The problem is one can never be satisfied..

lookin4happiness · Post by **lookin4happiness** » April 28th, 2012, 6:45 am

I think it's true. When one cannot get women one feels bad and craves sex... But even then when one can get women, gets sex, and women are interested.. one can never feel completely satisfied with what ones has or something always goes wrong with ones gf/wife and then things change.... This is a big problem and causes endless suffering because one is always acting like a person crazed by desire.. especially as a man. It is amazing what men will do to get women! We jump through hoops and are willing to sacrifice many hours of time and even hard earned dollars and we can never get enough of these games and struggles! This is the problem with the human condition!!!

Jackal · Post by **Jackal** » April 28th, 2012, 7:47 am

Yeah, yeah, this is basically the Buddha's observation that desire causes suffering.
The antidote is to let your mind be blissfully at ease resting in its own nature, free from all mundane concerns and problems.

Banano · Post by **Banano** » April 28th, 2012, 7:53 am

Sometimes i think world is living hell, humans are never happy and always want more of money, p***y and they get it they want even more.
Budha was rite, life is suffering caused by never ending desire and greed ,he could have any p***y he wanted but chose to live like a monk. God bless him.

Banano · Post by **Banano** » April 28th, 2012, 7:59 am

We need Buddhism to take over the world

boycottamericanwomen · April 28th, 2012, 8:55 am

THat is true, one can never be satisfied materially. You may eat many nice meals, have sex with many hot women, and it will never be enough.

That is because we are SOUL, we are not the material body. If you want satisfaction, try to find SPIRITUAL satisfaction. Then you will understand the meaning of overflowing ecstatic satisfaction. Spiritual happiness is a trillion times greater than any material happiness.

Banano · Post by **Banano** » April 28th, 2012, 9:05 am

Buddha said:

"Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it. Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations. Do not believe anything because it is spoken and rumored by many. Do not believe in anything because it is written in your religious books. Do not believe in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders. But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and the benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it."

C.J. · Post by **C.J.** » April 28th, 2012, 3:58 pm

I'd rather have Islam be the world religion. Much nicer...

It's a sad state of affairs. When one cannot rest their soul, because they no longer have one. Westerners already have one foot in their grave...

Having a desire for anything is natural. The suffering comes when you try to do too much at once.

Boner_Jones · Post by **Boner_Jones** » April 28th, 2012, 5:01 pm

Ummmmm.... i know I'm gonna sound like a douche for saying this but...

what if you have a loving wife and family which takes care of your higher deeper needs...

but also have a gf or 2 on the side? Kinda like having one foot each in both worlds...

if this violates your moral code, well... we will always have desires, always be tormented, by conflict and indecision... we can't all become budhists... or family men. Sometimes we have to be ruthlessly pragmatic...

C.J. · Post by **C.J.** » April 28th, 2012, 6:17 pm

I have no need for such... indecisiveness!

I'm content with having a wife and[not necessarily] kids. Heck, I'm content without one.

DistanceRunner · Post by **DistanceRunner** » April 28th, 2012, 6:27 pm

lookin4happiness wrote:I think it's true. When one cannot get women one feels bad and craves sex... But even then when one can get women, gets sex, and women are interested.. one can never feel completely satisfied with what ones has or something always goes wrong with ones gf/wife and then things change.... This is a big problem and causes endless suffering because one is always acting like a person crazed by desire.. especially as a man. It is amazing what men will do to get women! We jump through hoops and are willing to sacrifice many hours of time and even hard earned dollars and we can never get enough of these games and struggles! This is the problem with the human condition!!!

I can be satisfied with the minimum things needed. You have to be aware that things are the way they are today because the people of the United States have lived beyond their means.

djfourmoney · Post by **djfourmoney** » April 28th, 2012, 11:03 pm

All you idealogs need to give it a rest with whatever religion needs to be the "world's religion". No wonder some of you are single with your outlandish views on society.

I need one woman that's always been the case. I never desired to have many women or any of that bs.

Again if you don't want to have kids, THEN DON'T nobody is forcing you. This mindset however put Western Europe in a bind. There many people that feel this way and guess what?

Low birth rates and the rise of Right Wing Populism

Have fun with that.

C.J. · Post by **C.J.** » April 29th, 2012, 3:59 pm

djfourmoney wrote:All you idealogs need to give it a rest with whatever religion needs to be the "world's religion". No wonder some of you are single with your outlandish views on society.

Man, stop hatin'! I choose to be single, thank you very much!

sushiman · Post by **sushiman** » April 29th, 2012, 4:39 pm

Try some meditation.

Jackal · Post by **Jackal** » April 30th, 2012, 8:31 am

Boner_Jones wrote:Ummmmm.... i know I'm gonna sound like a douche for saying this but...

what if you have a loving wife and family which takes care of your higher deeper needs...

but also have a gf or 2 on the side? Kinda like having one foot each in both worlds...

if this violates your moral code, well... we will always have desires, always be tormented, by conflict and indecision... we can't all become budhists... or family men. Sometimes we have to be ruthlessly pragmatic...

But perhaps if you treat your wife and girlfriends well, you could be kindly pragmatic! lol

Anyway, we're just chatting here. We're not telling anyone what to do with their lives.

PeterAndrewNolan · Post by **PeterAndrewNolan** » April 30th, 2012, 9:27 am

lookin4happiness wrote:I think it's true. When one cannot get women one feels bad and craves sex... But even then when one can get women, gets sex, and women are interested.. one can never feel completely satisfied with what ones has or something always goes wrong with ones gf/wife and then things change.... This is a big problem and causes endless suffering because one is always acting like a person crazed by desire.. especially as a man. It is amazing what men will do to get women! We jump through hoops and are willing to sacrifice many hours of time and even hard earned dollars and we can never get enough of these games and struggles! This is the problem with the human condition!!!

lookin4happiness,
I did the Landmark Forum in 95 and the follow on advanced class and self expression and leadership program. I also assisted a lot around Landmark. I can assure you that for me this is the basis for choosing to be happy. Happiness is a choice you make from moment to moment. Being "satisfied" is something you CHOOSE to be from moment to moment.

I do not suffer from any of these driven behaviours and I have not suffered from them since 95.

This is one of the MAJOR mistakes people make about me when trying to relate to me. They ASSUME I have the same driven behaviours as other people and I do not. I am a very "transformed" human being. I do WANT to have a woman in my life that I can be close to but I do not NEED one. There is a BIG difference between those two things.

I view my life as being perfect whole and complete just exactly the way it is. I viewed it like this even when my wife was being nasty to me. Her being nasty to me was nothing to do with me and I knew it.

Now...I was pretty disappointed in Jennifer when she chose to abuse my former children but that was HER choice...not mine.

I keep telling people I am happier than I have ever been. Those who are around me know this to be true. If you want to be satisfied choose to be satisfied. If you want to be happy choose to be happy. It is a choice you can make instant to instant.

By the way...to be as transformed a man as me takes MAJOR commitment to transforming yourself from your present human condition as the "default" and "programmed" version of a human being into a "post curriculum for living" type of person. Believe me. It was NOT EASY to face myself and to face my humanity and to deal with it. I learned all sorts of things during my time being around Landmark. There is simply no better way to train yourself to be happy that I know of. But do not think it is trivial. It is not.

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