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[Winston]

Here's a taboo observation that I've consistently noticed that isn't really talked about publicly because it's taboo.

Personality conflicts: America vs. other countries

I've also realized that personality conflicts are far more prevalent in America than in other countries. As you know, most Americans can't be roommates or travel together because their personalities are toxic in that they cannot stand each other for very long. Even friends can't tolerate each other for long if they spend too much time together, even a few consecutive days. Why is that? That's not the norm in other countries.

In America, people get on each other's nerves more than they do in other countries for some reason. Friends, families, couples, colleagues, and employers/employees in the USA all suffer highly from personality conflicts, much more than they do in Asian countries. That's for sure. It's as if the American personality/ego/psyche is somehow more toxic and radioactive than people in the rest of the world, relatively that is.

In Asia, roommates seem to get along harmoniously without effort. Friends who travel together don't get on each other's nerves like they do in the US. And families do not shout at each other everyday like many families do in America do. People are more humble and modest, and do not seem to have toxic personalities to the degree that people in America do.

Any of you notice this? Why is this?

[NinjaPuppy]

We Americans seem to have very short fuses.

[Ava Paige]

[Winston]

Ava Paige,
It's taboo because:

1. The media doesn't talk about this, not even the alternative media.
2. It's impolite and not politically correct to bring up this kind of comparison in a public setting.
3. No one really talks about this outside of my site.
4. It's taboo to draw comparisons in a way that makes people in other countries better than our own. It's more permissible to cite economic advantages overseas, but when you compare people, it's taboo.

If you don't believe me, try bringing up this comparison at a party or at work and see what kind of reaction you get. There are unspoken rules against this sort of thing.

Yes you are right that Americans are taught to voice their opinions more than in Asia. But also, we grow up in a toxic society where nearly everyone has baggage and issues and is insecure. And mental illness in America is the highest in the world. So that makes our personalities toxic as well. How come social anxiety and asperger's are not a problem in Europe or Asia?

There are tons of problems that exist only in America. It's just taboo to talk about them because we are taught to blame ourselves for social/psychological problems, not society. This fallaciously assumes that society is sane and healthy, which is the furthest from the truth.

"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society." - Jiddu Krishnamurti

[Riyko]

Maybe it's the person that is the problem. I'm the perfect example so i'm going with me. While I was in college I had 3 out of 8 roommates whom I got along greatly with and would room with them again if I could. The problem is i'm set in my ways and things bother me like no other. Here's my list of things that bothered me, but was perfectly acceptable to my roommates. This was all while studying up in Canada.

My roommates consisted of at different times of course people from these countries (Canada, India, Qatar)
1. the smell of the food my indian roommates cooked as well as they using my stuff without asking
2. inviting people over without asking if it's okay first (this was both indians and canadians), i'm not ok with it as even though we had separate rooms it's a very rude thing to do. I always let my roommates know and ask if it's okay.
3. having sex while i'm in the room trying to study, sleep, living where i'm paying for, etc. I absolutely hate the sound of people having sex, i think it shouldn't be allowed in dorm rooms period!

[Winston]

Riyko,
Sure the person is a factor too. But so is the location and culture. There are individual differences and there are group/regional differences as well.

You were up in Canada, not America, and your roommates weren't American. So this example doesn't really apply. Try having American roommates in America, esp in CA or NY, and you'll see what I mean.

Are you Canadian?

So you were sharing the same dorm room with these people? I was talking about sharing apartments where you live in separate rooms.

Why do you hate the sound of people having sex so much? lol. Does it make you jealous if you're not having it too? lol. Or does it make you horny against your will to hear it? lol.

[Renata]