To me, this picture of Brazilian volleyball players Maria and Carolina Salgado from 2008 would be the pinnacle of physical beauty. They are 25 and 21 in this picture; 37 and 32 now.
Ideal physical traits:
- Taller than average female height (which for the USA is 5'4" or 163 cm). I'm 5'6" (168 cm) and don't mind at all if my girl is taller than me; I think I'd prefer it actually if she had a couple of inches on me.
- Physically fit and takes care of herself. I'm not expecting Olympic athlete caliber of fitness or athleticism, but she shouldn't be anything close to 300 pounds.
- I can be attracted to women of any race, though my favourite skin tone would be naturally tan; think of the stereotypical (though not necessarily actual) image of people from Spain or Greece.
- Similarly, I can be attracted to women of any reasonable hair colour (i.e. not freaky dyed colours, no blue or green or bright red or obviously fake blonde). The tall, blonde stereotype associated with Scandinavia can be hugely attractive, as can fair or tan skin with brown hair, or brown or black skin and black hair.
- I usually don't look at breasts or buttocks, and having gag boobs is a turnoff. I am, however, a leg guy.
- She should dress and present herself well. Casual clothes are more than acceptable, but it shouldn't look every day like she just rolled out of bed and doesn't care anymore.
- No gross piercings. Ears are fine, but not nose, eyebrow, mouth, etc.
- Genuinely a kind person and committed to the people she cares about. Not the kind of two-faced or sometimes-nice-sometimes-not that's so common among AWs.
- Intelligent so we can have conversations on the same level with each other, but not geeky to the point of lacking social skills.
- Loves adventure and being outside and seeing/doing new things. I want my zest for life to be matched.
- Fiercely loyal and not promiscuous. Ideally a virgin until marriage, and without 20+ ex-boyfriends.
- I'm not into PDA, and if my girl was always trying to hold my hand and make out with me in public places, I'd be a bit uncomfortable.
- Music is important to me, and it's important that we can like or at least tolerate each other's preferred music styles. If she is closed-minded, listens to exclusively trashy rap music, and has never heard of Howard Jones or Sammy Hagar, that to me is often just a sign for other incompatibility.
- A big one for me: not addicted to her cell phone or other device of that sort. I need to know I'm more important than the randos she's Snapchatting.
- Has her own opinions about the world, and compatible with mine as well; doesn't just always believe what certain celebrities spout off.
- Likes me for who I am, not for my money or other such attributes.
- The entitled, "swipe left if you're under 6' tall or make under $75K" attitude seen so often on dating sites.
- Looks or personality that are so obviously fake it's not even funny.
- Inability to think for herself.
- In general, acting like a spoiled princess.
- Starting drama at every opportunity over really minor things.
- Blatant racism, sexism, Nazism, or bigotry. I don't care if it's the white supremacist form of racism or the PC, "white people suck" form of racism; it's still racism.
- Having an ulterior motive. Don't try acting like my friend if you have no interest in being my friend. Don't be a gold-digger and just use me for money.
- Being really overweight and proud of it/making no effort to change.