Ladies Discussion Forum

[Johnny1975]

Do you know how lucky you are not to have the problems that we have, when it comes to dating? What do you think of the main site and forum?

[BellaRuth]

I wrote out about three rambling essays to this struggled to answer properly, so I'm going to start over.

What problems do you think men face when it comes to dating that women don't have to deal with?

Is there anything in particular about the main site and forum you have in mind?

This might help me be more concise so I don't end up boring you to death with a million different tangents.

[Johnny1975]

[Winston]

I think what he means, Bella, is that a typical average woman can get dates a lot easier than an average man can, especially in the Western world. They also have more choices in that they have many admirers vying for their affections.

So in that sense, it looks like women have the upper hand and are better off in that they have more choices than men do.

However, when I talk about this with female friends, they usually tell me that they don't see it as much of an advantage because the choices that they usually have, or the guys who admire them, are usually of low quality, and not the kind that they want.

Oh well. Life is not perfect. We all feel that we are not getting what we want and that what we have is not enough. Even the rich and beautiful feel that way.

But one thing's for sure. If a woman wants to sleep with someone, she can find a bed partner anytime she wants, a thousand times easier than a guy can. That's for sure. However, women do not consider that to be anything special to be glad about. lol

The problem here is that men see dating in terms of numbers and quantity, with left-brained linear thinking, while women focus on quality of relationship and chemistry. Both genders assume that the other thinks the same way it does.

[Renata]

[Johnny1975]

Bella, dating should be straightforward and natural. But we have to put up with bitch shields, cockblocking, and flaking. Because we are the pursuers, we don't have as many options as you do. Opportunities to meet women don't just fall on our laps, usually. So when we get one, we try not to mess it up. Therefore we don't do those things (flaking, etc). Women abuse their position of (apparent) power by playing games to boost their egos. All of this can apply to all women in general, but even more so with western women, because they are generally bitchier, and nastier, and less appreciative of male company, as well as less able to relate to the opposite sex.

When I ask about the main forum, I'm asking what you make of the general opinions that people there have about western females.

[Johnny1975]

[BellaRuth]

[Johnny1975]

[BellaRuth]

[Johnny1975]

What do you mean you can't relate to how I see women? Do you think it's bad how I see them?

[BellaRuth]

[q7677]

[Winston]

Bella,
The person above has a good point that I forgot to make.

If you post a profile with your picture on a popular dating site like PlentyofFish or OkCupid or Match.com, for example, you will get MANY responses a day from guys who are interested in you.

But try putting up a profile of an average to decent looking guy on there, and see how many responses you get.

The difference will be staggering. I promise you, if you do the experiment, you will see what I mean.

Now doesn't that speak volumes?

[BellaRuth]