likely will be alone her whole life.

I'm pretty sure she said that about the sexy underwear as a joke. In another video she talks about how she wants to be loved and have a family of her own. A pretty normal desire for a female.

As I mentioned before, Ani has quite an eccentric personality. I don't think she knows how to act around other people either. It seems that in order to compensate for this lack of social know-how she cranks her eccentric traits up to eleven in an attempt to be perceived as comical or fun. But this only serves to put people off her since most normies dislike or feel uncomfortable around eccentric people. Some might find eccentric people amusing and gleefully observe them from afar as though they were a circus act but few actually want to get close to an eccentric person and most prefer to maintain some level of distance. I understand this quite well. I too am naturally eccentric and have to make an effort to tone it down a little and act normal when dealing with strangers. I've also not had many girlfriends except for a pair of Latinas as an adult. I'm not ugly either. I've always been in shape.

I know that some forum members are hating on her due to their aversion towards Western women and their assumption that most Western women are bad but I perceive that as far as Western women go she is probably on the more harmless side.

I wish her all the best in her quest to find a boyfriend or a husband.

[Cornfed]

I wish her all the best in her quest to find a boyfriend or a husband.

She is too old for that.

[WilliamSmith]

I didn't check anything out about these specific women, but there isn't necessarily anything wrong with a lot of the women (in Japan or elsewhere) who have never had a boyfriend: There is unprecedented levels of social alienation and dysfunction these days in the 'West' as well as in Japan.

I think it's probably still not quite as bad there, but Japan also already was a "creature of its own" in terms of their social dynamics, and they had those Hikikomori 引きこもり extreme social introverted shut-ins phenomenon there a long time before covid, globohomo and transgenderism, and other stuff that's made 'Western' societies and cultures pretty much unbearable overall (including impacting alienation between men and women).

You guys find Yuta Aoki's book about mixed dating in Japan interesting:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00SD ... tkin_p1_i0

I didn't finish the whole thing yet but it had some interesting anecdotes from all different kinds of people including white and black women going after Japanese men. (There was also one of those white men who I mentioned who is the type that takes the basic gentlemanly masculinity approach that a lot of Japanese women love, and he had notched up over 100 Japanese women if I remember rightly at the publication date, .)

I'm not trying to knock Japanese men (who I actually do respect overall, especially their ultra-nationalists ), but frankly with the strong social introversion there (not to mention too much pervy shit from their porno and sex industry subculture) they do some weird shit, in addition to being less assertive about approaching women in general:
One of the black girls who landed a Japanese husband for example said he has problems communicating and he would even have spats of becoming bashful about nudity even in private.
The kind of beta male behavior in some of the other anecdotes in that books is pretty amazing and shows what a surprise it can be what some women will settle for, LOL.

Also, sorry if it comes across as too harsh, but the men's rights betas always talking about how women supposedly all have an army of "high SMV" men trying to sweep them off their feet via dating apps are full of BS, and just outright repeating falsehoods when they say that, even if the apps do lead to a lot of "hookups."
But I've known and noticed a lot of women who weren't getting much attention from men at all. A lot of men these days are just as nasty and messed up as the worst of the women too. I've seen it both ways: There's a lot of lowlife women too, but a lot of the single moms I've seen (both white and black ones, by the way) often had the father of their child a guy she gave more than a fair shake to for awhile, but he was a useless lazy drip who'd smoke pot all the time, treat her badly, and even spend her money and laze around her apartment until the women threw out the worthless men.
So I still agree with a lot of you MGTOW guys you shouldn't let yourself be treated like !@#$ by the bad types of women, and agree Western 'liberal' culture's down the drain and leaving to SE Asia or wherever you guys find greener pasture is great, but it's definitely a 2-way thing where it's not always the women's fault at all.

Also from studying approaching women, there's LOTS of times a guy who learns how to do a good job with approaches and conversation starting + general dating skills to follow up will get a girlfriend he thought was way too hot for him, and she unsurprisingly turns out to have received a lot of sexual looks and remarks, but surprisingly very little of guys actually approaching and trying to ask her on dates.

I've heard variations of stories like that more than once over decades of paying attention to this kind of thing and reading the literature on scoring with women. I recall just seeing another story like that on some not especially masculine seeming British guy who was interviewed by Kezia Noble, and he was another one who approached some Eastern European model looking chick on the street, and she was one of these cases who gets catcalls or the occasional drunken bar come-on, but almost no one approaching to ask her on a date.
Some hot girls, on the other hand, do obviously have a small army of men after them, but just pointing out an indisputable fact that you really never know what level of attention each girl gets, they all have different stories and some very hot ones get surprisingly little attention even if there's nothing wrong with them.

[jamesbond]

I wish her all the best in her quest to find a boyfriend or a husband.

She is too old for that.

I agree, statistically speaking she has a 3% chance of getting married. And as far as getting a boyfriend, if a 38 year old woman has never had a boyfriend, she probably never will. It's really odd that an attractive American woman by the age of 38 has never had a boyfriend.

