I have my limits as well.MarcosZeitola wrote:...as clearly he is a family-oriented individual otherwise; he wouldn't click with his stepdaughter the way he does, if he wasn't.
Most other stepchildren from other women would probably annoy me. I do not think I would want to have a stepchild who does not physically resemble me very much. I am not just going to raise any random malnourished little brown kid. And I am not raising any non-Asian kid, no matter how much I like non-Asian people in general. It's just in our instincts to want to have family members resemble ourselves, whether adoptive or not.
Everyone thinks she is my child, especially when they see me next to her mother and me. Many people even say that she resembles me more than her mother. That seriously does a lot to make us feel like we're "authentic." No one suspects that she is non-biological unless someone explicitly says so.
This girl is a once-in-a-lifetime exception. I am just as close to her as I am to her mother. In fact, I met the little girl before I met her mother, when she was playing around in the neighborhood. She introduced me to her mother, and that was how it began. She is very intelligent, and even tells her mother that she is the one who chose to bring me into their lives. Now how many kindergarten kids get to feel like they chose their own stepdads?
There is a very small chance of this kind of stepfather-stepchild relationship happening. Many of the stepfathering / stepchildren articles that I read on the article simply didn't apply in my case.
Fortunately, I don't have these issues at all. This girl does not feel like I am taking attention away from her mother. The girl is clearly possessive of me and wants me to spend time with her. I am her father figure, period.you won't have to compete for the child's affection, there will not be rival father figures
Now in most other stepfather-stepchild stories, you just don't see all the above happening. I most likely wouldn't accept being in a typical stepfamily scenario. But the one I'm in is likely much more exceptional. This is the only reason that I actually feel blessed to be in such a situation.