publicduende wrote:Ghost wrote:publicduende wrote:Virginity is an overrated "virtue".
Then so is emotional bonding with a spouse for a lifetime.
This is why I dislike liberal types. They throw out thousands of years of time and history tested tradition with a single line.
Yeah, only, emotional bonding will give the couple a direct benefit on all counts, for as long as it lasts, while having a "virgin bride" means months, if not years, of mediocre sexual life while she gradually gets to grips to her sexuality.
Sex is a physical form of communication, and as such it has a vocabulary that both partners need to be acquainted with, when not master. What's "liberal" in a man's desire to have sex with a woman who knows how to "speak" sex? Hundred of years ago the Indians and Japanese families would give their newlywed daughters illustrated books on how to please their men. In modern times, I would say a little sexual practice wouldn't hurt.
Why are you guys only able to contemplate the extreme scenarios of the innocent virgin bride and the 100-sex partner seasoned slut? You really think there can be nothing in between?
I agree that sex is a physical form of communication. A virgin is able to communicate that she has commitment and her man is her one and only. It's a communication that tradition reserved for a couple to learn together.
Between white and black there are shades of grey. Even the lightest shade of grey isn't white, even if that lightest shade of grey even if society has declared it the "new" white. Grey is more or less a lighter shade of black. Once a girl has lost her virginity there is no in between. The girl who lost her virginity in placed on a certain level which ranges from one partner to the 100 partner more slut.
I do understand it's not a major deal for many men. Equality is also one reason because if a man already has partners then he could overlook a few on the woman's end. Some men, especially the men that are virgins couldn't accept a girl who wasn't a virgin. Who would be the "man" in the relationship? The virgin man or the woman with a sex history? The woman would be the "man" in that relationship.
Many people in society don't recognize the value of marriage to a virgin because all the negative social changes has formed all people to become accustomed to the status quo of accepting a girl's sexual history. When I was a teenager I didn't think it was a big deal if a girl had a "history" but because that's only because I was under the influence of propaganda, secular social programming (of the feminists and liberals), and I was unaware of everything I know now. Over the years I came to see that virgin girls were special, all the benefits and virtues those girls have, and that they have the ability to bond. Beginning at age 18 that is when I felt very strongly on the issue and by age 20 I realized I could only be in a relationship with a virgin. The eyes of virgins have a warmth and innocence in them which reflects their ability to love and bond.
Feminism persuades men to believe it doesn't matter if a woman has a sexual history. That men who demand their wife be a virgin are misogynists. The men who demand virginity in a bride are more likely to be righteous, respectful of women, and do all they can to make a future with their wife.
Throughout history and in cultures where men could have multiple wives they would expect each wife to be a virgin. It was because they wanted to share a bond with each wife and they would be providing for all their wives. Most men demanded a virgin. A very small minority of men would accept marriage to a woman who wasn't a virgin. Throughout history there was always a small group of woman who would make a lifestyle off of harlotry and they were not respected. They were looked down upon and all the respectable people treated them like trash. Men would go into the brothels for an easy lay then leave, never would they consider marrying such a woman because she wasn't worthy of their respect. Fast-forward to a feminist America and a world that is constantly receiving the disseminated feministic liberal American propaganda and harlotry is the norm.
THE DESTRUCTION OF MARRIAGE PRECEDES THE DEATH OF A CULTURE
Sociologists and anthropologists who have studied the death of civilizations have found that rampant sexual immorality, feminism, and homosexuality have been factors in destroying nations.
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1402568/posts