She is going to have a hard time meeting men simply because it's a red flag that not only has she never had a boyfriend at age 38 but she also is still living at home. I am sure she feels like a complete loser at this time in her life. She looks attractive for her age but just wait until she turns 40, then it's game over as far as getting into a relationship with a guy.

This is an interesting video she made a while ago. She is traveling from Tokyo to Osaka for her job and mentions at the end of the video that she still does not have a boyfriend.

[OutcastedPhilosopher]

I wish her all the best in her quest to find a boyfriend or a husband.

She is too old for that.

I agree, statistically speaking she has a 3% chance of getting married. And as far as getting a boyfriend, if a 38 year old woman has never had a boyfriend, she probably never will. It's really odd that an attractive American woman by the age of 38 has never had a boyfriend.

She is going to have a hard time meeting men simply because it's a red flag that not only has she never had a boyfriend at age 38 but she also is still living at home. I am sure she feels like a complete loser at this time in her life. She looks attractive for her age but just wait until she turns 40, then it's game over as far as getting into a relationship with a guy.

This is an interesting video she made a while ago. She is traveling from Tokyo to Osaka for her job and mentions at the end of the video that she still does not have a boyfriend.

Okay, something just seems off here. Never had a boyfriend? So is she a virgin or not?

If not, then she is just getting sex without commitment? Seems a bit strange as most women don't just have unsolicited sex and they can get a boyfriend for a few months unless they are just absolutely terrible to be around.

My guess is she has no idea how to attract a man which is very common for american women who expect the man to do everything.

Very odd situation.

[jamesbond]

Okay, something just seems off here. Never had a boyfriend? So is she a virgin or not?

If not, then she is just getting sex without commitment? Seems a bit strange as most women don't just have unsolicited sex and they can get a boyfriend for a few months unless they are just absolutely terrible to be around.

My guess is she has no idea how to attract a man which is very common for american women who expect the man to do everything.

Very odd situation.

I don't think she is a virgin, I am sure she has had sex at least once in her life (probably with a guy she dated a few times). She's never been in a relationship with a guy but that does not mean she is a virgin.

It's extremely rare to find a 38 year old woman in America who is a virgin, your more likely to win the lottery than meet a 38 year old American woman who is a virgin!

My guess is she does not know how to meet and attract a man which is common for women in the United States who expect men to do all the pursuing.

[jamesbond]

She says she is a Christian and has never had a boyfriend so you would assume she is a virgin but I doubt it. How many 38 year old women in the US are virgins? In this video she confesses that she is a big fan of a boy band in Japan.

[jamesbond]

In the last video she posted 2 years ago she was LARPing as a Christian, presumably in an insanely pathetic attempt to get a traditionally minded man to marry her.

There are some women who decide to become 'born again Christians' in their late 20's or early 30's because they are looking for a husband. Some of these women have slept around quite a bit and now they want to find a man to marry them. She became a 'born again Christian' at age 31, now she turns 38 this year, so time is running out on her in her attempt to find a husband and start a family.

[Yohan]

@Lucas88

I'm not a fan of the Anglosphere or Western women either and also recognize that the dating culture in the US and much of Western Europe is extremely toxic but at the same time I don't wish to tar all Western women with the same brush since I believe that there are cases of good people who simply suffer due to the toxic culture which surrounds them. I was also rejected by women in my home country but I don't hold that against all Western women and certainly don't want them all to suffer because of it. I see no need to be that petty.

The dating scene in Western countries is just broken and many men are worried about legal concern, it's not only about approaching women for a relationship, but also about what might happen if the relationship is falling apart - even in case you are not married, even in case children with her and you are not the biological father etc. Too much headache, simply said. Why to waste your time...

I wrote many comments since years explaining 'hate' is a way to nowhere for a man, if you are badly treated by Western women - hate is pointing somehow to self-destruction - harming yourself.

The best you can do is to move on, try to move far away from people - not only from those women, but also from certain men who sozialize with them.
Try it somewhere else, look for a new start with entirely new people. As you said, do not tar every woman with the same brush.

I moved away, from Europe to Asia, more than 4 decades ago, and never come back, no regret, but also no hate...

I don't hate Western women, but I also do not feel pity for them if something is going wrong, even not if something is going seriously wrong. I only say to these crybabies - 'he should not do this to me' etc. - they should not socialize with bad-boys and should reconsider their criteria how they choose their male friends.

Example of a stupid and crazy woman you can find here, you cannot help such idiot females....
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/arti ... r-met.html
British mother, 32, who's engaged to a US prisoner serving 40 years for murder, despite never meeting, says she was won over by his 'beautiful' letters and poems

Can this man not find another woman? What does she expect, 59 year old?

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/arti ... -date.html
Who'll find love on our blind date? This week it's Julie, 59, and Marc, 65 but will romance be on the cards?

Example of 'poor broken girl' and of course all is the fault of the boys...
of course nothing mentioned about her father and of course comment section is closed.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/arti ... hotos.html
Roxy was 13 when she was pressured into sending a nude selfie to a boy at school. The fallout almost destroyed her and her family